DEAR BELLA: My girlfriend left me; she thinks I’m obsessive


I can’t get over this girl. And maybe you can help me. We have been apart for 6 months now but it’s almost like I can’t live without her.

She thinks I am obsessive and maybe I am a little because I wouldn’t allow her to be on the phone with other people past 9 pm.

I also had her stop eating bread and sugar because she was getting a little chubby.

I honestly do those things to help her. She was 150 pounds and put on 2 pounds in a week so I had to take measures.

She was also offended when I asked her to wear normal cloths and not anything designer because these people are in cults.

Bella it is because I love her. She is my all. And when you love somebody you mold them into who you want them to become.

So, six months ago I asked her to get off Facebook and Instagram. She thought it was because I didn’t want her to have friends.

It’s really not. It is because she doesn’t understand how social media can affect her life.

Because of that she left me. Bella, she left me but I haven’t left her. I still call her everyday even if she doesn’t reply. I text her, WhatsApp her. I am just giving her a change.

When she finally takes me back my question to you is whether I should ease up on the measures? Perhaps she might be a little less stressed.


Real Man



Dear Real Man,

Be a real man and leave this girl alone. I am beginning to think that she was well within her rights to leave you.

If you think it is normal to give your girlfriend a bed time, dictate to her, what to eat and what to wear then you have some serious issues.

Instead of working on getting her back, work on yourself.

Unless you are a changed man, you probably will be in and out of relationships for the rest of your life.



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  1. August 7, 2020

    What an amazing post you have shared with us . A lot of thanks for such spanking published . :roll:

  2. July 20, 2020

    You rock particularly for the high caliber and results-arranged assistance.

  3. Marie Jean
    October 21, 2019

    Well may as well you get chains and handcuffs smh

  4. Kalinago Justice
    October 4, 2019

    :?: Based on the the majority of comments I read on here, that slave plantation mentality island has alot of lost/lust souls! This is why that slave plantation mentality island will seem to get worse :?:

  5. CB BOSS
    October 3, 2019

    Hebrew Israelite from the tribe of Benjamin. We need to follow the King James version.

    Thanks to TMH.

  6. Efficacious
    October 3, 2019

    The way you treat your parents reflect on you. Can run but, cannot hide.The comments indicate that, they all been at it. Everything come with a prize. The word decency no longer exist. A man with no heart has no soul.Morden and later blame someone else for your mistakes.Don’t hurry be happy real Man.

  7. look it
    October 2, 2019

    Mr. Real Man, you had a narrow escape and thank your lucky stars. you don’t love or share with your relatives always a stranger. She must adjust and meet you half way and you do likewise in order to get things moving smoothly. She was afraid of what you would found out, so she escaped. Men are handsome and beautiful because, God made man to his own image and likeness therefore, you must live at standards to please God. Better fishes in the sea

  8. Shabin
    October 2, 2019

    I agree DA Girl, you not seeing de name Kalinago….dont embarrass kalinago’s so please… First of all my brother when you meet her, she was like that and maria pass long time for you to say 9:00 bed time…. she left her mother house to be with you, if she had another man or checking her sin then thats another thing but it sounds like she tried to change for you but you went to far… you need to cool out and if you cannot accept a person for who they are then dont go into a relationship because nobody is de same in life we are all different souls, maybe you should forget about cult add your self on social media and you will see it is not to bad. Rather than stupid girls shaking their a$. on social media you can also see what is happening around the world both politics and nature, places you yet to go, so free up and try.

  9. PRO
    October 2, 2019

    She’s a smart woman to leave you!

  10. Man bite dogs
    October 2, 2019

    Man got rid of that pan cake most of them are useless all that they want is a good fxxk and money to buy a new dress, hairdresser to impressed the next sucker that comes along love does not come into it in todays world.

  11. Dixie Normas
    October 2, 2019

    i think i now know how to break up with my woman! :twisted: :twisted:

  12. SMH
    October 2, 2019

    a man like u i need :-D

  13. Annoyed
    October 2, 2019

    This man is beyond. In 2019, I don’t see why this man should dictate to his girlfriend what she should and should not do. She is a big woman and she has the right to do whatever she pleases, once it doesn’t jeopardize the relationship. And first off, he should accept her how she is and not try to change her. If I was her, he would never see my face again, cause there is men out dere who will cherish her in spite of how she looks and what she does. Relationships now are all about adapting to different situations so if he wants her to change, why don’t he change his mindset?

  14. SMH
    October 2, 2019

    A A i need a man so…if you hot reply to this message if not then bye :-D

  15. DA Girl
    October 2, 2019

    You sound like a psychotic control freak. Leave the young lady a matter of fact leave ALL ladies alone cause you sound like you will hold someone hostage and maybe even kill somebody. Do the world a favor and go leave in the bush away from civilization.

  16. October 2, 2019

    In a relationship, there has to be communication and collaboration. One person should not be the dominant partner. There has to be give and take; and remember talking to your mate is paramount; and know the difference between telling and talking. Telling is dictating, and talking is discussing; and discussing is the better option. Bread is truly a weight gaining food, but your approach needs changing; encourage your mate to substitute bread with maybe fruits, but don’t tell your mate what she cannot do; instead encourage her to explore other food options. Do not condemn, but focus on commending her, in her baby-steps tranformation to a healthy lifestyle. You probably will have to move on to someone else, and hopefully, you examine yourself, and accept that you have to add compromising to your life’s philosophy.

  17. Zandoli
    October 2, 2019

    That letter looks like a fake to me. I can’t believe a man could be that domineering. Which woman would want to be with such a control freak?

    • SMH
      October 2, 2019

      huh it have men worst than that what you talking about

  18. October 2, 2019

    You call yourself. Real man. Well that’s not the attitude of a Real man. You are a control freak. And that need to stop because you will go through relationship after relationship with the same attitude. So do yourself some good. Spend some time and ask yourself. What have I done.

  19. naneee
    October 1, 2019

    @ Real Man…If I were your girlfriend, I’d leave too and never look back. Obsessive is too much of a nice word to use. You are a controlling freak and it’s terrifying .No normal woman is going to accept your crazy attitude unless she has low self-esteem and/or maybe you were the last male creature on earth. I am married for 20 yrs and my husband does not behave like that.

  20. Bwa-Banday
    October 1, 2019

    Partner you too darn old school for such a modern woman. It may all be in her head but guess what? She aint got time for the sheet. Not judging you but you sound like you live in the heights of Caholm or Cuba or Wet Area and want to control a Kool-out taking, High Maintenance, somewhat very proud “American Gucci Attitude” type woman that will not take you country as** BS. Looks like pretty soon you will tell her grow some BONGOS instead of having weave and brush her teeth with salt and charcoal instead of Colgate.

    Man go get a life and leave the woman alone. You can’t hang with that HIGH Speed woman bro. Doh let that Gwo-Pwell finish you. Check your vibes somewhere else with a country girl. :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:

  21. M
    October 1, 2019

    Lol I love your response Bella

  22. Kalinago Justice
    October 1, 2019

    :?: @ Bella; among all the advice and response there is, this is the best you can do :?: The advice that you should give to the man,is to find someone who’s compatible and sees things similar to him. Who man wants a woman spending her time on a phone at that hour of the night, instead of engaging with each other in some meaningful conversation with each other :?: My brother, don’t lose sleep over this lost soul! Anyway,in your next relationship,try not to be imposing, but have a deep conversation with your lady about the lifestyle you’re looking forward to living with her.

    • DA Girl
      October 2, 2019

      You sound worse than him…psycho!!

    • Bella Do Better!
      October 2, 2019

      Kalinago Justice I totally agree with you, Bella this is the worst advice, he obviously wants good for this girl he just happen to be more mature than her so he needs to let her go and start looking for someone on same level that he is. He loves her so of course it will hurt now, but moving on will save him alot of heartache with this girl in the future. When guys “doh malay” we like to cry fowl now here’s a gentleman who clearly cares for this young lady and he’s considered obsessive. He cares about her health, her attire and obviously wants her to achieve more out of life than replicating what’s on social media or being a slave to it. Guy if you’re Reading YOU ARE NOT OBSESSIVE, people don’t seem understand that when you are in a relationship you have to seek to improve each others life, and that’s just what you were trying to do with this young lady, apparently she can’t see it, but she will see her mistake in the future. I wish you all the best in finding a partner…

    • Billy👶🏾
      October 3, 2019

      What the young man needs to do is learn to effectively communicate with someone he wants to get into a relationship with about what he prefers his woman to be like, especially since he knows that some of his views are outside of the norm. If he had told her that from the start then it would be up her to decide if she wants to stay. On the other hand if she knew he was like this and chose to stay then she cannot put all blame on him. She also, should learn to express her views and how she prefers to operate throughout life. In conclusion: get to the know the person you’re trying to build with🤷🏾‍♀️. Is either you get what you’re looking for or learn to adapt to something different.

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