DEAR BELLA: Should I marry the mother of my father’s child?

Dear Bella,

 

A young lady of 22 years old mistakenly gave birth for my father who is 60 years old, but they are not married.

The matter is still in secret, which the young lady confessed to me herself and I am 23 years old.

This young lady is leaving [living] with us with the baby and we so much fell in love with each other.

She doesn’t want to marry my Dad but prefer to marry me instead but my Dad don’t know that we are in love.

Bella, is it possible for me to marry her, even if my Dad agree?

Confused

 


 

Hello Confused,

 

If you marry this woman it will be wrong and to your own detriment. Plain and simple. And I don’t know how someone can mistakenly give birth to a child.

Anyway, it would mean that you are now going to be the stepfather of your sibling? This is not even the most frightening part.

This could seriously affect the relationship between you and your father. The situation also does not speak well of the young lady in question.

This seems to be a melee that you might want to reconsider.

She lives with you and your dad; had a baby for your father and now you are in love with her and contemplating marrying her. Obviously, there are no boundaries in your family. Think for a moment that your wife was once in bed with your father and even gave birth to his child. Sigh.

Read over what I just wrote-slloowwlllyyy- and then ask yourself, over and over, if this makes any sense to you. And if you want to be part and parcel of such a mix-up.

At 23, you definitely shouldn’t throw your entire life away by giving in to your fleshy desires and ruining your life in the process.

Leave this young lady alone. It might serve you well.

Bella

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18 Comments

  1. DA passports
    May 14, 2020

    If he smart he would use her before she end up using him :lol: :lol: You gonna have to take care of your brother anyway, konet vive

  2. May 12, 2020

    Young man. This is beyond my wildest imagination. I can’t for one second would think why a 23 year old be thinking like this. You are looking at. 1 your Dad’s girlfriend. Which is almost your step mom. 2 she is carrying your Dad’s child which is your brother/sister. And now you are getting mix up in all of this. By falling in love and even talking about marrying.
    Young man. Please do yourself a favour and get out of this. ASAP. That’s big problems.

  3. Sweet home Alabama
    May 11, 2020

    These comments don’t do the level of wrongness justice so let me try. (Assuming baby is a boy)
    IF HE MARRIES HER:
    -That baby is his Brother & Stepson
    -That girl is the father’s Baby Mama & Daughter-in-Law
    -Him and his stepson calling the same man Daddy
    -If he have a child with that woman , the first baby going to be it’s brother AND Uncle! Eww

    And that girl not easy. 22yrs why you in a house being passed around by father and son like a piece of meat? I 23yrs and CANNOT have myself so. Trust me fella, it not no secret. The whole village know.

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  4. Right
    May 10, 2020

    Well both of you are young ,better match them grandpa! don’t know the Whole situation it’s a pity that she had To find herself in that situation .don’t know this young women can’t juge her ! But it’s not right To marry your dads future wife your brother or sister mother .only if she has been raped or forst by him! Don’t ruin your young life away like that it’s normal u develop feelings for her 😎 you guys spend time together ….live the same place, same age group. take some time away from this 🤷🏽‍♀️ try doing other things full in love with Someone els. if the feeling is still there then talk To your dad about it they are not married anyway …and what the hell is a 60year old man doing with a young 22 chupzzz but don’t forget he might kick you out too or out of his life just don’t give him a heartatact .

  5. mountain
    May 10, 2020

    This is ugly. Dominica is full of it. Incest is against the law. The father anything that is in my home belongs to me.Where is standard, manners and respect gone too. When you feel old and responsible to maintain a woman, you move out of the family home and start your own family. it is the children the suffer. No shame even going public. Learn nothing from Maria,then came mr.covid,what will it take to improve the people an earthquake.

  6. Danziger
    May 9, 2020

    Man, get a life. leave the young woman alone.

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  7. Flabbergasted
    May 9, 2020

    Phewwww! What in the?!?!

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  8. Bwa-Banday
    May 9, 2020

    Partner to each his own but marrying someone that your daddy seriously piped, still piping and in the process giving you a sibling is NOT the brightest idea. Mark you I am not saying that a Dowasco opportunity to pipe the same area with papa without contract should be refused eh. Because after all is said and done, great pipe fitters that are diverse in various terrains know that variety is the key and after all this terrain may be very good.

    In conclusion bro, the woman is using you as a father to your brother and that is not cool. Talk to the old man and who knows he may just give you a few days per week to assist with the plumbing tasks while he takes a couple for himself. Big people can always make arrangements when it comes to working at Dowasco. Just ask some of the so called “cabal” folks who like “rotating stock”…..they call it so not me, among themselves at a hotel close to the Roseau library. Good luck with the old man and the trickster :mrgreen: :mrgreen:

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  9. Tahj Andre
    May 9, 2020

    Well that is something else…..

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  10. May 9, 2020

    This does not even deserve a comment the boy is sick.

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  11. Peace
    May 9, 2020

    That sounding like the Bold and The Beautiful, eh. Brooke and Ridge and Eric and everybody else in the family. But Bella is right, Confused. You are too young to get yourself in that drama. Change the channel.

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  12. Concerned
    May 9, 2020

    This is straight out of a MAURY Show…Call Dr. Phil, while your at it!

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  13. May 9, 2020

    :-D :-D :( :( :(

  14. Josh Shaw
    May 8, 2020

    Wait is the soap opera crap taking over this place. So much daytime drama in this place. As for Bella your advice is crap. Who are you to say the people should not get married. I suspect you know not what love is!

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    • Me
      May 11, 2020

      Love should not be confused with lust, which is easily done.

  15. Toto
    May 8, 2020

    Well, if you want to be the father of your brother and of your grandchild go ahead but that sounds like a proper screw up to me. Imagine that child calling you daddy and uncle at the same time and his mummy auntie and granny.My advise leave that alone If he does not get confuse I certainly would, life difficult enough as it is already.

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  16. Under the radar
    May 8, 2020

    Bella, put down the crack pipe…

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  17. jt
    May 8, 2020

    awa date other women that not going to end good,

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