Dear Bella,
We always hear the term “men are dogs” but let me tell you some women are the devil themselves….so I have this stylist that I have been going too for years now she’s really good at what she does don’t get me wrong…
I wouldn’t say we are friends more like acquaintances, but the things I overhear when I’m there is just distasteful.
So, this woman has been playing two men into thinking they are the father of her child. One who’s the actual father and the other one, she has been milking his family.
She always talks down on the child’s father on how he doesn’t provide enough financial support. Whereas the other person’s family she gets money from every month.
She keeps saying the other man’s family wants a DNA test but she always finds a way to brush off the situation.
Bella I know it’s none of my business but I think someone should let this family know the truth before a lot of people’s feelings get hurt.
yours truly,
Confused…
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Dear Confused,
Sometimes we need to learn to stay out of people’s business. And please don’t take this first line the wrong way. But honestly, there is no other way I could have said it.
Whether you decide to say something or not, the truth will eventually reveal itself.
It seems as if you need, however, to find another place to get your hair done, as your salon is a gossip shop.
If it were your family, I’d say you probably have the right to try to get to the heart of the matter but you are merely receiving second hand information.
Besides, you don’t even know if she’s telling the truth. Women who talk a lot lie a lot, especially when they are seeking attention.
Listen…sometimes we have to choose our battles. I don’t see this being one of them.
Bella
I would sell out the vibes, wouldn’t want this to happen to me and would love someone to put me on if it did. Just imagine the money being given maybe could be used for something else by that family.
leave people zafer alone. That man is a massisea, massisea and MC meme bett meme prell.
Sadly, as a Dcan I can say that this is happening too often in Dca. Even when they go overseas some of our women do the same damn thing. Yes they do.
My cousin in NY have an American man paying child support for his child while at the same time came down here and have a kunoumoonou in Senjo paying child support for his child in America. Done be confused, she visited here little preggy and messed with a Jah-Khasse while on vacation. Went back up and told homey she preggy for him. He so sort he agree and still paying child support to a wicked lawyer here monthly. And yes she send the child down on summer vacations (big girl now) to spend time with Dcan daddy family. Talk about drama? Now she divorce she say she will never marry the one in Dca because he more hungry than her
All tell I telling my partner in Senjo that he not hearing. He just waiting for his american daughter for file for him soon..
I guess he is using the child as an investment?
You should leave people business alone. This sounds like an A and B situation so you need to C your way out of it. Take a little time to read, digest and heed Bella’s prudent advice.
i cant get past how this is of any concern to the author of the letter
We have a name for women like that my friend. My mother always told me NEVER call a woman a jammet but I almost did this time
. Its only a matter of time before this vulcano explodes and some serious hurting goes around. Women like that are the ones who cause most men to question paternity and even refuse to take care their children.
I will disagree with Bella this time around. Women always talk about having each other’s back so we men should likewise. Tell the unsuspecting man’s family IMMEDIATELY. They should demand a DNA test forthwith.
Good answer bella..let her check her own closet man..they might just be talking to see if her long mouth will run tell..thumbs up bella
Bella could not put it better. Partner. It seems like you feeling sorry for them other guys. I understand. Because you are a man. If they are your friends or you know them. You should tell them that. Or. Better yet et alone. It’s not really your business.
Bella….newsflash…..ALL barber shops and hair salons are “gossip shops” to paraphrase you.
My barber used to spend a good 45 minutes on my head and I had to listen to all kinds of foolishness and then pay him a good chunk of change plus tip. Years ago, I bought a clipper and started to trim my hair at home. What used to take them 45 minutes, takes me 5 minutes and I don’t have to listen to all that talk.
True dat zandoli there u getting beff…when my hair stylist ask me about my family I ain’t tell her sh&t cuz as I leave I know she Gan tell her next client all bout me…I learnt them long time…now I put my headphones and my head in my phone. I don’t want to hear their beff. I was shocked to know barbers do the same..as for this famous one self..my cousin always complaining. Smh
…different views for this letter here besides. 1 they could really be talking shit to c if she will run tell 2. It May well be true but it’s sad to know inocente family PAYING for this ..wow..I wouldnt want to be the one to tell but if she wNts too then it’s up to her bella.