DEAR BELLA: Am I ‘sick’ because I like older women?

I am a 21 year old man and I want to know if I have  a problem because I like older women.
Ever since I remember myself I loved women who are much older. 50,54 and up
Currently I am dating a woman who is 52.
Honestly these women are easy to love.
No drama.  No hassle. They don’t invade your phone. They don’t ask you where you been. They are fun.
I am not bashing young women but they are a tie up. They jep jep and always need money for hair and makeup and unnecessary stuff.
Older women have their money. They don’t need mine.
Someone told me I’m sick for liking them old and it troubled me.
Do you think I’m sick Bella?
Diagnose Me
Hi Diagnose Me,
I am no doctor but it seems to me you are avoiding being with a younger woman because you don’t want certain responsibilities.
I wouldn’t call it a sickness. Everybody have their preference in who they love and chose to be with.
You are insinuating that you have something to hide when you say “they don’t invade your phone…or ask where you been”.
You like the idea that you can be free to do whatever you like and still be in a solid relationship but that’s not how it works.
Unless you and your partner decide otherwise, a relationship requires commitment, trust and honesty.
Gathering from what you’ve said it seems like a situation of not wanting to commit rather than just being sick about liking older women.
Best Bella

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  1. Man bites dogs
    March 22, 2019

    My man you said you are 21yrs old and like older women apsolutely nothing is wrong with you, just make sure you have a good ride instead of they taking you for a ride “older the cherry sweeter it’s”

  2. March 21, 2019

    My friend. There is nothing wrong loving older women. It’s your choice. From my reading. 1 you are looking for woman that can take of you. And 2 yes young woman are very Dramatic. Controlling.but once you are faithful and not running around. There is absolutely no problem in loving older women.

  3. Braindamage
    March 21, 2019

    Partner, all cod fish sweet. Some like it hot, some like it cold.

    • 52 years old
      March 21, 2019

      And some like it in the pot; in this case 52 years old :mrgreen: :mrgreen:

  4. Ti Garcon
    March 20, 2019

    The appropriate ages if a ma loving a woman who is on the lower end half your age plus 8, and on the upper limits your age plus 16. Not an exact science.
    Meaning, on a rough estimate a 21yr old man should be with women between 18 – 37. Dude you out there banging your mamas friends, so yes you are sick. Probably got some mama issues or was molested by older women as a youth. Its not an insult, as much young boys are molested as kids as girls, but thats never rasied as an important societal issue.

  5. lula
    March 20, 2019

    Boy, you looking for a ‘mama figure’ who will take care of your cheap self since you are looking for every excuse for not being interested in younger women. My bad…you like older women and ‘not’ love them

  6. March 20, 2019

    Benjamin Franklin wrote a famous letter about this:

    • Frank N Stein
      March 21, 2019

      Powerful Mr Foerster wow.

  7. Madsci
    March 20, 2019

    nothing wrong with preferring older women
    but them ages you touching there thats a bit too old in my opinion

  8. I loled
    March 20, 2019

    Que the women coming to bash the man for wanting someone more mature than them in 3…2….

    • Anon
      March 20, 2019

      *Cue* the semi-illiterate misogynists itching to make dumb comments like yours.

  9. Frank N Stein
    March 20, 2019

    young women have a bad reputation papa. Everybody talking about all they want is money . thats not good at all your reputations are very damaged. I cant blame the young men for wanting older women at all. Young women regain your pride!

  10. kumbaya
    March 20, 2019

    Bella hit the nail on the head, p.s not all young women depend on men for money

  11. Ya Boy
    March 20, 2019

    My Boy, All Sugar Sweet! :lol:
    Drink Your Juice With Pride & Plenty Ice :-P

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