DEAR BELLA: I’m interested in my girlfriend’s mother


I honestly think that young women should stop making babies early. I am a 34-year-old man and found myself in a predicament where I think I like my girlfriend’s mom.

Well, she has never showed any interest in me but she treats me with respect whenever I come over to see her daughter. However, these days I find myself thinking about my mother in law a lot. She looks really good for her age.

She had her first child (my girlfriend) when she was maybe 18 or so. It is like the lady never aged. She sometimes even looks better than her daughter.

Anyway, long and short Bella, I find myself coming to their house just to see the mother and not really because of my girlfriend.

Am I a bad person? How do I get the lady out of my head? Do I even love her daughter if I feel this way? I am so confused. Help me figure this out.

Sad Fella

Hello Sad Fella,

You can either get over it or say goodbye to your girlfriend. Fantasies are one thing but you shouldn’t let a little fantasy intrude in your reality.

Spend some time considering why you would have such grand feelings for your girlfriends’ mother.

From what you’ve said, I think you know that the mom is never going to be interested in her daughter’s boyfriend.

If you still do enjoy your girlfriend’s company and you still have feelings for her, you’re just going to have to learn to focus on her and not her mom.

Be a good guy. Move on.


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  1. Bobby Abernethy
    November 23, 2019

    Little head thinking for the big head.

  2. Let my post move
    November 22, 2019

    What they need to do is poison you. Men like you are the ones that does end up sleeping with their own children. If you was a decent person you would never think like that. You’re a pig

    • Blank
      November 23, 2019

      They can poison the people below supporting this too.

  3. November 22, 2019

    Well young man. You call yourself sad fella. The truth is. You are a happy young man. Just a bit confused. All you need to do is . Take a little time out from the house talk to yourself. Spend more time talking to your girlfriend on the phone. Take her our now and then. You can meet a good friend and talk to them about it. That should help. Don’t be too hard in yourself. Take it easy you will be ok.

  4. look it
    November 21, 2019

    The bottom is ,you are at the lady’s home so you are her man.Go for it my son

  5. candid
    November 21, 2019

    The answer to that I would say welcome to Dominica. As a child you are at home with parents. When you feel grown up and behave like a grown up, you find your own place and take your responsibilities. Young sir,dont be too hard on yourself. All this occur due to lark of respect. Move out from the mother’s home and find a house for you and your (girlfriend).Lover you are no longer at school.

    • Bwa-Banday
      November 21, 2019

      Plumbers don’t run away, they lay pipe and drop water mercilessly in all directions. STOP giving the man bad advise. Who will go see the mother frequently or take care of her pipe trench? You want mummy to get shar-gween man? Stupes man! :twisted: :twisted: :mrgreen:

  6. Bwa-Banday
    November 20, 2019

    Well bro mummy may just “gravitate outwards” from you if she realizes you are having such perverted feelings for her 8) .

    On the other hand, if every time you see her it brings back memories of you working at dowasco as a PIPE layer then you may just have to “tactfully” start digging the trench that will give you enough access to lay your pipe unimpeded. it may just end up in a scenario where all three of you share the related work scope and you be the skilled pipe layer in one go. Hey, three can sometimes be a good crowd my brother. 8) 8) 8)

    • Cat In the Hat
      December 4, 2019

      That makes no sense at all

  7. Dinrick
    November 20, 2019

    Fantasies are normal man but we just need to be strong and get them out of our heads especially when they’re wrong. Seld control is essential I this world.

  8. TI NOM
    November 20, 2019

    if u are a real gallis u can get both of them.

    • Ginger
      November 30, 2019

      “Gallis” really???? stop adopting other people’s slang. You just learn that one
      from a Jamaican stupes :mrgreen: :mrgreen:

  9. November 20, 2019

    Feeelings are natural, it is a matter of not acting upon those feelings. Reaching out for help shows that you do have some level of morality, and just need the extra push to rid your mind of that desire. This article is so timely, because it comes at a time when a friend of mine, and his father both dated the same young lady, and now the father and son are both claiming to be the father of her child. There was a time when we thought some things only happen in the movies, but we now know that reality is imitating fiction.

    • Bwa-Banday
      November 21, 2019

      Its been “imitating fiction” since when Manhattan was Boy-Hatten :mrgreen: :mrgreen: – you get my drift. Fathers and sons, mothers and daughters have been eating from the same plate from time immemorial but people turned the other way and pretended all was well. Today we know it’s all good because having a threesome has not killed anyone yet as long as everyone is on board. So I say if mother looks better than daughter or just plain out very good and she agrees, then 8) 8) 8) ….Stop the hypocrisy. Thats why Hugh Heffner was my ultimate hero. That was a very serious Dowasco plumber! Pipe laying shared by consenting adults is NOT a crime in Dca.

  10. MyMILisSexy
    November 20, 2019

    Brother, I am just like you. I find my girlfriend mother very attractive. Nice smile, nice shape, just a beautiful woman! Like you, some times I go over to their place just to see her mother. She has never seemed interested in me that way but that hasn’t stopped me from Fantasizing about her.

    But look on the bright side, they say if you like to see your mother-in-law then you’ll happy with the way your gf ages. I know I look forward to that!

  11. My Take
    November 20, 2019

    The Mighty Sparrow say”both of them.Give them what they want,both of them.LOL.

  12. SMH
    November 20, 2019

    lol lol :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

  13. Bravo
    November 20, 2019

    This isn’t about love young man and that’s just that. This is about plain fantasy OK? Trust me am a grown man with experience and I can tell u so. U got two DECENT AND HONOURABLE choices before u right now if u really are a dfent person at heart. To either continue to respect the girls mom as u yourself claimed she respects u or simply look for some event excuse and end this relationship now quickly before you are tempted even more and further to eventually physically and verbally express your disrespectful thoughts and feelings that WILL WRECK THIS FAMILY CIRCLE. And if u really card about both your girlfriend and your mom and its not simply physical fleshly lUST and desire then this is the very last thing u would like to see happen to them. I seen such things before and they always end in disaster and chaos and home wrecking . just b respectful and honour your relationship with the girl or walk out and keep your distance OK?

  14. Chu Moon Fan(thats chinese)
    November 20, 2019

    wat kind of man r u ?…..eating the okrah and still want thehead?

    • Bwa-Banday
      November 22, 2019

      STOP your nonsense. Sometimes we need to eat the okra, head and leaves in one big soup. As long as everyone is happy and leaves with a BIG THANK U smile. Maybe you should try it and then come back and comment. Life is too short to take it so serious. Big people do BIG people things and keep their mouths shut. Shhhhhhhhhhh!

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