I am married but I cannot get this other guy off my mind

I have a situation and I need your advice urgently!

I am a young married lady in my 30’s and has been married for six years. Three months ago I came into contact with a young guy through the work that I do. At the very instant that I saw him I became emotionally and physically attracted to him.

I tried not to let him observe this and I was so embarrassed. I completed what I had come to do and left.

Five days later we met at a function. This time we had a closer contact with each other. I was so weakened by his close contact I had to leave the place.

One week after he called my office (he knew where I work) and asked why I had left and never returned. I told him why; I didn’t lie, he was very cool and quiet about that. We then exchanged cell numbers and added each other on Facebook. We chat with each other practically every day and I continue to tell him how I feel about him and he is expressing the same feelings, only that he doesn’t want to cause or be the cause of a broken marriage.

The furthest we have gotten though is expressing our feelings to each other. The problem that I have is getting him off my head. Every time I close my eyes I see him; sometimes I even imagine him when I am having sex with my husband. I mentioned this to him; he wants a secret relationship, but the way I feel about him my relationship with him will not be a secret.

I sometimes tell myself that I do not want to be friends with him anymore, so I deleted his number from my phone, but it’s like not talking to him is killing me silently so I started calling him again and the feelings I have for him is even greater than before. I love my family and would not want my marriage to break.

Urgently in need of your help!

Dear Urgently in need of help!

There is an age-old proverb which says, “You cannot serve two masters” and I think it can be paraphrased to “You cannot love two lovers.”

When you decided to get married it is a decision that was based on the fact that you would agree to love only one man for the rest of your life.

You said you love your husband and your family, then forget about this other guy and be with them.

You should call this guy and tell him that although you have some feeling towards him, you are a married woman and you intend to stick to your marriage vows.


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  8. ruby
    October 29, 2014

    Just go for it girl ! Be happy :-D

    • Anonymous
      October 29, 2014

      Do whatever makes you happy! If you loved you husband , you wouldn’t even be thinking about other men.

  9. Artfield
    October 22, 2014

    Its women like you that make good men do bad things

    • Anonymous
      October 29, 2014

      Not a very nice thing to say :-?

    • Anonymous
      October 29, 2014

      always blame the girl..pathetic

  10. The truth...........
    August 16, 2014

    You know how they say there is more fish out in the sea… well its true. In fact there is a lot of them out there. It does not take much to strike up some chemistry with a random person. There are millions of people out there in the world who are “your type.” The only question that there is to ask… is how long will it last?

    Getting married means you remain faithful ( of course unless you agree to have an open relationship. ) Yeah people flirt because its fun, but you took it too far. You guys can say that she fell for someone its not her fault, she was not looking for a new love bla bla bla.

    The facts are she let herself. Why do you think its frowned upon to have friends of the opposite sex? It DOES HAVE MERIT to it. If you are weak willed and you cannot turn down someone who wants to be more than friends you have no business with male friends ( or female if you are male. )

    if you can control yourself though like a lot of normal people, then by all means enjoy your flirting, a lot of people do it, no reason to say anything bad about it.

    these are the facts, and you were weak and pathetic, now do the right thing go see a therapist instead of reading all these retarded ideas on here.

    if you do not agree with me then you are saying all the normal people who can control their emotions and keep sexy and fun flirting at bay are tough out of luck because the weak minded people who fall pray to those smooth talking snakes are not doing anything wrong…. after all, it wasnt their fault right? they just fell in love with someone else, they COULDN’T HELP IT…

    • Duante Amorculo
      August 24, 2014

      preach! :)

    • September 8, 2014

      I think you should forget him and focus more on your husband! Now days it is to easy to have an affair whether it be on-line or in person. I can almost say for sure if you dump your husband and go to him it will be over within a year. Besides what kind of character would that guy have if he went for you a married woman and who is to say he wont do it to you? How would you like it if your husband did it to you? WHAT GOESC AROUND COMES AROUND! It is easy to run to another man but it takes real work to make your marriage work!!!!!!!!!

  11. Nomza
    July 21, 2014

    ask God for guidance.God bless u

  12. December 30, 2013

    I believe we can have pass life connection with people you could have been married to this person before remember we are all spiritual beams but you are married if you are meant to be with this person it will happen all on it on time sometime as women we have to follow our heart and continue to praying because I believe so many people is with people they don’t suppose to be with.

    • Mary
      April 6, 2015

      What do you mean ? Are you trying to say she married a wrong man ? Try to see That there is no tree or leave that falls without God knowledge . The man in her mind now is just like a trap for a good home , just like asunder . A test for her and since she can’t keep her body that’s not good to for the husband….. From every Angles she is very very very very wrong ..I’m facing such thing as a married man now imagine your wife telling you they love someone else and she had proclaimed to the world that she die with me , that I’m a source of happiness, I brought joy into her life , took my pictures on every social media apps and telling everyone she is in love with me . Now situations came in less than year she started saying rubbish don’t you think it’s not her doings anymore flesh is in control — devil !!! Anyway we just have to keep praying for all these ladies out there .

  13. Leah
    December 27, 2013

    Listen, don’t listen to these idiots, they’ve never experienced love, real love. Your attraction for him and connection to him is strong. There’s a reason for it. You deserve to be happy. Sure, you’re in a committed relationship, but there’s no reason you can’t be with the man you feel attracted to. People don’t own people. You should celebrate the years that worked well with your husband instead of seeing it as failure. You’ve both grown and changed with time and you should honor that, rather than try to stifle your feelings for this new man, you should accept that your marriage has fundamentally changed. Neither of you, is the same person. People who use God and their fears to keep you in an unhappy marriage are not advocates for you, rather they are describing life events that haven’t worked for them. Trust your instincts, and your instincts tell you that you’re in love with this man. Don’t live years of a mundane life, you deserve to really live the one life you have. You and your husband are stewards of a precious cargo, your kids and you’ll do what’s best for you and them. Don’t die not living a life fulfilled.

    • July 24, 2014

      Yeah dude..!! No one ever said that you cant have two lovers..
      Who made these rules.. No one.. Dont stick to these thinkings. If you want him go ahead.. have a secret relationship. DOnt tell ur husband. AND THATS ABSOLUTELY FINE. There is nothing wrong or right. Its you, you have the right to live freely. and do whatever yu wnat to. You can probably expalin this to ur husband as well. he can also have some open relationship. Live like a bachelor again with you..

    • Mart
      April 6, 2015

      You are the idiot to be sincere … Did she tell anyone she is in a bad marriage or unhappy ?? Nope she wanted to safe her marriage now she came for advise and you are now talking from your spinal cord not brain … If you had a bad marriage or relationship don’t come here and give bad advise . God hates divorce , 2 she wants her marriage u should encourage her and not to say some bad words….we should always love like the love of God . When we sins he still loves us , he cares with the is istrealite worshiping images he still loves them and want reconciliation… Please stop bad info

  14. mrs lydia
    November 6, 2013

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  15. Lisalillian73
    October 8, 2013

    Most you ppl should be ashamed of yourself! You talk about god and then judge! It is up to god to judge. This woman already feels bad and now im sure she feels alot worse. When someone marrys they are in love…when another man enters your life you are attracted to it is lust….as you dont know this mans heart and sole yet to love….i have had this happen to me after 18 years of marriage to the most amazing man that gives me no reason to want or need another. But what happens is you become so used to your husbands touch that your love for him enters a deaper level but because he is so close to you and your so used to his touch …you end up feeling butterflies and the “newness” and it feels awsome…the reason you fell for your husband…remember those days? Feeling so alive and not knowing what will happen next …butterflies ..etc…….i gaurantee it will wear off just as it has with your husband.only you know your husbands sole..and you love him or you wouldnt be feeling so badly…or worry about him hurting ….what i did was i sat my husband down and explained everything that i was feeling and did….when i said good bye to the man i LUSTED over ..my husband held me as i cried and got over it….i then realized how strong my husbands love is for me. And realized the other man had no respect to want to step in my marriage and if he did that who says he wouldnt do that if i were with him later down the road with another woman. His values are distorted…dont let your values get distorted too…….over “LUST” :) good luck and god bless ….

    • Anonymous
      March 11, 2014

      Very good advice. I needed that

    • Anonymous
      May 13, 2014

      Very good.thank you.

  16. yur
    July 28, 2013

    i want to say a very big thanks and appreciation to Therapist Oniha for bringing back my wife who left me and the kids for almost two months. i am very much grateful to Therapist Oniha. I pray God almighty give you the strength and wisdom to help more people having similar problem like mine. He can always be of help to you and you can reach him on his email address winexbackspell@gmail.com if you have similar problems.

  17. Tina
    March 28, 2013

    :-P this case mostly happens in other family too ! However , don’t do it !

    • ASHOK
      April 28, 2013

      better to chose one existing partner than the temporary partner. He is not permanent and he will not last long life. Like foot in two boat at a time. It is better to chose family boat.

  18. Razzby Rawz
    March 2, 2013

    I understand your situation mam because I am too in that same situation but I am the male who is in love with a married woman. We never been together physically but we are emotionally. I love her so much that it hurts. It is very normal to have feelings for someone and okay even when you are married. But, it is never okay to act on those feelings. No matter how much I love this woman. I love her enough that I would not want her to be hurt and to wreck her marriage and family over feelings. I believe that if you cannot just be normal friends with this guy and control your feelings then you need to distance yourself from him and he should love you enough not to see you betray your family and husband because you will be left hurt as well. There is no good ending in this situation but to stay faithful to the man you promised to be with. Your marriage is being tested and its up to you to pass that test no matter how hard it is… When you cheat on your husband, you dont just cheat on him but on your whole family and it causes more problems and pain down the line especially with the children and your n-laws.

    • Kareena
      December 13, 2013

      Very well said. I am also in same situation and try to react the way u have mentioned.

  19. Rev. Donald Hilla
    February 18, 2013

    Lady, what you experienced was a spirit of lust. It has overtaken you and you are in its grip. Yes, I am talking about a demonic spirit. It may be that this man used an occult spell to cast it upon you or it may have come independent of him. You both made a mistake when you exchanged phone numbers. You knew it was wrong so you deleted his number. But the fact that you phoned him again shows the thing that has taken you captive is bigger than you are. The fact that that this man knows you are married but he wants to have a “secret relationship” shows he knows it is wrong but he obviously wants to pursue it. The evidence is not conclusive but again it makes me wonder if he did indeed cast a spell upon you. You are married. You don’t need a counselor to tell you what to do. Your marriage vows tell you what to do! You must admit that your interest in this man is sinful. Tell him so. Let him know that for your part you are sorry for any wrong feelings or inconvenience you have caused him but be sure he understands IT IS OVER! No more contacts. None! Renew a living relationship with your husband. Rekindle the flame! Celebrate what God gave you. Sincerely. Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

    • Lisalillian73
      October 8, 2013

      I know you are so right :) i have gone thru this and it sure plays with ones mind…giving false hopes and dreams…until they sleep with you(i didnt sleep with him) and they get to know that they have you and the excitment of the “chase” is over and theysay good bye and sweep you under the carpet like a peice of dirt…..and you sit there thinking of all the nice things the did and said to you earlier..feeling dirty and used…maybe even lost your husband over it and your completly heart broken and feel so stupid for still feeling for them after they did all this…..thats called rejection..and its an even worse state…but time and prayer will mend you….and you learnt one of lifes lessons. I dont think there is one married couple that hasnt had to deal with lust and then questioned there love for their spouse….its a terreble thing and satan stands behind you and laughs ……..like a bully…….

  20. frank
    December 21, 2012

    Look it is easy let ur feelings take u and do it but dont leave ur husband stay with ur family just try him in secret

  21. November 30, 2011

    This is why marriages never last. women who cannot feel that one man is enough will always look for a way to destroy other lives. The married woman who is having an affair with her husband’s nephew for the past six years does not care that she is doing something wrong as long as her needs are met. We will never learn to respect each other as long as we tolerate people of such stripes.

    • J Black
      September 3, 2013

      Men cheat on women all the time, however wen a woman cheats its seen as disgraceful and all types of names are thrown at her. I myself have not cheated on my husband, but woman need romance and love we need to feel special but sometimes in a marriage we take each other for grant that leaves a gap open for someone else to manipulate the situation to his/her advantage, we should not go around judging ppl. it took guts for her to come out and say wat she did, we are all human and we all make mistake. darling im proud of u, I thing u should sit ur hubby down and tell him want u did and beg him for forgiveness, he will see wat an upstanding woman u are better it come from ur lip than someone elses

    • Anonymous
      October 29, 2014

      She didn’t do anything!

  22. November 30, 2011

    I really appreciated the response back to this lady who supposedly loves her family, yet is very attracted to another man. This struck a nerve with me as my life, my family is about to become shambles because of a situation like this one. My husband is attracted to his uncle’s wife and she to him and they have been carrying on an affair for the past 6 years destroying 2 family lives in the process. I have spoken the woman as well as my husband but nothing seems to help as neither will stop until they are properly exposed or found out by the uncle. Why do people go out of their way to destroy other lives when they cannot have their way? They tell each other that they belong to other people yet they are willing to continue this clandestine relationship as long as the uncle and the children never find out. There is no shame on either their part and as a wife, I have not decided to move on and be happy with my husband who does not see that there is something wrong with what they are doing.

    • J Black
      September 3, 2013

      I think its time u moved on, if u spoke to him and he still doesn’t change he never will, pick up chin up and leave, u the only one getting her hes having a gud time while u sit at home sulking

  23. kitty
    October 20, 2011

    hey u to nasty u know u married n u falling for other guys u not yet ready for marriage get ur self together

    • sugar
      November 2, 2011

      kettle calling the pot black so talking like you don’t have feeling at all what are u made of? rock that is if your mother gave u the right father so what does that make her a ho! ho!

  24. Dignity & pride
    October 15, 2011

    Woman where is ur DIGNITY and PRIDE for a married woman… Woman like u that cause man not to trust woman…….!!!

      October 18, 2011


      • gotoyourBaptispastor
        March 22, 2012


    • sugar
      November 2, 2011

      but the woman did not do anything so what u saying the pope and nunes do have any type of feelings they don’t have a brain to think look this world had good and bad which we all have in us u all have born into sin all u must stop no one is perfect including YOU!!!!

    October 6, 2011


    October 6, 2011


    • Justice and Truth
      October 8, 2011

      @ Respect

      What type of advice is this? What about you? Who do you like?

    • West Coast
      October 10, 2011

      It is easier said than done.

      October 18, 2011


    October 6, 2011


  28. mwen la
    October 6, 2011

    i hope u wear a condom …..

    • calamity
      March 22, 2012

      She will give the husy a readymade and some diseases.

  29. thickers
    October 5, 2011

    please leave the man alone an stick to you family you never know who this guy is you just meet him..according to my grand mother dont throw your old broom for the new an when you in good house bad house those call you.. think of your wedding day

    • adante
      March 22, 2012

      She need to be a good role model to her children. Otherwise they may get wild.

  30. Dutchside Diva
    October 5, 2011

    Now everybody getting on her case right but what if the husband is not fulfilling his duties at home and in bed….if he was giving her what she needed or she was well satisfied with him then there wud be no space for thoughts of another man.. sweetie u need to try and spice things up in ur marriage.. tell him what u want him to do to u and how u want it done…tell him when he hits the spot and when he cant find the spot show him ….is just like when you not satisfied with ur job you always looking out for another one…work on ur marriage beofre things get worse….

    • October 5, 2011

      she never said that he was not fullfilling his duties!

      • Dutchside Diva
        October 6, 2011

        she didnt say he was either…so what r u getting at?

    • Justice and Truth
      October 8, 2011

      @ Dutchside Diva

      You are a diva alright. I know where you are coming from.
      The second part of your writing with such an advice is uncalled for. Your opinion in this case is unwarranted. This is not the purpose of this article and the type of advice the lady is looking for. I am certain that she knows very well all about sexual relationships, etc. She does not need that type of advice and coming from some of you.
      She is married and thinking of another man and this is the type of advice only that she is looking for; not otherwise and also insulting as some do in their comments. You Stay on the topic. I wished when some people write they would do so respectfully and utilize respectful words. They should also consider that there are children, the youths, who access this Website and read the articles and comments. They should keep their filthy comments to themselves and out of this Website. They do nobody any good.

      • jane
        November 22, 2011

        This could happen to anyone, and she did say that she has not gone beyond talking. anyways its time men start getting their share of this they do this to us all the time having their other women and call them friends all the while they sleeping with them even having kids no one tell them nothing they are just being men. girl just pray and ask god to help you deal with the situation

    • Anonymous
      October 19, 2012

      I agree with you somewhere she is not happy.

  31. Truth
    October 5, 2011

    Classic 7 year itch. There are 2 women that I know personally who have expressed such feelings towards me. I know they love their husbands but they are just infatuated. 1 I’ve been physical with, light touching and the other we’re now very good friends. Fact is use your brain. You’re letting your P#$$y think for you. I’m almost certain the attraction isn’t based on what the guy has accomplished or how great a person he is. You’re attracted to him physically or for conversation because you let down your guard… that type of attraction will pass. Or just get a 1 shot and finish with that. You are also feeding this dude ego and embarassing yourself and your husband. Stop the nastiness.

      October 6, 2011


    • adante
      March 22, 2012

      The married hairy bank in action, just for material things. Yet she says, she loves the hussie. She needs counselling.

  32. wondering
    October 5, 2011

    Confused… why tell the guy how you feel on the first go?

    I’d expect you to try to play a bit tough after when he called to ask about you. Just say you’ve been busy… :-|

    Then you add him on FB, then talking every day… Too much too soon.

    If you are so serious about your marriage I’d expect you to be a bit stronger or at least pretend to be… you should know where this is heading…

    Sounds like there are problems at home…

      October 6, 2011


      • shame
        March 22, 2012

        she malpop yes. How is she able to approach the husband. Bold and malpop. She is only saying half. There is another.

    • jane
      November 22, 2011

      true when i was married before my husband and i seperated i never though about or felt attracted to anyone i was totally committed maybe they having issues or she lost respect for her relationship or maybe she is like some of these young people today immature

  33. Ice
    October 5, 2011

    Waw all I know is Dominica have a lot of perfect people that never did anything wrong in their little miserable lives :twisted:

  34. God is Good
    October 5, 2011

    I know this young lady very well, she spoke to me about this situation. she truely loves her family but my God!people! she’s only human. she has done nothing wrong, she only felt a way that many of us felt already. To all the negative person have you always love your spouse only? This guy wanted a secret relationship and she said NO! she has blamed herself so much for just meeting this guy,all she had gone to do was follow up on some business affairs for her employer, she didn’t plan to meet the guy! At least she is saying how she feels and asking for your advice, so be positive people and stop all this negative critics.

    • a patriot
      October 5, 2011

      My dear, you may feel this way, but you should only confess this to God. You made one mistake by confessing it to the man. You need to cut of talking to him daily. If you have a family your mind should be consumed with taking care of them especially your children. I am not telling you to be perfect, but if you feed those feelings you will do something that will devastate your family. Today you feel you can’t resist, but tommorrow you will regret this bitterly. Be wise and stop those face book conversations. The other thing is you don’t know him. Can he give you financial security, can he take the place of a father? What are his moral principles?
      There is a lot at stake.

    • Justice and Truth
      October 8, 2011

      @ God is good

      I agree with you. They deviate from the subject and give all sorts of unsolicited and unwarranted advice which I view as filthy ones. We do not need to read about that. They are not smart at all and do not utilize their intelligence, if they have any.

  35. oh really
    October 5, 2011

    dominicans so quick to judge like all of them living in a high tower of perfection,normal feelings at least she’s agreeing to it and not denying it
    but at the same time girl stay away cause u made a commitment infront of god so u better wipe out that guy from ur head,ur life time of happiness isnt work screwing up for a one time fling

  36. I feel you
    October 5, 2011

    Boy, lis something else. I am a married woman..totally trusting in the Lord…but if you dont guard your heart you will be in trouble.
    Talking of experience.. my husband was my only lover. I kept myself pure throughout my young age and if someone told me that I could be sexually weak I would say no……
    Until, I allowed another man to enter domains that he shouldn’t have. This new guy (married also) seemed to have everything that my husband did not have. He talks, makes me laugh, is physcially active, emotionally suitable… always called and said sweet things to me. My husband (on the quiet side) hardly does these things.. although I know that he loves me dearly.
    And I found myself caught… knowing what I was doing was wrong but could not break the ties. I would say never again…but would find myself slipping.. I loved his laugh, his voice, his arms around me…everything.
    I am still fighting the battle..trusting that God fully delivers me… I pray every day for complete deliverance..trying my utmost to reduce contact whether physical or through phone calls.

    You just never know until you’ve walked the road. I would never even think that this could happen to me… all I want now is that my marriage be fully alive and strong. I just want to be recommitted fully to my husband. I regret what happened but sometimes I think.. wow… I also had the time of my life some time aback. But I am aware that the devil seeks to deceive you and get you trapped..so I pray for God’s keeping arms around me.
    Stay strong girl..we are all weak..but reduce contact.. it will get better.

    • Justice and Truth
      October 8, 2011

      @ I feel you

      This is why those people who comment negatively should think of themselves and their future. We never know what may happen to us and what situation we will find ourselves in. Those who provide negative comments may very well one day find themselves even in a worst situation. This will be their punishment.
      They should also consider their very own family as also their children.
      Some of us may never experience what she experienced and also you. Nevertheless we never know what lies beyond for us in the future. This is why we must always be compassionate and offer concrete and decent advice.
      Human nature is weak. Those who think they are strong are deceiving themselves.
      Ephesians 6:10:17 – Battle against Evil – …Put on the armor of God so that you may be able to stand firm against the tactics of the devil…
      1 Corinthians:10:12 – Therefore, whoever thinks he is standing secure should take care not to fall.
      For this reason we should ever be compassionate and offer worthy and useful advice.

    • April 15, 2016

      I feel you … Good luck to you and stay strong! Millions of other women have been in your situation. Please, keep it to yourself. I knew a man that was destroyed when his wife admitted while she was on her death bed dying, that she had an affair and that their youngest child was not his! They had always had a wonderful marriage as far as he knew but she was a very beautiful woman and she was flattered by compliments of a much younger man. This turned all his love for her into very bad feelings and he treated his youngest child much differently. Her admission only hurt her husband and her youngest child who was an innocent young girl. Do not tell ANYONE!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  38. Lord help
    October 5, 2011

    Lol Lol Lol I know who hayyyyyyyyyyy whossssssss mouth open business jump out papa. Well it have more to that story is only time. My girl do what make you happy that all i can say he cannot black mail you because he told you a lot of negative things about the woman he have a child with lol lol now i can laugh.

  39. Uncle Dildo
    October 5, 2011

    By ur statement it is plain as daylight that you have already screwed the new guy. Stop playing with the readers here. Now have have tasted the forbidden fruit u cant seem to walk away so here u go blah blahing looking for support. My advice is, since you liked it so much then walk away from the marriage before it turns hostile. Good luck ih ur new man. Hopefully he was serious about caring for you and not only wanted a piece of arse.

  40. October 5, 2011

    “I became emotionally and physically attracted to him” Here it is again! The magic words describing what our human senses do to us, as they take control of our mind which is untrained and indisciplined.

    In this case it is the senses of feel and see. Eyes and fleshly feelings coming together to conceive the sin of lust in the mind of this yound married woman.

    I saw his (maybe gorgeous body) with my eyes and just looking at him put all sorts thoughts in my mind, and my flesh started to experience feelings for him.

    Now because of what I see and feel about this man I am now experiencing the symptom of “human affection” or the “lust of the flesh” which might me to cause to cheat on my husband, and to commit a sin against God.

    “I love my family and would not want my marriage to break” Does this young woman love her husband, or is she just concerned about the rumor of her marriage break-up in the first place?

    I know what Love is, and I cannot imagine myself in love with my husband of 6 years, and still thinking about another man when I am in bed with him–say what!

    The apostle John tells us that the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eye is not of the Father; it is of the world.

    People, the “world” is us “human beings!” When John 3:16 said: “For God so loved the “world” those words are not talking about trees, plants, rivers, oceans, seas, and lakes; those words are not talking about building structures around us.

    The Gospel of John is talking about “people” the world that God came as a Man to die for them that if they believe He would give them Life.

    Human beings are moving about without Life, until they have accepted Jesus Christ as their Savior–God connecting to them through conscience and the power of His Holy Spirit.

    The apostle Paul tells us “do not conform to the world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind”

    As human being we have a mind that is not trained or disciplined to respond to God ways–the ways of Love.

    This mind can only respond to the command of our human senses. But our human senses is under the influence of God’s enemy–the devil, who wants us to do things against the Will of our Holy God.

    Through the commands of our human senses into our minds Satan, steals, kill, and destroy us, as he influences us to remain disconnected from God, by feeding us with vanity, making us think that we are satisfied.

    Only that this safisfaction does not last for too long. Could be that this yound lady married because of human affection, which could be expired from both her and her husband’s mind toward each other.

    When we become connected to God through conscience, His Holy Spirit takes control of our mind from there, that is how our carnal mind goes into it renewing state, teaching us how to know–to discern– the path of the command that enters our mind, that we might accept or deny that command.

    Word are very powerful. God used words to create heaven and earth. Before He formed Adam, He said the words: “Let us make man in our Image and Likeness.’

    God speaks the idea of His mind that it might manifest before Him in its distinctive form.

    Jesus prayed and 5 loaves and 2 small fish was enough to feed more than 5000 people and there was 12 baskets left over.

    He said to the open tomb of the dead man: Lazarus come forth! And the man walked out of his grave. God wants us, human beings, to do the same thing–to speak to Him or to speak against Satan in His name, but we must reconnect to Him by our faith, through conscience.

    If that young lady had a mind that was in its renewing state–meaning if she was connected to God through her conscience, whether she loves her husband or not, she would not be faced with this dilemma, which she is facing right now.

    As human beings we need to be seriously concerned about our state of mind. Because if we are not concerned, there is nothing God can do and Satan will use our carnal minds against.

    People in Dominica, if you do not understand what I am saying here, just look at the political turmoil that we are facing today. All of it is the work of Satan, because those in question do not know that they are giving complete charge of the situations in their lives. But God is watching–Satan cannot win!

    Whether we are priest, bishop, pastor, preadher, or the greatest community leader the majority of us are simply functioning by the control of our human senses, into our untrained and indiscipline minds, with no awareness that the things we do, we are doing to bring us to our own destructive fate.

    That is what the devil wants to happen us. But God knows he will not get what he wants, unless we give that authority.

    That is how I know that our country and our people are going to be okay! We just have to learn to speak against Satan as loud as we can do so; to get him to vanish from our lives, taking along his wicked schemes with him.

    • papa met!
      October 5, 2011

      Well you have time on your hands papa! to type that novel there.

      • October 6, 2011

        @papa met

        If you read carefully you will notice that I work for God Almighty. So by His Will I have the time, the wisdom, the revelation, and the strength to do His work.

        What you need to do now, is take the little time that you have and learn from my writing; because my message is not mine, but it is through me from the Man, Himself, by the power of His Holy Spirit. His name is Jesus Christ. That is the reason why my name here, is lizavier4jesus

        Also God is of Spirit and Truth, and He has commanded me to use Lizavier, which is part of my real name and part of my real surname Elizabeth Xavier. My friends call me Liz. I am not hiding behind a false name.

        That is the reason when I write to comment on an article I write one long post, and you will never see any post that is from me with another name, as some commentators are doing here, everyday.

        I am noticing that some people write here on the same news article using five or six different names. Those people are just too foolish to know that “smart people” can perceive the same sentiment of there mind when they write.

        I have a very high sense of perception to make out the same person with two, three, four, and five different names.

        A truth is spoken once and its stands forever. That is the way of what I write. You should take heed, lest you regret forever. And Alas!

      • Not as wise as you
        October 6, 2011

        Exactyl, a novel!!! She is living in la la land. Not real!! Nothing she say is real. She should read her Bible more thoroughly. She would see where the wisest man who ever lived (Solomon) made the same mistakes that all real human being make up to today. She should read about Abraham who lied and said his wife was his sister. She should read about all the other Bible characters who make all types of mistakes. That is why the Bible said all have sinned. There is none that doeth good. There is no perfect person (except for her). Loving any body is not a sin. Love is not a sin. You just have to guard your borders and pray for God to deliver you. Anything can happen to anybody at any given time. NO ONE IS EXEMPT. I hope that this young lady finds the answer that she seeks.

    • Anomynous
      October 7, 2011

      You right, you work for your god = satan :twisted:

      • October 9, 2011

        @anonymous and notaswiseasyouare

        And the two of you think that what you say is real and you two have bodies that untouchable from God’s wrath eh! Is that what it is? Nothing bad can happen to the both of you eh! Is that what the two of you believe?

        Oh yeah! Nothing I say is real! And I am working for Satan!

        So now I call in the Name of Jesus Christ, asking God Almighty to allow Satan to touch the both of you, so you will know that He is a Living God, who does bless and curse, by the word of mouth of His servants in this world.

        What I say is not real, and I am working for Satan, eh! Now curses be unto the two of you by the Will and authority of my Holy and Almighty God, Eternal Spirit–Christ who lives in Jesus Christ! May your flesh turn into worms, while you are still walking on two feet.

        Now find out at God’s time, when He will executive His wrath on the both of you; and then, tell Him that nothing bad can happen to you–that the two of you are immortal.

        Nothing I say is real, and I am working for eh! Now Watch for God’s time on the both of you! Then come back and tell me if the affliction in your bodies and the torment in your minds, is not real. Curse be to the both of you! In the name of Jesus Christ! Amen!

  41. ..
    October 4, 2011

    A thief can compensate for what he stole, but an adulterer can make no repayment. What compensation could one offer an angry husband or wife? No amount of pleading is likely to win the wrongdoer compassion. In no way can the adulterer make restitution for his sin. The trust is GONE. The reproach and dishonor heaped upon his/her own name remains. How wise it is to stay clear of adultery as well as other conduct and attitudes that defame our good name and may bring reproach upon God!

  42. Justice and Truth
    October 4, 2011

    The age old temptation and wanting what you do not have! This is really playing with fire. What is this man’s status? Is she happy with her husband? If she is happy and in love with him she would not have feelings for another man. Something may be wrong with her marriage.
    I would not advise her to pursue this outside relationship. If her husband finds out she will get in trouble, in that, distrust, disagreement, separation and divorce may ensue.
    Lady, think about this. You need to pray to God to overcome this feeling. It may be infatuation. Tread carefully.

  43. Morchoroh
    October 4, 2011

    Sweetheart i have a little advise for. Stay where you are.The devil you already know is better than the angel that you’re trying to get to know.I was married and fell into a similar trap.I was hospitalised at the ST Thomas hospital(v.i.)and she was no where to be seen.She was in Puerto Rico with my co-worker at a hotel.I lost everything ,wife and children.Is that what you want?

    • shame
      March 22, 2012

      Oh my God, your wife away with your friend in a hotel? She swent right P/Rico to do her nastiness with your friend. Was it in the month of April? around the lentent season. That’s the time satan likes to show his strength.

  44. Sout Man
    October 4, 2011

    Classic infatuation!! Have you thought beyond the day this guy gets into your panties? Red flag – ting, ting ting, “he wants a secrete relationship”. In other words, he wants you to be his slut. Does he have kids, a wife or girl friend? He is not being honest with you. It’s OK to leave your husband if you so desire but it is not OK to cheat on him. You will live with the shame and regrets and Mr. Nice Guy will move on to fool someone else until he meets his downfall.

    • repent
      March 22, 2012

      You are a very wise guy. The men just sugar coat their tongues and conquer a married woman P just like that. And the woman would never say to the husband I have cheated on you and am leaving. There scared because the man is their husband’s friend and their cousin’s boyfriend.

  45. daflower2
    October 4, 2011

    i fell sorry for you .but if you know whats good for you .you would leave that alone

  46. So Na
    October 4, 2011

    My Girl , Forget about the man !! Next thing you pass IT once pass IT twice and you keep on passing it.When u dun caught ureself u`ll be like a book.Nexthing the page tear,the man go ,you in rowrow!!!!!OU PAL LAY POSE ! U BETTER HOLD UR KYAT AND BEAT IT FOR UR HUSBAND ! :lol:

  47. me
    October 4, 2011

    The best person she need to express her problem to is her husband. But then again, Mr is not going to trust mamzel again. further more every once in a while he neds to monitor any incoming or out going calls to his wife. So that he can weed those wild weeds that are growing in his garden. Poor fella, somebody is sleeping in your bed boy.

    • sot
      March 22, 2012

      Dat man dotish, boy. He not getting clues den. Is he a fisher of men?

  48. forreal
    October 4, 2011

    gal personally,you sound like somebody that just like attention,in one word you say you love your family,and then turning around and say you have feelings for another,how you getting that do,you must be feeling is retarded people that reading them blogs,that is why this man was in the media condemning marriage, is people like you that creating that criteria,is only one advice you need,stop your nastiness. :(

    • forreal
      October 5, 2011

      suppose your husband find out and he take your head out with a cutlass,people going and say de man bad,but people do not see a story have two sides,is woman so that does make good man turn bad.

      • Sugar
        October 6, 2011

        Suppose he find out what? that she is a human being with real feelings that she did not act on ? Then he take out her head with her cutlass because he himself so perfect and he never looked at another woman with lust in his eyes ? Guys don’t even keep their feelings for other women secret you should hear them with the other guys on the block “Garsa I wooden mind cokay mamzelle”
        Does that sound familiar ? Do you know of any woman wanting to kill her husband if he even look ? saqway sot

  49. waitukubuli
    October 4, 2011

    Chupes – A grown woman like you? IM A ” YOUNG MARRIED LADY”. Young or old you are married and that is reason enough to not even go down that road. Your liver itchy? chupes people –

  50. RAS
    October 4, 2011


    • i mean it to
      October 4, 2011

      U IS A F RAT

      • Poor man
        March 22, 2012

        He will find out about that rat one day. He thought he had a cat, when in fact he had a f rat.

  51. shy
    October 4, 2011

    WOMAN ,i won’t even waste my precious time answering you, you don’t deserve an answer.Your crutch belongs to your husband only.

    • h really!
      October 4, 2011

      act as if u never find urself attracted to some1 else even when u have a partner!!.hypocrite!

      • shy
        October 4, 2011

        You got to have self control, especially when you are MARRIED.Then why marry if you know you want to stray.STUPES.

  52. Francis Chicago
    October 4, 2011

    When you dwell on corrupted thoughts you’re walking, not after the spirit, but after the flesh that was introduced by the vain imagination.As a married whoman you should have the ability because your carnal mind are hostile toward god Romans]8;7 using the written law of God as your guide for truth is the first sign.As you learn to judge all your thoughts you will discover that fear, insecurity and confusion. Three ways stan’s counterfeit weapon;The FLESH SATAN AND HIS DEMONIC FORCES THE WORLD.Woman fight for your victory is yours-Jesus has overcome them.

  53. GMONEY
    October 4, 2011

    Alone GOD can judge you, we can’t judge you. These people that are leaving some bad comments maybe has secert also, do what makes you happy.

  54. Anonymous
    October 4, 2011

    Alone god can judge, I can judge you. Those people that is judging had secrets also. All i can say do what make you feel happy

  55. pusina
    October 4, 2011

    That woman sounding like a movay Ti sal to the T. So she didn’t mention if she and the man co**** i bet they did. This woman is a nasty crate papa for her to just see a man and get all emotionally connected to the man. Secondly if the man want to black mail you now he can put your business out there and you then going to loss all for nothing. Puss think with your head not your sus.. Nuff said by queen Pusina.. WHOSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

    • Been There Done That
      October 4, 2011

      “The furthest we have gotten though is expressing our feelings to each other”. She did say that they only expressed there feelings to each other. Why judge her. All the hypocrites on here cannot tell me that one time or the other in their life did not feel something for someone other than their spouse. The thing is acting on it. You let it go. The feelings will come but you have to exercise self control. The more you try to push him the more you will feel for him. You need to face it head on and let him know that you are a one man woman and although you have these feelings for him, your family comes first.

      • Woodford Hill girl
        October 5, 2011

        So she is the one who said that SHE first expressed her feelings to him even telling him how she thinks of him when she’s having sex with her husband,now that’s a little much don’t you think?being attracted to someone is a natural thing,but when you are married the love for your spouse alone will difuse any follow-up feelings/behaviors, if she loved her husband she would have never persued this other guy,and I dare express a word of caution to this other guy, beware of women like this one,she will do the same to you as soon as the next attractive man comes along,I’m just saying.

    • pusina
      October 5, 2011

      WHOSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS all those people dislike my comment. papa i will tell all u something good but anyways MASSSSSSSSSSSHHHHH.. This is my opinion so who vix can kiss my kathay….

  56. young n watching
    October 4, 2011

    It is completely normal to be attracted to someone however to act on these feelings as a married woman would be wrong. Flush him out of your system. If you say that you love your husband and family, being true to them and yourself is the key. Be strong, pray for strength with this temptation because after it destroys your family this guy will be on the run looking for someone else. He does not love you, he just wants sex. Pure and simple. I am younger than you are but reading your plea I realise that the devil is looking to put asunder into something that is good and real.

  57. fatty batty
    October 4, 2011

    my dear sister,marriage is a commitment between you and your husband and your family,PLEASE do not make this man break up what u have for all these years,i can bet my last penny as long as he GET THE SEX his gone and the only REWARD FOR YOU IS HAVING and FEELING is REGRETS, PAIN,GUILTY,AND A BROKEN HOME AND A BROKEN MARRIAGE.you have already giving him the means when you told him about the feeling you have to wards him,my dear sister,stop all contract with him discard the face book ,the phone number,find ways to spend time with your husband and family go to the beach, watch a movie,drives,do things you like with your family and husband that always makes u smile and forget about that other man reading i can tell u love your family why destroy it for something your hubby is giving u already.ITS JUST SEX,good luck my dear sister seek the lord prayer,GOD listens and answer PRAYERS.

    • Francis Chicago
      October 5, 2011

      well said

  58. The Real 767
    October 4, 2011

    wait, wait, wait just one minute…
    i just realize she’s being a typical MAN… lol lol lol she wants to have her cake and eat it too!!!

    It only works for men honey.. the minute you get to ….that man you are going to be called “NASTY”

    so i say… enjoy your husband. f*** him till you drop.. get your mind off that dude.

    • Woodford Hill girl
      October 5, 2011

      Lolol you have a nasty mouth but you are so right.

  59. Anonymous
    October 4, 2011

    Bella, your answer is so correct.

  60. Gaza
    October 4, 2011

    Girl stay with your husband.. aids people aids! nastiness is becoming a fashion.

  61. big fat sookooyan
    October 4, 2011

    If you are thinking about some other man while having sex with your husband, (1) you do not love your husband, (2) your husband is not really hitting that sh** in bed like like a real man.

  62. death and sufering
    October 4, 2011

    well u can have two its always better than one

    • Woodford Hill girl
      October 8, 2011

      @ Death and suffering, is that why you call yourself “death and suffering?” good choice though! :( :cry:

  63. babygirl
    October 4, 2011

    telling him how u feel is OK, but i also think you should talk to our husband when u doing it let Ur husband know that u love him and only him (we are all human) you got married at an early age that OK. i don’t like when he say that he don’t want to break up any marriage but he want a secret relationship NO NO NO don’t mess up your family.

  64. mouth of the south
    October 4, 2011

    um admin u must give that ‘u are posting to quickly’ message serious consideration….. i always refresh my page even long b4 u were telling others this is what to do… just one or 2 refreshes n that’s it… but now admin i’ve realized i’ve had to refresh like 10 times b4 that go…. this may seem like nothing but in this day and age it’s a troubling scenario… i guess other bloggers might just forget the whole idea of posting… it’s about time something is done about that.. and another thing… i see some people manage to have their photos on their comments… i’d like to know how to have mine also… thanks…

    • tiny
      October 4, 2011

      so Dno why didn’t you answer the padna

    • pusina
      October 4, 2011

      Papa you and admin have a thing now after i put him down. whosss.. well mouth of the south enjoy the ride admin going to take you on.

    • Ice
      October 4, 2011

      I have had that problem as well but what worked for me is to save your whole comment immediately after typing it. If after posting you get that annoying message then try again and release the message that you saved

  65. love to give
    October 4, 2011

    you should not even go as far as telling this guy bout your felings ,he will always have that edge over u.you are already weekened anytime you see him,by the way he has the same features your husband has,stop that or you will make your children and marriage suffer for someone who will never be serious bout you.wake up smell the coffee lady.
    do the right thing

  66. Trouble Intended
    October 4, 2011

    You don’t want to be married anymore. You probably love your husband but you looking for some action on the side. If that was not the case, you would not even be writing here about this. Even if you listen to what Bella and the other people here are saying, and you leave this person alone, how long will it be before you become attracted and bavaaying over the next person? If you not ready for marriage, you should not have gotten into it. Grow Up.

    • Woodford Hill girl
      October 5, 2011

      And I say Amen to that,well said although I had a little trouble understanding “bavaaying” at first lol

  67. Anonymous
    October 4, 2011

    hey i know who you are and your husband is my friend so you better tell that guy to stop calling you and change your phone number or i will tell your hussie about that
    you are playing with fire. so you better quite now.

    • mouth of the south
      October 4, 2011

      hahaha…. u have no idea who this is… stop bluffing lol

    • Jah know
      October 4, 2011

      lol. this comment is cracking me up boy

    • KoKo Naughts
      October 4, 2011

      lol…Padner if is me, tell me u kno! I doh wanna be horned no more!! lol.

  68. baby
    October 4, 2011

    love ur husband an forget him,,when u cant forget him ,,,jump in bed with him and call it a day

  69. SomerEmpress
    October 4, 2011

    Seem like you had no business getting married in the first place, girlie! I’m surprised by how little it took for you to become “attracted to someone emotionally”, that you would go as far to exchange cell numbers, Facebook contacts, etc. Sounds like you got yourself into a real pickle, girl! Good luck getting out!

    It seems like you need to work on building some trust in the relationship that you DO have, and that is your marriage! Like Lauryn Hill said, “Fantasy is what you want, but reality is what you need.” L’evay bo’dow, ti’ moon! (Sp?)

      October 6, 2011


  70. ss
    October 4, 2011

    How does he not want to be the cause of your broken marriage but is asking u all to get in a “secret relationship”… sweety its just mind over matter.. try spending more Quality time with your husband, remember the reason you fell in love with him which convinced you to marry him. Keep messages and calls to your friend strictly platonic, hi hello, how are you, im busy, ttyl.. and slowly but surely less time with him and more time with your family u will get over those feeling. Trust me, you are stronger than that and u have control over how u feel.

    • Anonymous
      October 4, 2011

      ss..i like your comment because some of us are so hypocrite in thinking that because a person is married they cant get attracted to another person beside their husband. well we are all humans and it DOES happen at times. its what you do about that attraction that matters….girl all you have to do is think about the reason you marry ur husband, the sweet side of him…i am a married woman and sometimes when i get upset or down about my husband/marriage, i just listen to our wedding song…and trust me it helps alot!

      • October 5, 2011

        If a song can bring you back to your husband and a your marriage; why do you think it is good for a woman to think of another man while she is in bed with a woman.

        You are right being married does not stop human affection towards another person; it is the bond of love in the marriage that prevents this situation.

        My love for my husband make me see only him as a man in my Life. Everybody else–male or female– are just regular people to me

        Marriage is for until death do us part, but this kind of marriage is the kind that is bonded by Love–of Spirit and Truth–marriage bonded only by the words repeated after another human being cannot live.

      • October 5, 2011

        correction: while she is in bed with her husband.

      • Been There Done That
        October 5, 2011

        Amen to that. I am a married woman too. As the saying goes ‘even if you are on a diet, does not mean you cannot look at the menu’. You just don’t order it. Cause it will only cause heartache for your husband, your children and for yourself.

  71. tiny
    October 4, 2011

    well if you are not a born again believer….or if you are an atheist like HUMANIST….you should start pushing for certain laws to be changed because they are outdated….. we should have group or a marriages or permitted extra marital affairs… you should be able to enjoy life to the fullest as long are you are willing to accept the consequences of your actions…i mean it’s just 70 years right….go ahead have some fun girl……

    there is a God…and we should live according to his statutes…the flesh is weak …..

    • tiny
      October 4, 2011

      ok i meant group marriages…need to start being more careful before i post …too many errors

    • Justice and Truth
      October 8, 2011

      @ tiny

      God knows how weak human nature is. He knows how many times people will fall in life even when they have asked His forgiveness, sometimes in tears.
      You must keep in mind that we have an enemy, the enemy of God and of our souls “who goes about like a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour” (Holy Scripture).
      This is why God is so compassionate, merciful and forgiving. He expects that we will be likewise if we hope to expect His forgiveness.

  72. Roz
    October 4, 2011

    Sweetie, engage yourself in matters of your family. Concentrate on the good, and long lasting qualities of your husband. Channel that energy you feel for this guy to your family. Don’t do something you will soon regret. This guy thinks you are weak. YOu let him in so easily. Trust me, he will be in and out. And you might end up wishing you never let him in.

  73. The Real 767
    October 4, 2011

    If have sex with the man see how fast the attraction will go and you will be full of regret.
    The man just wants to you.

    • Woodford Hill girl
      October 5, 2011

      767 you are so right,the first dangerous thing she did was not being attracted to the guy, that comes naturally “we were created this way”,it was her telling him that’s the problem,there is hardly a man alive that would pass up that “invitation”men are very physical and from the minute she told him how she felt about him his imagination took off like a race horse,to him it’s nothing emotional it’s all physical,wake up honey he just wants to sample the goods you offer him,which I might add belongs to your husband only and not to be shared,but hey I’m just saying, let your concience be your guide you know what is right and you know what is wrong

  74. ineedfree
    October 4, 2011

    “Drop him like a stone” …I concur

    If your husband is good to you, there is going to be a lot of regret in time.

    Be strong. We wish you success in the fight with this demonic force…once you’re tempted to do wrong, it’s a evil forces testing your faith in the Amighty.

    Let the good spirit help to fight; it wont be too long before you gain the victory. Stay focus with those happy vows.

    Blessed love

  75. Anonymous
    October 4, 2011

    You are playing with fire. You have gone too far already, telling him how you feel about him. Doing that, you have givn him an opening to pursue you.

    And done believe him when he said he does not want to cause problems in your marriage. He may not want to cause you grief, but him purusing you is exactly what you will encounter.

    Drop him like a stone. It will hurt for a while, but the pain will slowly fade away.

    • Woodford Hill girl
      October 5, 2011

      Well according to what she said I don’t think that he’s the one persuing her I think it’s the other way around, she needs to make a 360 turn and keep going.

      • Sout Man
        October 5, 2011

        A 360 turn will take her back to the very same spot. But I know what you mean girl. A 180 degree turn is all she needs.

      • Been There Done That
        October 5, 2011

        We all keep giving advice to the lady but we thought of her husband. She should not get involved with this attraction for sure but maybe her husband needs to do something about his marriage. If she can spill to this guy, then she might be looking for something that she is not from her husband. They may have drifted apart. He may be hanging out more with his friends than his family. Maybe he comes home, watch tv and then start snoring. If this is the case she is like an ornament and she needs dusting off. Sweetheart talk to your husband. Not about the attraction but about how you feel. Communication is the key. God’s blessings be upon you and your family.

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