Older man wants me to leave my young boyfriend

I started dating an older man (for the love of $$$$$) some time aback and I really like him a lot. But I was in a beautiful relationship with this wonderful and young white boy who thinks the world of me. But we kind of broke up the day before I met this older man because I was too honest with when I told him that I cheated on him with one of his close friends.

But the true problem here is that the older man has a girlfriend and he says he is on the verge of leaving her. Recently the older guy found out about my boyfriend and he keeps demanding that I leave him. I kind of obeyed his command but I quickly took the white boy back and now we’re in a sexual relationship again.

What should I do because I know I can’t be with the both of them at once since they both know about each other. Is it fair that older guy should ask me to leave my boyfriend of 2 years(white boy) for him when I’ve never asked him to leave his girlfriend of 10 years?

What should I do?

Confused

Dear Confused,

We live in a cruel world where love can be insensitive, harsh and blind. It can create hate, mistrust and break up relationships.

Before meeting the older “Sugar-Daddy”; you were in a relationship with this younger man who thought the world of you and whom I assume never gave you a reason to doubt his love. What guarantees do you have that the older guy will leave his girlfriend of 10 years for you? Compared to your relationship of two years; he has more to loose. He may just be an unfair, jealous and possessive old man who wants you all for himself while still having his steady girlfriend of 10 years! In other words, he’s the one in charge because he got the MONEY (which is obviously what lured you to him).

You are placing yourself in a position which will eventually result in self hate and embarrassment. The ball is in your court; you can continue with “Sugar-Daddy” where you may end up being second best or just the ‘young flex’ or your boyfriend of two years to whom you mean the world (only you)! PLAY WISELY!

Bella

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88 Comments

  1. Mew mem
    December 11, 2011

    Omg! That is just nasty! I am over 30 and i refuse to have any old man pee in my pwell. I don’t care how much money he has. Girl have u heard of HIV or AIDS?? Your love for money will be your downfall. One man for the pum pum girl!!

    • hmmmm
      January 12, 2012

      d gurl na say is a old man idiot said older ok….n u dont no how old she is so dont b judging her………….we na no wa u do behind close doors :-x

  2. Been there done that
    December 7, 2011

    First off you should have never let them know about the other. Since you did don’t ruin 2 happy years with someone that truly love you for someone that don’t…… Next time keep your shit on the down low and train the older guy, let him know off the bat what the deal is, it eliminate problems later.

    • gareb
      February 19, 2012

      I read the comments and been there done that has pissed me off saying you need to train him. I am older and my girl is younger but I am not a sugar daddy. I plan to marry her someday.Age doesn’t mean crap. I look, feel and better than I did when I was 39. And think and love the same as then. I also don’t share my future other half with anyone else because out souls become one.

  3. Jwr...
    December 7, 2011

    Girl you make it real hard for us (the few good men left) want to continue trust our women. One moment you think they are happy with one man and suprisingly they get fu*cked for a box of milk or even worse an artificially flavoured bag juice. Jeez. Dem pum pum dont even shame:(

    • hmmmm
      January 12, 2012

      dont make one girl make us all of us other girls pay

  4. December 6, 2011

    MY girl, You have a good man, why u wanna let a good thing go just cuz u see money???
    You want money? Get a good Job or sumting

    Yous hudnt hav even post that shit! cuz u gonna make all women look bad, De old man jus gonna use you and embarrass u! when ur vagina gone slack and old man money done and young man leav u, u will be like a fool..cranana in de country scratchin ur belly for skerrit..my girl get some dignity, pick up ur pride and stick withh ur KING!

  5. jj
    December 5, 2011

    the world going to end in 2012 anyways. y not have a little fun while we still her nah!!!!!!!!!! enjoy it while it last!!!!!!!!! live your life till the day u die!!!!! :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D

  6. December 2, 2011

    boy al u wil kil me a young woman every have th e heart to write that,sweet heart u are not ashame to say u havin sex with two men where is your pride wel as p said keep both because i dotn see u doing any one of them any good u are a cheater

    • Reidaut
      February 15, 2014

      Sandra Please stop the condemnation.Should I condemn you because have sex out of wedlock? cme on stop it

  7. Arrrgh
    December 1, 2011

    Dear Bella :
    Team Jacob or Edward??

    *wink wink*

  8. Aiai
    December 1, 2011

    Allu, I does spend 2 minutes reading the story and 20 minutes reading the comments all the while laughing. DNO does amuse me.

  9. Nudibranch
    November 30, 2011

    you putting a monetary value on it. why not hit the street whilst you’re at it if that’s all it takes.

  10. P
    November 30, 2011

    Honestly keep them both….tell the older guys you done with the younger guy and let the younger guy know the benefits of having a sugar daddy. Both of all you are benefiting in the relationship…
    Give up a little pum pum…. rub is dickies between your leg :D

  11. Ha
    November 30, 2011

    LMAO!!! YOU TO NASTY.

  12. oh my
    November 30, 2011

    1 man cant satisfy her,she needs more wood 4 the fire.U know the rest

  13. VV
    November 30, 2011

    doh make the old man breathe in your face ok! Tell the white boy if he cannot come up with the MUllah $$$$ then the toothelss guy stays, he can stay too. LMAO

    • Truth
      November 30, 2011

      Now thats funny!!! Sacway Salop!! hahahahha :lol: :lol: :lol:

  14. What u want?
    November 30, 2011

    My dear make up your mind, u seem confuesed

  15. disturbed
    November 30, 2011

    girl i feel sorry fou you. you are not confused you are stupid! Live that old man alone he does not love you.You are sounding like my sister who is in love with a married man who is happily married with his wife and children and does not want her to go out with anybody. Women start using your head…it has a brain in it for crying it out loud!

  16. shy
    November 30, 2011

    Zor toe aimé largent.Your mind the man will live his woman for you, stay their, sort.The two of them will use you, then when they ready to settle down, get a decent young woman to settle down with.You between the two of them roling like a ball, you think the white boy stupid, he done lose respect for you, now you are being used honey used.

  17. sombody
    November 30, 2011

    Woman cheap those days dere…. Wat u expect money is 4 vanity but aids is the result!!! Old man with money doesn’t mean he’s cleann!!

  18. hmph
    November 30, 2011

    bella you and your fake stories…white boy this young boy that.first it was 19 with house good job and car now this.
    if you so real so long i send you my story miss bella like since july,and i yet to get a responce. come on man

  19. death and sufering
    November 29, 2011

    watever

  20. death and sufering
    November 29, 2011

    who cares bout your life story,go write this in your diary or something we aint your shrink dammm

  21. Anonymous
    November 29, 2011

    Dat thing to nasty boi

  22. MAY
    November 29, 2011

    WELL GIRL THATS A SAD LIFE TO LIVE. SO THE
    OLDER MAN IS YOU SUGAR DADDY, GIRL STOP THIS
    NONSENCE DONT LET THE OLD MAN USE YOU AND STOP SELLING YOUR BODY FOR MATERIAL THINGS.
    HE HAS A GIRL FRIEND FOR 10 YEARS WHAT MAKE
    YOU THINK HE WILL HER FOR YOU, WHEREAS HE
    KNOWS THAT YOU HAVE A YOUNG BOYFRIEND.WHAT
    LOVE GOT TO DO WITH THIS YOU ARE SELLING
    HE HAS MONEY HE’S BUYING.

  23. forreal
    November 29, 2011

    what happen you making more bomb than russia nah,is only woman that making bomb that going with man for money.

  24. thomas
    November 29, 2011

    girl you only have one life to live live your life and don’t forget to protect yourself because AIDS is around thse conner

  25. November 29, 2011

    Girl take the old man money n feed ur man man but doe sex wit the old man just make him feel nice like call sexy names

    • Anonymous
      November 29, 2011

      That is what u were doing?

      • HAHA!!
        November 30, 2011

        LOLZ :lol: :lol: :lol: u crack me up dere!
        u KNOW is that she wuz doing!!!!

  26. Disappointed
    November 29, 2011

    Now DNO this one is a joke. You guys have done a good job creating the other fictitious stories ; this one is over dramatized – Why the emphasis on the White boy. We got it the first time. If only there was less emphasis on the white boy then the story would have been more believable but it seem like the originator was forcing the issue to spark a racial intonation during the bloggs. After this I’m not sure bloggers are going to approach those stories with the same level of enthusiasm, humor and maybe some level of seriousness.

    • hmmmm
      January 12, 2012

      seriously………when i first read the story i was wondering y the (whiteboy)was mentioned so much..ooooo bella we heard white boy the first 3TIMES

  27. IS THAT U HERE WII
    November 29, 2011

    STUPESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
    WELL STAY CONFUSED AND WHEN YOU WAKE UP IN YOUR DREAM WORLD YOU WILL REALISE

  28. EBONY
    November 29, 2011

    Your answering your own question. Your with one for money and the other, you don’t have the sense to be faithful to….so do you really want to choose or are you looking for some validation?

  29. LawieBawie
    November 29, 2011

    This chick is just nasty!! Nobody even seemed to read the part where she said that she also screwed one of her boyfriend’s closest friends.

  30. I'mWondering
    November 29, 2011

    why does it matter so much that the boy is WHITE. can’t the story simple be about you dating an older and a younger man. I do not get the hangup about colour.

    It maybe that your issue runs deeper that what you are stating. You may want to have the white man as a symbol and use the non white for $$$ and sex.

    Get yourself in check – enough with all this b.s

    Some women just make themselves look bad for what – a penis and money?

    Cha…. you must be suffering from some inferiority complex because you dwell so much on the “white” guy. …Find yourself before you lose and wreck yourself

    • Aiai
      December 1, 2011

      You didn’t see she never mention love. She plainly stated why she with the two men:

      Man Number 1 have money

      Man Number 2 white.

  31. joe
    November 29, 2011

    girl dont even try that.i am a prime example .i had a very loving boyfriend (without a job)so i decided to cheat on him with a so called more mature man with a job,guess what harpened after that ,after both of them find out about the other ,and a few roughup from both of them i tell them i change but i no i did not .the conclusion .they both dumped me ,find another woman and get married .i am still single and they call me now and then to remind me and of corse to take their revenge if u no what i mean

  32. Anonymous
    November 29, 2011

    Leave all of them bcause u r a disease waiting 2 spread. U r promisuous. U cheated with white boy friend, u have sugar daddy, and now u screwing white boy again. Please woman, stop making all woman look bad.

  33. Shameless
    November 29, 2011

    Like my granny would say; e sam ou knee un bonda chaud (looks like you have a hot bottom). What ever floats your boats but be reminded to make these guys cover the lolow because you never know what they can pass onto you. Enjoy while it last.

    • amwaay
      November 29, 2011

      you’re killin me …u r really killin me…can watch your facial expression with dat one

  34. Truth
    November 29, 2011

    Both those guys wanted a salop and they found you. Apparently you can admit to using one for sex and the other for $$ and sex. While they’re both using you just for sex, everybody in the nasty crew happy so what’s the problem?

  35. LOL
    November 29, 2011

    But wait nobody noticed that she had broken up with her boyfriend because she had cheated on him with his close friend?
    Mamselle like to sex wii…girl leave both man and do yr do cause u there more for sex than money or love..lol

  36. anuket
    November 29, 2011

    To the com-mentor who state that money is surely the root of all evil, please check your sources, I think the christian bi bill say and I quote It is “the love of money is the root of all evil.” Robert Kyosakiy said in one of his books that the lack of money is also the root of evil. When I was a child in DCA, in church that’s what they used to say that money is the root of all evil and that is because the subliminal message to black folks is to have money you have to be evil. I figure that is why we as a people is so poor. you can thank Christianity for that. We the Negroid black race is not suppose to be poor, why? because God The Most High put the black man on the richest part of the planet earth.AFRICA,NEGROID LAND. Africa for African at home and abroad, find your way back to black.Be Proud of your-self. your beautiful Black, Brown, Yellow, Honey, Light skin what ever you complexion, as long as you are black your are an African.

    • Texas
      November 29, 2011

      The bible never said “the love of money is the root of all evil” It said the love of money is A root of all evil” get it right my friend!

  37. chupes
    November 29, 2011

    Young white boy, young white boy…

    Woman you sound confused and as if you are rocking a cradle. Are you also looking for some kinda social status or what? repeating the boy’s skin color over and over.

    Woman you too confused.

    • ...........
      November 29, 2011

      fuh real, she caught up in this white boy story and older man with money. Typical money hungry beeatch.

  38. ME
    November 29, 2011

    why hate,, women love men for different reasons and vice versa,,, why is always Tarbo when a young woman date an older man with monney? why is she always labeled as a hoe?,,, nothing for nothin legs close… I can love a man because he is cute , why not because he has money? Juss saying

    • lol
      November 29, 2011

      Then u are using the wrong word… it’s not ‘love’. it’s ‘f***’ a man for his money.

  39. magwe ca!
    November 29, 2011

    another funny story. I tip my hat to you my dear dear bella! you have a very vivid imagination. thanks for making me laugh once a week. hahahahhaha you should write soap operas lol lol

    • lolo girl
      November 29, 2011

      hats off …i miss mr nice guy also for my daily laugh

  40. anuket
    November 29, 2011

    Why you keep mentioning that the young man is a white boy, is it because you are not in love with the person but the fact that he is a white boy. You are dating a man and a boy as you state. You clearly have self hate, Is the old man a white man or is he a black man, I suspect that he must be black since you didn’t mention his race and you make sure that you mention the white boy several times. Is he being white a status for you,you state that he thinks the world of you which is more than you think of yourself. Why don’t you get to know your true self and see what is your self worth and don’t measure your value and worth by a man who has money and a boy who happens to be a Caucasoid (white) have respect for your self and with that you will have respect for others. both of these people deserve better and so do you. How can you allow yourself to be a dumping ground for sperm your body is not a landfill, you take on the genetics of everyone you sleep with, also everyone they sleep with, you are junking your DNA, which links you with your ancestors, have respect for those who were before you. Slavery is over we no longer have to sleep with many men anymore, know thyself and you will attract the right mate for you. You must see yourself as beautiful, you must become beautiful inside and outside, love yourself sister don’t allow anyone to just come into your universe and dump there sperm.find that special one and then you both can create beautiful souls together.

  41. Becca
    November 29, 2011

    This is not a problem. Two men, some have none. Ride them both until you no longer can. Enjoy the trip while the ride will be short live. Me say “ride sista, ride”.

    • Anonymous
      November 29, 2011

      Is it she doing the riding, or is they riding her? They cannot get slack or feel like swap dasheen, so bcareful what advise u give 2 the woman.

  42. Gaza
    November 29, 2011

    you too sot de man just want some young poke to ride that’s all.

  43. Anonymous
    November 29, 2011

    but wait .. is that not normal in dominica – for a young girl to be with an older man for his money? i see so many complaints here but this is the reality!!

    me self need a woman with money too!!

  44. Jah know
    November 29, 2011

    so wait a minute! u having sex with de old man and de young man? yak!!!!
    girl stop dat eh! u will just be giving de old man all ur young juice and getting his old juice. and eventually passing on de old juice to de young man. de young man doh deserve dat in his life.
    so as far as i can see it is either or. and my girl it is only wise to refuse de ols juice. 4 Christ’s sake u doh even love de old man. ewww

  45. Dominican girl
    November 29, 2011

    This is soo stupid! I mean girl, are you for real? White boy, are we suppose to be impressed by that? Stop selling yourself, and grow up!

  46. word....
    November 29, 2011

    my girl when u got a king dnt reshuffle d pack cus u mite jus end up wit a joker….

  47. SEWO
    November 29, 2011

    well if she is dating him for his money then what is the big deal…take the money and buy the young (white man) nice things and save for a rainy day…I am sure most of yo women out there will be happy to have a Older man with Money spend on you so don’t be hard or mad at the girl for doing what “WE” may want to do ourselves… All I am saying she is the one to make up her mind..Money is not all but we o need money…Girl use it wisely…

  48. laughing cow
    November 29, 2011

    Girl d old man just using u! Young meat! Money fooling u! Wake up

  49. Married for years
    November 29, 2011

    why do you keep repeating “white boy”. You have a complex my girl?

  50. pusina
    November 29, 2011

    STUPESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

  51. Chris
    November 29, 2011

    You are truly confused!
    1. What benefit does having a relationship with a man who already has woman? Be it that you in it for the money or not… he has a relationship already.
    2. You not with him cause you love him, you with him for material possessions… What sense does this make in the long run?
    3. He doesn’t want you because he loves you… he wants you as his young thing on the side! AND even if he says that he on the verge of leaving his woman… trust me he is not!!

    Haven’t you children learn from the mistakes of the older folks? This has been happening for so long.. women fall into those traps over and over again!

    There is no benefit in this life you are living.

    Stop being confused and open your eyes to the real world! Stop prostituting yourself!

  52. Massacre Girl
    November 29, 2011

    Choops! Some woman really stupid eh. Money is not all my girl, u have a good man if u mess that up ur gonna regret it in the future. Good men are hard to find, u have one so do the right thing! Sigh…

  53. ME
    November 29, 2011

    Girl, get a grip! :-x
    Wake up from this fantasy that everything will be alright. Money is surely the root of all evil – he wants you to break up your relationship while he holds onto his. you surely need someone to knock some sense in your head. Haven’t you heard “never leave what you see for what you haven’t seen?”

  54. Me
    November 29, 2011

    Wait, did you/are you saying that you’re dating this older man because he has some money?

    GGIIRRLLLLLL you’re in a heap of trouble right there if that’s true! If this is really the case, then you “really like” that man because of his MONEY, not so much him HIMSELF.

    Also, what does your “young boyfriend” being white have to do with anything? He’s white so what? Why do we need to know that? Exactly, we don’t.

    • Anonymous
      January 28, 2012

      This girl is stupid first she is with the older man for money now with the younger one cause he is white bottom line i think this chick is sick and a fake ass bitch she is in for something she is not real at all to me she sounds like a Gold digger and big shadow and a waste of time . go on and sell yourself Cheap u think you are important by the time u know it u loose grip and fall foolish u foolish stay there and talking sort.

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