Tell him to leave my boyfriend alone

I have been gay since I knew myself. I met my boyfriend during my high school days at (name of high school withheld) and things have been very good in terms of everything.

Until recently. This guy move to town from the country with his family. He met my boyfriend in the Roseau Market and from there they kind of ‘hit it.’ My boyfriend calls and texts him a lot. He goes over to the guy’s house and although I go along, I just don’t like it.

What I find strange, is that I don’t think the guy is gay because if he was, I am sure he would have try to make a move on me (I am very attractive and irresistible Bella), so why is my boyfriend into him?

This is causing me many sleepless nights and I am on the verge of exploding. All I want to do is to tell him is to leave my boyfriend alone.

Gay to d Bone

Dear Gay to d Bone,

When reading through your email the only thing that keeps going through my mind is insecurity. You don’t feel comfortable in the relationship with your boyfriend and and anyone who gets close to him appears to be a threat to you.

If the guy is not gay as you mentioned, then why are you so worried?

Your boyfriend, like all of us, need friends in his life and you cannot have him limited to only gay friends.

In my mind the guy you are talking about is no threat to your relationship and it is up to you to realize that and get over your insecurities.

Bella

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127 Comments

  1. June 10, 2013

    Dear Gay-to-da-Bone: You seem insecure in your relationship with your boy friend otherwise the presence of this newcomer wouldn’t bother you so much. I also see the boy friend is not as serious about you as you are about him or he would politely tell the new guy to back off. Also this intruder has no regard for you or he would not be closing in and showering your boy friend with attention. Obviously, he doesn’t think you stand a chance and he certainly isn’t afraid of you! Can you imagine this happening with a strait couple? To secretly date a woman behind her boy friend’s back is one thing. But to have them both over to his place at the same time and hit on her in front of her boy friend would show that he considered him literally a non-entity. Gay, somebody should have told by now that true lasting monogmous same sex relationships are rare. Most gays “cruise” and pick up partners. Much of the time they don’t even get the names of the men they are with. The older they get the less attractive they are to other men. There is a saying “Nobody loves you when you’re old and gay”. This happens at a time in life when the man longs for the security nd comfort of a real flesh and blood family. He has often alienated himself from his first true family and does not have the family a married man with children has. Gay, you CAN break free from your homosexuality. The man who thinks he has always been a homosexual is as foolish as the man in the psychiatric hospital who thinks he is a poached egg! Now is the time to surrender to Jesus Christ and let him be Lord of your life. He will tranform you from the inside out. I invite you to visit my website http://www.livinghopeministries.ca and click onto the EAGLE COURSE. This can be studied from the screen or copied absolutely free. The very first chapter will tell you how to received Christ and begin a new life. Find a Bible believing church and begin attending. I recommend a Pentecostal Church. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  2. Diva
    January 24, 2013

    but what boga man ting dat goin on deh. Bella you should have tell mistah “unable to comment on these matters” FYAH BUN DEM!!

  3. Young Wisdom
    August 16, 2012

    People love to involve God in their arguement. God is love! We are supposed to love each other. Jesus didn’t come to save the choir, but the parro, the homo, the worst of the worst… He brought them all to God by loving them.

  4. Hear me Out (Xtra)M
    January 20, 2012

    STOP giving bella fire eh! her job is to give everybody advice ! and every one has there way of life, i am not a lesbian nor do i support gay , i dont even kno bella ! but the guy is gay he’s gay ! dont judge no one! GOD IS THE ONLY JUDGE ! if all you havent got a good comment then don’t COMMENT !!!!!!!!! bON ! Every sin is sin….so liein is jus as much sin as gay in Gods eye…..Swearing is Jus as much as sin in Gods eye, Fornication an Adultery …ce la mem ! Dont come and rate no sin ! all who have to rot gay, the liars , swearers, fornicators and adulterers will rot together wit them !

  5. simple minded people
    January 15, 2012

    I am not gay and I’m not supporting anyone being gay but some of these comments were not even called for. Everyone has thier say on what they want to be. Some are gay, some are straight, some are bi, some like animals etc. We should not bring down people because of thier sexual interest.

    ~

    • June 14, 2013

      Dear Simple Minded…. Looking at your brief comments I must come to one of three possible conclusons. Either you (a) don’t believe there is a God, or (b) you don’t believe He has given us laws to live by and will hold us accountable, or (c) regardless of (a) or (b)) you think it is O.K. live as you please regardless and break whatever Divinely given laws there may be. I don’t know your background but people who think this way have often had a knowledge of God and turned away from it. The Bible says “Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were they thankful; but became vain in their imaginations and their foolish heart was darkened. Professing themseves to be wise, they became fools,”(Romans 1:21,22) As human beings we do NOT have the option to live as we please especially when it comes to our sexuality. Sorry Simple! Some of the possibilities you have mentioned are not on the table. God says, “…they which do such things shll not inherit the kingdom of God.” (Galatians 5:19-21. also 1 Corinthians 6:9,10) Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist. http://www.livinghopeministries.ca

    • August 5, 2014

      So parents who have sex with their children …

      Brothers and sisters who have sex …

      Adults who have sex with minors …

      People who have sex with animals …

      Men who have sex with men …

      Women who have sex with women …

      It looks like you are saying these sick people are all O.K.

      I doubt if you really meant this. I think you wanted to contribute something and this was the best you could come up with while staying neutral and not sounding judgmental.

      When it comes to sexuality there are boundaries between right and wrong. God DOES have a right to tell us what we can or cannot do.

      In the Bible God has given us a blueprint for life. This is the difference between civilization :-P and the jungle :twisted: Obviously, this is contrary to the thoughts and feelings many people have in our world today. We only have to look at our over crowded prisons to know this. :cry:

      Every day the media gives us examples of what happens to people who reject the Word of God and spurn His commandments.

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.

  6. Heynow
    January 13, 2012

    Who cares? What are the police doing to prevent these local terrorists from robbing businesses and people? Dominican’s focus on things that matter!!!

    • AnAmerican
      February 28, 2012

      Hell yeah!

    • August 5, 2014

      All theses matter!

      I expect the police are doing their best. They are concerned about the things that disrupt the peace and threaten the well being of the community.

      In many place the police are under funded, under staffed, and over worked.

      Police officers, fire fighters, and ambulance workers are first responders and frontline people. They lay their lives on the line to keep us safe and save lives. Nothing is more disheartening for a public servant than to have to work for an unappreciative community.

      Praise for a job well done would go a long way when it comes to improving the performance of these dedicated people. I hope next time we meet one of them we will express our appreciation for the work they do on our behalf.
      Never mind that they get paid. When I see them here in Canada and watch what they do I realize we could never pay them enough.

      Instead we hear so much grumbling, griping, and complaining.

      Sincerely , Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.

      .

  7. Jogoom
    December 4, 2011

    yall are too hypocrite I say!!! The same gay thing you all crying down, is the same thing yall watch when you want to get turned on, or have sex with your patner, assskkk for lesbians, we r yalls lavabo…. I have my woman as a woman and I love her.. to hell wit yalll

  8. greenday 4eva
    November 18, 2011

    lol leave da gays alone they’re harmless :-D :-D

  9. MADNESS!
    November 16, 2011

    Madnesssss in de countryy!!!!
    BELLA ASELF YOU MORE WICKED DAN DE BATTY MAN, I WUDNT EVEN ANSA MISTA!
    LOL….They say all tin have their cover so maybe dat is de man cover for his tin eh LOL. Look showdown! allu batty man need Jesus!! seriously!

  10. @
    November 11, 2011

    If u have a problem n u write to bella for advice something is really wrong wit u. Bella u need to give these pple advice tht they can depend on n not advice where pple questioning ur judgment. Ok bella. Lord save them from there nasty ways.

  11. Jossie
    October 26, 2011

    Allu Dominicans need to repent and find Jesus. Pu..y was made to fk not bottom! Lawlessness

  12. SXM QUEEN
    October 26, 2011

    Garçon get a pus** or get off this page stop your nonsense who give u Internet self u don’t have nothing better to say garçon get a pu**y it’s sweet. SALOP .man and woman is the best stop digging s**t hole .that’s nasty.hopevthe other guy change him and give him pus** to eat and make your a** jump out of your body . Foolish boy. Go get a life u are a dead man walking

  13. HotBoy
    October 25, 2011

    WAT RUBBISH IS DAT NUH??????

  14. Woodford Hill girl
    October 24, 2011

    wake up leaders,Dominica is too small for that mess,people need to start a protest march around the white house government house or whatever house a few times at lunch time until something is done,this is getting ridiculous!

  15. Justice and Truth
    October 21, 2011

    Young or old man what is the matter with you? Are you seeking consolation in this matter? You will not get one from me. Change your intrinsic lifestyle and seek God and His glory. Worship Him and cease worshipping his enemy and the enemy of our souls which will lead you to nowhere but to an eventual dark cauldron of Satan’s eternal fire. Seek counseling and guidance which you are in dire need of to enable you to change this type of immoral preference and lifestyle. In the long run you will be happier for it.

    • SXM QUEEN
      October 26, 2011

      SALOP he SALOP he need pu**y plus Jesus

  16. AmazingFace
    October 20, 2011

    Hmm…That story sounds like a story…LOL!!! Your Readership circulation getting low or what?!

  17. Mane
    October 20, 2011

    Wow People not easy.You guys creaming the hell out like you all are straight. I would put each one of you on a lie detector test to prove the real Homophobics.The people who cream and curse the most are more likely to be part of the large populations of downlows in Dominica. It doesn’t take much to detect one.
    This story is a make up no doubt about it.To much drama.Keep your desires private.

  18. GRRRRRRRRRRR
    October 19, 2011

    MASH, MASH MASH MASH MASH MEDOR

  19. Sweet Pea
    October 19, 2011

    hehehhehe…very irresistible and attractive…i couldnt help but wonder what u was talking about…your butt of yur face???!

  20. TrueWord
    October 19, 2011

    Look how this people are bold and fearless in their sinful acts. Then when they are sick or tragedy strike, they want someone to pray for them. The very Lord Jesus Christ they kick to the curb and hated, calling God a liar and His Word and all kinds of wickedness wants him to deliver them. But I tell you, He will, cause he is merciful and will save all those who call on Him and REPENT, but unless you repent, my dear, as much as Jesus Loves you, it is your CHOICE, and Hell will be your home. I tell you, DO NOT WAIT till you DIE to find out where you heading. DO NOT LET THE WORLD and that devil fool you. The pleasure is sweet, but the punishment is far more severe than you can even imagine. You still want to go ahead in your own ways, well then God will Judge you, not me.. and trust me, you don’t want to wait till the end, for when God Judge, he will surely Judge. Class dismiss. You got homework to do.

  21. Anonymous
    October 19, 2011

    U See that Gay vibes, that Sh*T needs to stop bcz no man can tell me he born gay. unless he born out of a man’s ass . pum pum for buddy and buddy for pum pum, It so difficult to Pass something out when a person constipated , much less to have somebody push something In !!!!!! Nah sah … ME SAY FIRE BUN DATTTT !!! and woman so sweet. I’m Homophobic and Proud :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:

  22. Gaza
    October 19, 2011

    all i got to say is: cock know poulette bull know heifer, ram know ewe so how the a*s a man cannot tell the difference between a man and woman? nasty

  23. orange
    October 19, 2011

    woman mi seh foreva!!

  24. orange
    October 19, 2011

    so my country turning now nuh lord? hm!

  25. SOUTY'
    October 18, 2011

    lol abeh look it ! the fact that the proportion of men to women isnt balanced men are even taking the young men away from the females.. alas boom boom sweeter than pum pum them days man ? lmao

  26. Dr. Evil
    October 18, 2011

    My name, is Dr. Evil! I’m gonna find a reason, Why should a next man lie, with nx guy name steven! If I should sprain my ankle I will never use BenGAY!

  27. Anonymous
    October 18, 2011

    Bella must be writing to herself them days

  28. mention
    October 18, 2011

    that story looking fake

  29. t savanne/ grand bay
    October 18, 2011

    A lot of times you find that most persons who cry, “fire burn batty boy” are the most GAY out there…if you gay be proud! if you straight be proud! if you are bi, be proud!!! its you life, its your decision!!!

    stop crying bout burn batty boy and you all more gay than gay

    • pusina
      October 19, 2011

      So true puss i tell u is they so who cry those words on bullers etc are those who those buller them in secert and thinking what they doing behind close door won’t come to light carmem i have my sources as to those top shot fellas in Dominica that Bulling undercover… whoooossss mine me before Cleo come behind me ..lol

  30. may
    October 18, 2011

    WHY WOULD SOMEONE GO TO BELLA WITH THIS STORY
    ANYWAY.

  31. sigh! Luv Dominica
    October 18, 2011

    WHAT THE PIG BOTTOM!~~!! SO WE COME IN D/A GAY PEOPLE EXPRESSING THEIR DAMN CONCERN OVER PEOPLE TAKING THEIR BF!!! WTF!!!

  32. shy
    October 18, 2011

    MISTAKE IN SPELLING, IT’S OTHER.

  33. Mapwey
    October 18, 2011

    but i find bella really into the gays wi…..isnt there something better to write about bella?

  34. unknown
    October 18, 2011

    society have all u blind,jah go deal wit u,wen your life on dis earth over,member sodom an gamorah,

  35. live and let live
    October 18, 2011

    Have just “Googled” bible references to Homosexuality from all viewpoints, and find that Homosexuality, as we are referring to it here, was never actually mentioned in the bible (a mistranslation of a similar Greek word for male prostitute, apparently).
    Also, Jesus never mentioned it either.
    And if all the “abominations” mentioned in Leviticus were true, then we should not be eating crayfish, wearing mixed fabric clothes or lighting fires on the Sabbath either.
    I’m sure this will get an awful lot of Dislikes – but this is a debate, right?

    • DeeGirl
      October 18, 2011

      Unless the Holy Spirit is in you you will only see what you want to in terms on the bible.

      16 ¶ This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
      17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other; so that ye cannot do the things that ye would. Rom. 7.15-23
      18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.
      19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these, adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
      20 idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,
      21 envyings, murders, drunkenness, revelings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
      22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
      23 meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
      24 And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.
      25 ¶ If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.
      26 Let us not be desirous of vainglory, provoking one another, envying one another.

      Homosexuality like sex out of marriage and adultery is considered fornication.

      • March 25, 2013

        DeeGirl: I appreciate you putting the Word of God front and centre. Those who reject the Word are rejecting Christ because “The Word was made flesh and dwelt among us.” (St. John 1:14) The last sentence of your comment is absolutely correct. “Homosexuality like sex out of marriage and adultery is considered fornication.” This does justice to the original Greek word that is translated “fornication” in our English Bible. It amazes me how so many people who obviously have not even a basic knowledge of the Bible make statements about what the Bible says regarding homosexuality other topics. I would never think of arguing law with a lawyer because I have no training in law. I would never debate medicine with a medical doctor because I don’t have a medical education. But when it comes to what the Bible says about the sin of homosexuality we have all kinds of “experts” coming out of the woodwork to challenge my statements. The fact that I have spent years studying the Bible, have taught in Bible Colleges, and pastored churches, means nothing to them! But the foolish mistakes they make cause them to lose all crtedibility which is a good thing! You have done well to stand on the Word of God. I stand with you. Blessings! Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal evangelist.

    • Justice and Truth
      October 21, 2011

      @ live and let live

      What nonsense are you talking about? Are you a Christian and a practicing one at that?
      What type of Google is that? You should expect that in this day and age and acceptance of homosexuality you may not find it on Google. If it was posted on Google it may have been eliminated.
      There are approximately three references about/against homosexuality in the New Testament. Read and study the writings of St. Paul and thereon which refer to “practicing homosexuals”.
      Do your religious homework. You should not Google for Holy Scriptures. You should go directly to the Holy Bible. This is where the Word of God is contained, taught, spoken of and revealed to us.
      St. Paul wrote as granted to him through the inspiration of the Holy Spirit. Keep in mind that Our Lord Jesus Christ said, “I must go and when I go I will send My Advocate.” He is the Spirit of Light and Truth.
      Many of you interpret the Holy Bible to suit your mentality.
      Let us say even Our Lord Jesus Christ did not speak of it, utilize your common sense, should a man be having relationship with a man and marrying at that? It makes no sense to me. It is an abomination to our God who created man and woman for a good, moral purpose. Need I say more? Put on your mortal and spiritual thinking cap.

    • disappointed
      November 1, 2011

      :lol: i take it tht u a an adventiste huh :lol:

      • GiaBella
        November 1, 2011

        I am not! 8) a bad judgement passed as an assumption since no question was asked.

    • March 25, 2013

      LIVE AND LET LIVE: The law in the Old Testament contained many prohibitions pertaining to diet, dress, special days and ceremonies, etc. This law was for the Nation of Israel and was in place during a limited period of their history. It was rich in symbolism that represented better things to come. It ENDED when Christ died on the cross and a new era of faith began which inluded not only the Jews but also the Gentiles. See St. John 19:30, Romans 10:4,and Colossians 2:14. However, the moral commandments of God which reflected the holiness of God’s character are repeated in the New Testament and are binding upon us all. The New Testament tells us homosexuality is a sin. See Romans 1:22-32, 1 Corinthians 6: 9-10, and Jude vs. 7. This is the Word of God to us – and all people – in the present age. Sadly, many will follow their own desires rather than obey God. It has always been like this. But God sent His beloved Son to die for the sins of the world. He – by His death – paid the price in full for the salvation of every one who repents and receives Him as their Saviour. The Bible says “…the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from ALL sin” accordng to 1 John 1:7. God not only forgives. He comes into our hearts and delivers us from the bondage of sin. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

    • August 6, 2014

      You are wrong.

      All you can get from the internet is what people have typed into it.

      Much of the material online about homosexuality was put there by homosexual activists.

      For example the statement that Jesus never referred to homosexuality is misleading.

      He spoke of “fornication” which means illicit sex. The Greek word is porneia. It is more than pre-marital sex. It includes adultery, homosexuality, and bestiality.

      Again and again Jesus endorsed the entire Old Testament and said it was the Word of God. When He did this He was endorsing each and every passage that speaks of homosexual practice and God’s judgment upon the offenders.

      He did mention Sodom and Gomorrha, saying God’s judgment would be even worse upon those people who heard Him preach while He was upon earth and did not repent.

      There are words used in the Greek New Testament that include male prostitutes and the “boy toys” owned by rich Greek men. These were broad words which included
      what we know as regular homosexuals but focused on the two situations I have just mentioned which were very wide spread in that day. It was the homosexual contact in these situations that made them the subjects of rebuke. The passage of Romans 1:26,27 clearly refers to what we know as homosexuality. There is nothing in these two verses that indicate anything other than two women and two men doing whatever sexually that two same sex pairs would be doing. The Bible specifically says it was against nature!

      This mishandling of the Word of God that produced this way of thinking began in the gay community. Sadly, I remember a bi-sexual man trying to explain it to me the first time I heard of it. My background in theology and Biblical studies was enough to let me know it was wrong and I felt sorry for him because I could see how messed up his life was becoming. He later contacted AIDS and committed suicide.

      You have made the mistake of accepting not the scriptures themselves but the commentary of homosexual activists. This is what we sometimes refer to as “gay theology” and it did not come from Bible scholars with any credibility. This is not the way Christians from the first century until now have interpreted the scriptures, nor the way nations have applied them in the writing and formation of their laws.

      Nobody puts their faith in these fraudulent interpretations of scripture for sound academic reasons. It is because their minds and nervous systems have been taken over by a spirit of homosexual lust. They have made a conscious decision NOT to believe what the Bible says and they are using these ideas to justify their behavior.

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill, D.D., International Evangelist.

  36. Honesty
    October 18, 2011

    Ok people, let’s be honest with ourselves. Homosexuality has been around for a very long time. Some have choose to be secretive and some not. It grinds my gears when we say things like, ” I cannot believe this is happening in my country, not Dominica!” let’s all move from behind “our” dark clouds ad face reality. A person’s sexual preference does not determine what kind of person they are. Yes, in some eyes it may be deemed as wrong. We are all entitled to our own opinions. I work among a lot of people both male and female who are openly gay. I can tell you this, I treat each and everyone of them the same and respect who they are as an individual. Whatever one chooses to do with their life, it’s up to them. I judge no one!

    • October 20, 2011

      Honesty, you are so honest the stars might even fall from the sky soon!! Unfortunately, that is the reason, (based on the last line of your statement) that God did not make YOU a judge… he took matters into his own hands and HE decided to be the judge himself. In the beginning was the word and the word was was with God and the word was God! The same was in the beginning with God..John 1: 1-2… his word is Judge, jury and prosecutor. He is a righteous Judge! His ways are not our ways neither his thoughts our thoughts.. in him is found NO unrighteousness, therefore sin/unrighteousness cannot co-habit with God! As we continue to take God and his word lightly, let’s not forget that one day we will all stand before the judgement seat of Christ and the Judge will be on that throne to judge every man according as his work shall be.. so carry on ‘privates’, carry on in your sin and folly!!!! Be know this, that it is appointed unto man once to die, but after this, the JUDGEMENT!!!!!

      • Woodford Hill girl
        October 24, 2011

        Tell it on the mountain-top tell it in the valley my sister, I’m sure you were heard loud and clear continue to proclaim with boldness,woman of integrity.

    • Justice and Truth
      October 21, 2011

      @ Honesty

      Even though homosexuals were around for a long time, it does not mean that it was ever correct and acceptable. It should be no different in this age. God never changes.
      Get this straight. Sin was around for a long time which is why God sent His Only Son that whoever believes in Him and obeys His (our) Heavenly Father’s Will (His Ten Commandments) will be saved.

      • Anonymous
        October 24, 2011

        @ Justice and Truth,
        My main focus here once again is, I judge no one! Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Sin is wrong no matter what shape or form it’s being committed. All I’m saying is, before we discriminate a person based off their sexual preference, why not see them for who they actually are. They are more than just Gay!

  37. Massacre Girl
    October 18, 2011

    Hmm these are really the last days, wake up people, wake up!

  38. Humanist
    October 18, 2011

    In the decades to come, if Dominica does not shrink upon itself into even more of a little medieval world than it already is, the educated will look back on the times when such ignorance–fundamentalism, homophobia, inability to think critically, inability to spell or write coherently (and yes, you should be able to, even on the Internet)–was the norm. And they will shake their heads in pity.

    Talking about storms hitting the island being signs from god, talking about Sodom and Gomorrah–how can we possibly say we are a progressive island looking toward the future and still have such primitive ideas in our skulls? Centuries ago, and today, a few inquisitive people questioned everything they had been told by authorities–by governments, religion, etc. And they found out that the only way to truly live is to doubt, to question, to learn. But we do not like doing that in Dominica. We like being told what to think and believe. It is a rare Dominican, indeed, who will even search on Google for more information on homosexuality, on science, on the bible. And it is sad.

    Even many Christians–a great number of Christians, in fact–attempt to be progressive and support gays, evolution, etc. One of the most ardent proponents of evolution and one of the most ardent detractors of creationism is Kenneth Miller, who is Roman Catholic, of all things! There is a truly remarkable, praiseworthy man, who holds onto his beliefs while still being a true scientist and skeptic.

    Why can’t more of us be like Miller? Even if you have faith, so what? You can be Christian and still not act like a primitive person. We need to stop this nonsense. We need to grow up and learn. Otherwise, we will go nowhere, which is where Dominica has been going for a long time. And I think many of you know it.

    • ?????????????
      October 18, 2011

      Humanist the Earth and the fullness therein belong to the Lord and it is not our World to do what we want. We have been placed there to do what we are suppose to do and the most important is to obey the Great Creator who is the Author and the Finisher of our souls. To be calling morals etc primitive is giving way to our True Enemyof our souls will lead to destruction.

      You need to seat and think whether this world came into being by itself or whether there is a greater being than we mortals. Look at how everything is in order. To whom do you humanist attribute this to man who are mortals etc.
      ????

    • Justice and Truth
      October 21, 2011

      @ Humanist

      Who wants to be like Miller? Not me! I wonder how many scientists who predeceased us went to Heaven and how many skeptics are in Heaven and who are not? How many who are presently alive will obtain Heaven due to their false comments and teachings?
      All I can state to you is that “WOE TO THOSE, WHOEVER THEY ARE WHO SUPPORT IMMORALITY AND ENCOURAGE IT.” God will take care of them in time.
      I do feel sorry for those who are Christians and Catholic Christians at that who have swayed from the truth. God is taking note of their words and actions as imbedded in their heart, mind and thoughts.
      What genuine and practicing Christians can do in this day and age of disobedience and stubborn people who only think of themselves and want to do their own thing according to their immoral desires is to pray for them.
      I suggest to you, leave Christians alone. God knows the extent of their faithfulness and spirituality. By this He will judge them.
      You, see about your soul that you may obtain eternal salvation for on that day there will be some who will be happy and others who will be unhappy for all eternity. This is my advice to you.
      Do not look at others and what they do but look at yourself and see to yourself that you do not miss the boat of eternal happiness.
      When you die and stand before God He will not ask you about anyone but yourself, what you have done with the allotted time that He gave you. Did you recognize and worship Him? Did you lead souls to Him or away from Him and more…

      • GiaBella
        October 26, 2011

        Justice you seem to have self-righteously named yourself. According to your statements you seem quite judgmental and contradicting. Explain to me how @Humanist should ‘Let Christians be Christians’ yet you find it okeh to pass judgement on homosexuals?

    • January 14, 2013

      Humanist seems to imply the reason many people in Dominica oppose homosexuality is because they are uneducated, ignorant, and behind the times. I suspect the very opposite is true. The Bible in both the Old and New Testament forbids homosexuality. For those who believe the Bible is the Word of God this is reason enough to oppose this vile practice and lifetyle. But you don’t even have to be religious to be against homosexuality – only educated. Studies show that there is a higher rate of alcoholism, drug addiction, and suicide among homosexuals than among hetrosexuals and homosexuals tend to have a shorter lifespan. There is also evidence that homosexuals are more prone to be involved in the most frightening and gruesome crimes that I would not mention here for fear of traumatizing the readers. Those of us who oppose homosexuality are not “homophobic”. No, we are not afraid of homosexuals. We are afraid of the consequences of same sex relations such as HIV/AIDS, and the mental and physical results of long term homosexual practices. We do not hate homosexuals. I personally had a male friend who was married and had two children. (Obviously he was not born homosexual.) He started drinking and fell into homosexuality. He left his family. Last I saw him he told me he was living with a man. I had not seen him for years. Then I learned he had had contacted aids and committed suicide. You’ll never know how badly I felt over his death. No, we don’t hate homosexuals. We hate the sin that is destoying them. Most people who defend homosexual practices don’t want to know the truth. The facts are not on their side. They cannot engage in logical and objective debate so they resort to name calling and talking down to their opponents as Humanist and others do. But for those who are interested in the scientific facts I recommend they read the book HOMOSEXALITY AND THE POLITICS OF TRUTH by Dr. Jeffery Satinover, M.D. Dr. Satinover has practiced psychiatry for over twenty years. He has lectured in Yale University and Harvard University. His book shows the social discord, mental degeneration, and physical damage caused by the homosexual lifestyle. It can be ordered from AMAZON, the world’s largest online bookseller. I invite you to visit my website http://www.livinghopeministries.ca Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  39. Dam
    October 18, 2011

    Mr/Mrs is just jeaulosy that his boyfriend is getting all the attention not him. Loook at his comment “What I find strange, is that I don’t think the guy is gay because if he was, I am sure he would have try to make a move on me (I am very attractive and irresistible Bella), so why is my boyfriend into him?” that is just plain out jealously……..

  40. Son of God
    October 18, 2011

    I know dat story not true, e-ah-possive. However, I must say WTF I hearing dere.

  41. Hmmm
    October 18, 2011

    He’s scared that his “boyfriend” may actually not want to be in this thing man and man thing anymore. He’s scared the straight guys turns his boyfriend back into a man who loves women and wants to be with women.

  42. Glen Beck
    October 18, 2011

    all of u like these gay stories! once it post you quick to comment! if u truly hated it you would never open the story let alone comment! and for god fearing people you all have a serious hatred in your hearts! and society always had gay people just now they more open is all! but what i personally don’t like when the lock down a woman to look straight in society eyes!

    • Abu Sulayman
      October 18, 2011

      People who fear God must hate homosexuality. Even if one hates homosexuality doesn’t mean that one must be unjust or to abuse an individual walking down the road who may appear to be a homosexual.

      If you at least believe in the Bible Romans 1:26 is very clear.

      • Justice and Truth
        October 21, 2011

        @ Abu Sulayman

        The word is not hate but detest the act. Christian teaching is, “Love the sinner but hate the sin.” If they are not relatives or friends we do not have to welcome them into our homes. Even then, some relatives and friends have disowned them. I do not blame them.
        We are not to harm anyone physically. We are not to throw words or stones to them and without being provoked. This is also my personal principle. God will deal with every one as they deserve. We are not to play God and take matters into our hands.
        It bothers me that in the part of the world I reside our governments and Christians one at that due to the majority of those who voted for the legalization of this abomination of so-called same marriage have condoned it.
        What I have done in the past was to write my Member of Parliament and warned him who is a Christian about the mortal and spiritual perils where God of all is concerned about voting for this abomination. He replied and stated that he is not voting for it. Some of them refrained from voting for approval of this Bill. Many of us Christians are upset about it but we will not attack. The Christian teaching is, when all is said and done we are to pray for them. This is what God requires of us.

  43. tiny
    October 18, 2011

    aye… felt like i needed to say this….i just came form doing a number 2 there…and i feel so unclean….need to wash with soap and water to feel clean…..omg….this is what you guys go through every time you have sex and it’s a hundred times worst…i can only imagine

    • Chrissy
      October 18, 2011

      hahahhaaahahaha.omg u guys are killin me………hahahahahahhahaa…… !!!!

    • Justice and Truth
      October 21, 2011

      @ tiny

      Who needs to hear and read about this? :twisted:

  44. Country Girl.......
    October 18, 2011

    Just put a bell in his neck….if he move you will hear ding dong……or put a long rope in his leg and measure the distance as to how far he can go…try that…daddy did that with his little chocho…

  45. ted
    October 18, 2011

    Bella thats the advice you giving to the guy? You have to ask the guy to dump that nasty life and repent.

    • Juice
      October 18, 2011

      @ Ted Bella is never going to win with all you readers if she ever take your advice it will be hell and damnation on her. Please read the column about ‘Young lady in love with other Young lady Bella stated God created Adam and Eve not Eve and Evette and you should read the comments. Bella was blasted from here to timbuctoo suddenly everybody was all for gay and Bella was soooo wrong to condemn it. Now Bella need to condemn it ? The solution to the problems everybody open their own damn advice Column. Matter solved :twisted:

      • Justice and Truth
        October 21, 2011

        @ Juice

        …And when they do it should be in Jesus name according to His teachings and that of the Apostles lest those people condemn themselves for all eternity.

    • Anonymous
      October 18, 2011

      AMEN TED

    • just my point
      October 18, 2011

      bella did right
      cuz reading this it was really a test from the individaul or groups of person

    • show me
      October 18, 2011

      GOD words is true GOD never lie GOD destroy sodom and gomara because of all these unclean things,yet they still dont learn all have sin but this is down right nasty.

  46. KKH
    October 18, 2011

    are these stories even real?

  47. me
    October 18, 2011

    again…these stories are not true…just a way to get ppl to make comments…just the way how the story was put across, one can tell its made up…come on ppl, dont fall for these nonsensical stories…

    • tiny
      October 18, 2011

      so what….don’t you think others have their doubt too…..if it’s a way of getting people to express themselves and their views….what’s wrong in that……stop commenting then…. better yet just don’t read it…don’t click on it

    • Juice
      October 18, 2011

      And so why are you there ? I think you are more than thoroughly entertained. I thought this was a democratic country, and by the way for all of you who trying to play shock Dominica have gay long time. Its not anything new. So please don’t try behave like Dominica perfect. We are busy trying to keep up with the times :mrgreen:

      • Justice and Truth
        October 21, 2011

        @ Juice

        Some actions in these times will drive people straight to and into the jaws of Hell. Watch out!

  48. Me
    October 18, 2011

    Let the hateful, fearful, ignorant, shallow-minded and closed-minded comments begin.

  49. Uncle Dildo
    October 18, 2011

    Oh lawd Jesus of Nazareth save my country from these sickos please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Garson go get a bible, go to confession, leave your boyfriend waste shoot for poopoo to exit and find a girlfriend. God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and steve. PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE stop your nastiness.

  50. ..............
    October 18, 2011

    BOY YOU LEAVING RIGHT TIMBOCKTOOO TO ASK BELLA ADVICE.
    EH BEH YOU NOT EASY AWA WII BELLA, I THINK WHEN IS ROW ROW SO YOU MUST ASK YOUR HUSBAND BELL WII LOL LOL BECAUSE AWA THOSE THINGS THERE TO STRONG FOR YOU.SO THE BOY NOT TALKING TO HIS MAN, BELLA HE WANT TO GET BLACK EYE FOR HIM. STUPESSS.
    AND COMING AND SAY HE ATTRACTIVE, IS TOOOOOO ATTRACTIVE YOU ATTRACTIVE THAT’S WHY THE MAN GO FOR ANOTHER MAN, YOU DAZZLING TOOOO MUCH HE DOH WANT YOU…. STUPESSSSS AND EVEN TALKING ABOUT ROSEAU MARKET :-D :-D :-D :-D

  51. conspiracy theories
    October 18, 2011

    Is this even real???? I for one don’t buy into this “Dear Bella” stuff….It seems like it’s just a ploy used to drum up interest of the websites(which there is no need to)We should be mindful that when we make such ludicrous clams and pass them off as actuality(NEWS!!)especially with a taboo topic as homosexuality, we are inviting violence. Directly and indirectly….

  52. tiny
    October 18, 2011

    dude……………..you are not supposed to have sexual feeling for another man……just like these guys are not supposed to act this way

    something went wrong at some point

    • tiny
      October 18, 2011

      ok i had a clip of some young men very feminine but it was removed so my pat of my post don’t seem to make sense

  53. Arab
    October 18, 2011

    DNO PLEASE stop promoting these guy acts. This should not be portrayed in our lovely country Dominica at any given time.

    • Fed up!!!!
      October 18, 2011

      Idiot – ignorant fool! Homosexuality has been around from the beginning of time. Get over it!

      • ?
        October 18, 2011

        U sound personally offended! I wonder why?

      • AmazingFace
        October 18, 2011

        You say it’s been there from the beginning of time but that does not make it right. Why do you think God destroyed the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah. Go to your Bible and read and see for yourself that it is wrong. IT’S ABOMINABLE AND IT WILL ALWAYS BE THAT WAY NO MATTER WHAT PEOPLE LIKE YOU THINK. IT WILL ALWAYS BE WRONG IN THE SITE OF GOD.

      • Woodford Hill girl
        October 24, 2011

        @fed up,the fact that homosexuality has been here since the beginning of time does NOT make it rightand we will not accept it nor get over it as long as IT exists homosexuality is biblically wrong and humanly/socially NASTY and unhealthy so now you all get over THIS,and that’s all I’m saying,Dominica needs to get back to God,you must not be seeing the signs of the times,God destroyed the earth by flood in Noah’s day,this time He WILL did I say WILL? destroy with fire,”And the elements will melt with fervent heat”,look at the news all over the world Dominica tell me what time it is,it’s later than you think! 11:55 so tell me how much more evil,poverty,injustice, hunger.catastrophic events crime and the list goes on can this world endure?My Lord and Savior is on his way to put an end to it,tick tock tick tock….. and counting!!!!

    • straight
      October 18, 2011

      for real..

  54. Abu Sulayman
    October 18, 2011

    Hmmm, Dominica is becoming Sodom and Gomorrah!

    You see how Ophelia hit this country and it was just the tip of a storm? Continue this way, continue supporting this abominable homosexuality and this nation will continue to sink.

    These perverts who are trying so desperately to legalize buggery have gone against their motto “Apres Bondie c’est later!” After God is the land. It seems that God has never been an authority on this land, it is mere lip service but many Dominican’s hearts are far away from God.

    Secondly, allow me to quote your constitution, the same constitution you all bicker so much about a dual citizenship issue and breaking the law.

    THE CONSTITUTION OF THE COMMONWEALTH OF DOMINICA WHEREAS the People of Dominica

    (a) have affirmed that the Commonwealth of Dominica founded upon principles that acknowledge the SUPREMACY OF GOD, faith in fundamental human rights and freedoms, the position of the family in a society of free men and free institutions, the dignity of the human person, and the equal and inalienable rights with which all members of the human family are endowed by their creator.

    Now how the hell can a country under “God’s Supremacy” sign off with the UN regarding provocation of gay people or rights for gay people? This is one step towards legalizing this filth. Also, do you know the implications of legalizing homosexuality? They will start as a married couple adopting children? You regard homosexual couple as a family? Think about that.

    The reason why I went off topic for a while is because the Dominican public is really becoming sensitized by this, gay ships, gay soaps, gay sad stories! Bella even giving DAT advice! Firstly, if I had a site like this, I’d be advising against the practice of homosexuality! The thing is the guy is gay to the bone. What is our world turning to?

    • CRITICALLY CRITICAL
      October 18, 2011

      This is what is meant be Secular, Church Separate from state, this is the grotesque debauchery those who have not read enough, and there are many, will not know the construct of the society in which we live. sad but true. and u are very right that they will soon want to raise children and then we will all be FINISHED..

    • SXM QUEEN
      October 26, 2011

      Seriously it is

  55. I'mWondering
    October 18, 2011

    That sounds more of a case of jalousie – that he sees himself as irresistible “(I am very attractive and irresistible Bella)”, and now the the mutual friend is giving his boyfriend all the attention, he doesn’t know how to deal.

    It has nothing to do with insecurities about the man wanting his boyfriend…it has to do with the fact that the man is not paying him any attention and maco fache…

    Maco la ca toot own horn li… it pas nee ayen pour fait avec homme li… salop ee salop – ee ani lay lot homme la!

    excuse my patois – but the maco just want the other man!

    • pusina
      October 18, 2011

      I second that puss Maco kay mor quvay..whossss

      • pusina
        October 19, 2011

        There is a salop that after me. what de hell i say for you to dislike my comments in you Ti Sal Sus.. Mine me you know i’ve been quiet but dow upset me de person.

  56. am sick
    October 18, 2011

    i jus get upset…..jus feel like vomitting…..omg…….i jus cant believe dat…this gay thing is jus gettin out of hand….

  57. cha!!!
    October 18, 2011

    Bella u aself!!..i not even entertainin mr..issues

    • straight
      October 18, 2011

      Bella is gay

      • pusina
        October 18, 2011

        Bella/Admin is the same. Admin is hiding behind bella and he fraid to tell people he like men. Mine me you know Straight one of Admin mens and them that tell me that..whossssssss :lol:

  58. Redz
    October 18, 2011

    Getting tired of Bella’s fake gay stories

    • straight
      October 18, 2011

      I second that!!

    • LOL
      October 18, 2011

      Yeah me too..where is Mr. Nice Guy???

    • pusina
      October 18, 2011

      Well Admin trying to tell us something about himself through the bella stories read between the lines he not man enough to tell the true him so he hiding behind those bella stories. Admin you want de man to leave your man alone. whosssssssssssssss well look it.. :lol:

  59. Anonymous
    October 18, 2011

    ppl, GOD create ADAM and EVE not adam and steve or eve and eyvett, LORD have mercy on my country, hey young man get ur act together and get a lady in ur life

  60. pusina
    October 18, 2011

    Whosse is a good thing i dow want Admin and all those bulling stories they have in Dominica. Whossssssss Admin all your little mens and them coming out the closet soon it will be you carmem

  61. T. Winston
    October 18, 2011

    wtma is that nuh I fed up read dem trash rubbish dere
    Leave me in my box of ignorance man I don’t want to know about them obscenities there

  62. true nuh?
    October 18, 2011

    lol!! zor pas azay en laterre…zon kay chway moi acite..wooosh 2 much 4 me papa

  63. Not4Gay
    October 18, 2011

    DA really spoiling wee. Are you people serious? I refuse to believe this is happening in DA.

  64. D Princess
    October 18, 2011

    bella i suspect you are an atheist…. you should not be giving the guy this kid of ideas … you should have told him go to his bible and remember god made adam and eve not adam and steve.

    • ALL WOMAN
      October 18, 2011

      FOOLISH ADVICE GIVEN INDEED..

    • Juice
      October 18, 2011

      Once again when Bella tried to give that same advice you are asking her to give everybody blasted her, because the two individuals in question were two women Bella told the woman that God created Adam and Eve not Eve and Evette. Please read the letter
      Young Lady in love with other Young lady
      you all are too double standard :twisted:

  65. twlight
    October 18, 2011

    Wat nastiness i hearing in DA dr na. And bella even have de nerve to give mister advice. Fire bon you.

  66. patriot
    October 18, 2011

    sick, sick, sick, sick and nasty
    YOU HOMOS WILL ROT IN HELL THAT’S FOR SURE

  67. VECTOR
    October 18, 2011

    Nasty people… no to gay

  68. Anonymous
    October 18, 2011

    hahahahahahahahahaha

  69. chu chu train
    October 18, 2011

    Bella you more dorty…u actually supporting the fact that “gay to the bone” is gay and proud. this should be cursed. and you even talking about he being insecure…smfh.

  70. ME
    October 18, 2011

    PAPA MET, Save us Father! Lord Send Help not Fire.

  71. go
    October 18, 2011

    DAT GAY THING GETTING TOO SERIOUS PAPA
    NASTY , IS ALL I CAN SAY

  72. island gyal
    October 18, 2011

    bella u self more wicked to give mr advice…stupes…REAL REAL TALK!!!!!!!

  73. ..........
    October 18, 2011

    how stupid of u! u shld be happy that your boyfriend’s friend is not gay. Oh how i wish my man had only lesbians friends – that way i would be convinced he is not cheating on me 8-O

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