I’m a manager of a hotel and I’m in a committed relationship getting married in October of this year.
Sometime in July we had some late hours at the office. I was pretty tired and drowsy and my maintenance guy came behind me and started massaging my shoulders and neck muscles. It felt really good but before I could catch myself and realize what was happening we were all over the office.
I feel so terrible and so guilty. I don’t understand what’s going on honestly, I don’t have any feelings for this guy.
I love my fiance with all my heart. This guilt just would not go away and I want to talk to him about it but I’m too scared and too embarrassed.
Besides, my girlfriends says what he does know won’t hurt him. I’ve never kept secrets from him before; I want to tell him but ….what should I do?
Should I tell him?
Dear Need Answers,
This is a rather unfortunate position you got yourself in and your feeling of guilt is quite understandable.
If you think this whole incident was something beyond your control and the guilt is getting out of control, then you should talk to your fiance about it.
One of the main impediments of a solid relationship is the keeping of secrets between partners. One well kept secret leads to another and to another and before you know it secrets keep piling on each other and it gets out of control.
So be honest and tell your fiance.
On another note, don’t ever get yourself so tired that you end up in such position again.
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