Online relationship leads to disaster

A young woman here says she is frightened for her life after she entered into an online relationship with a man she doesn’t know, a relationship that later blossomed into a face to face encounter.

Rachel (not her real name), says several months ago she met a man online and “flirted with him a bit”.

According to the 27-year-old from a village in the north of the island, their daily online rendevouz saw the relationship getting more and more serious.

“We use to call each other. We emailed. We did a lot. We even made love online and six weeks ago he sent me a ticket to visit him. He also sent  me money via Western Union every week just to make sure I was not short of anything,” she said.

Rachel told Dominica News Online that when she visited her “man” in the US, he took her to a hotel where he would visit her every day.

“I was wondering why he never took me to his home. He put me up in a hotel and he never slept with me the entire night. So I figured he must have had a woman or family. He always told me that it was me he loved and he was single. When I asked him why he had never spent a full night with me, he gave me excuses like he has to work,” she told DNO.

The young woman said the night before she left, the man was apparently followed and a woman came knocking on the door, threatening to kill him.

Rachel said she didn’t understand what the woman was saying because her language was different.

“It sounded like Spanish or Dutch of something. He just slammed the door and left with her. I was scared but then he returned a few hours later and apologized. He told me that it was his wife” she explained.

Rachel said she played it cool but had made her mind up that it was over once she returned to Dominica.

“I refused to take his call. I just dumped him but now I am scared because he is threatening me. Threatening to come to Dominica and kill me. I have made a report to the police already but he just won’t stop. He has money and I am scared that he might actually buy a ticket and come here,” she said.

Rachel said he has hacked into her email and is now posting letters threatening her life.

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153 Comments

  1. weirs
    March 21, 2012

    Its sad but what did u expect when u met him on line. Did u think he was telling u the truth.then u left an came to the us,don’t u see what happen to females when they do things like that.you r an idiot.

  2. god is watching me..
    March 20, 2012

    this is so sad…. imagine how this man wife would feel.. well i dont blame u seeing that u did not know he was married but trust me there are no single men in America… their terms of dating is different than ours… i feel your pain but you should have thought of all that before u did such bold move… what if u got an STD? I dont like online dating cause i have been with this guy for over years he suddenly opened a FB account and found this woman from his village but left when she was 5years old. She left her country to come meet him knowing that he lives with me and his 2kids. Guess what i got an STD and he had to tell me how.. since he was my only. Bad things happen to good people. this girl made my life a living hell and the guy put me and his out of the house. we had no place to go. this man fooled u with material stuff same as the woman did to mine…..see what it got u…Regrets.think before u act. that was a bold stupid move and should do whatever it takes to protect yourself…

  3. braizen
    March 20, 2012

    You better watch out, you better not pout. You say santa is loaded with money. Look out. Don’t be surprised if this man pays twenty million oldie dollars to get a Dominican passport.
    Do you know if he is a pimp or a drug dealer?

  4. yourenotthefirst
    March 20, 2012

    contact the US police department of the city you visited, send them all the letters he sent you and give them all the information you have about him they will find him,i myself had have tried online dating and i found my husband dont worry with the negative comments, you might not be the first he so put it in there hands and get he put away….good luck my girl

  5. You too lie
    March 20, 2012

    Digi, why you not identifying yourself you well know is you

    • Justice and Truth
      March 20, 2012

      @ You too lie

      Allow her to keep her personal identity private. She has good reasons for that. It is her privilege.

  6. Anonymous
    March 20, 2012

    Girl are you out of your mind. What craziness did you get yourself in. You should think before you act. I wonder if you know his real name; what do you know about him.

    • Justice and Truth
      March 20, 2012

      @ Anonymous

      She trusted him. Be broadminded. You should know that people especially those who reside in a small island trust every one whether they reside in the island or not. This is why she made friends Online with the man. She may not have been aware of the dangers of Online dating. They never expect that anything bad will happen to them and that others will prove to be deceitful of all. Every one whom they encounter they trusted. They never expect that anything bad will happen to them and that others will prove to be deceitful of all. Give her a break. Thank God she returned unharmed.
      When I migrated to Canada, I was more trusting; in fact trustworthy and coming from a small island where we practically knew every one and vice versa. Those who migrated to these big countries were trusting then. However, people were generally trustworthy. We made friends easily with strangers as also West Indian people, men and women, as long as they looked decent, were decently-clad and conducted themselves appropriately. As you know every country has a certain class system, if you know what I mean. Today the class structure is not as bad as it were when I resided in DA. In fact, it may now be eliminated.
      We went to West Indian parties even though we did not know the people. We were welcomed and felt comfortable. We had a good time; we made more friends; we felt safe and nothing happened to us. There were no fights at those parties and no drug dealing and injesting them. Those days were clean fun.
      We accepted rides from people at the party. Today, there is a vast different. Due to increased criminal activities and murders and as we hear and read about, the trust has gone. We take people at face value.
      People especially in a big country cannot be trusted. They can pose as decent, hardworking people but they could have a shady past and present.
      A few years ago a friend who is from another W.Indian island told me that she met a ‘white man’ and they commenced dating. During the courtship he told her that he spent time in jail for murder. She said, she got rid of him fast; refused to see him. Fortunate for her he did not harm her. Today, many W. Indian men from especially a certain country are involved in illegal drugs; have been arrested and imprisoned. Consider the situation. Who can trust strangers whether they are from the islands or not? Those trusting times are past.
      We have reason to fear the unknown as towards strangers. Therefore, it is our obligation, when the opportunity presents itself to inform others about it that they might learn. I hope this lady has learned one and that she will be able to advise others. Experience is a good teacher. People should learn from their mistakes. In so doing they can help others to avoid those mistakes and pitfalls.
      I recall a saying which was printed in the Church bulletin in T.O., “Learn from the mistakes of others. You do not live long enough to make them yourselves.” :)

  7. En Ba La
    March 20, 2012

    She needs to file the complaint for reral – I have a Sheriff Deputy friend I ran this by him. Which state is this guy in?

    • En Ba La
      March 20, 2012

      If he has good money he should have more class than this or else he is some criminal so I was told.

      • Justice and Truth
        March 20, 2012

        @ En Ba La

        I am suspicious of this man. He may appear to have money. This does not mean that he is living a law-abiding life. Considering this, who knows? He may have borrowed money from someone; may be a drug dealer; have friends who are or is he a member of the mafia. Anything is possible. His life is a hidden one.
        He lied to her and played a game of pretense that he is a single person and has to work late. Why did he not tell her about working late when they were communicating via telephone and Internet? He is not worth trusting.
        As for his wife, consider the type of person she is, trailing him and going to the hotel. I would not trust her as well. He will not be able to get rid of her. She may be aware that he is a flirt and dates other women. The wife may have found out about her and followed her husband. The fact that he threatens her, I conclude that he is a dangerous man. He may be threatening other women including his wife. She did a good thing to return to DA and try to get rid of him. I feel that if he continues to harass her and threaten her, she should try to contact the Police authorities in that area. She has a computer and she could perform a search for their telephone number and email address. I hope she does that for her peace of mind. This is a lesson for other women, especially young and single ones to learn.

  8. Zafer Dominik
    March 20, 2012

    if you date a Dominican guy online there’s always somebody that know somebody, it’s much safer..in that way you can find out more about that person even doh you don’t know them personally, I think having a online relationship with a foreigner is much more risky

  9. magic
    March 20, 2012

    if you have a personal email of this person you can check his I.P address or have an I.P location scan to know were that person is to have them arrested. if i have no idea what this is send your email to [email protected] at hot mail.com
    i have got over 10 years in I.T & Electronics i hold a BSC in those fields.
    pleaase exercise caution when useing the internet.

    • magic
      March 20, 2012

      correction is if you have no idea not (i)typeing error.sorry

    • Justice and Truth
      March 20, 2012

      @ magic

      If he gave her his correct name, she can easily check Online and do a Google search. He may not have given her his correct name and without that and a correct address, she may not be able to locate him.
      When he booked the hotel for her he had to give them his name. I wonder if he used his correct name. She should also try to contact the hotel manager/receptionist.

  10. March 20, 2012

    Well my dear, we all make mistakes. No one is perfect. I guess you moved too fast but let bygones be bygones and get connected to God. PRAY. Prayer changes things. God can perform a miracle for you and make this man just disappear from your life. PRAY PRAY, God will work it out for you. He can turn the situation around. Get prayer worriers to pray with you and just believe God for your miracle. There is nothing too hard for God to do. I will keep you in my prayers.

  11. promise
    March 20, 2012

    that girl sounds like someone i know i feel this girl has done stuff like this already and i believe its just catching back up with her,i beleive they just want money and having a good time,i believe their is more to it she maybe all stole the man stuff.Deal with your problem don’t put police when you were in the good time police was not on your man

    • Justice and Truth
      March 20, 2012

      @ promise

      Whatever you think and belief, she trusted him and she has been deceived. Cease your believing, speculating, assuming and undermining her. Throughout their lives, people make many mistakes. That is life.

  12. tiny
    March 20, 2012

    just seeing that my comment wasn’t posted yesterday…..haha…third time is the charm

  13. Justice and Truth
    March 20, 2012

    She is one brave woman who took a big chance and went to the U.S. to meet a man, not knowing anything about him. They tell lies in person much more Online and on the telephone. Fortunate for her she was not murdered and returned in one piece to Dominica.
    The dangers of Online dating. Has she not heard of stories about women who dated Online and what fate they met when they met them in person and dated them?
    Few women have met decent and law-abiding men Online. Some women were murdered and some disappeared.
    A few years ago there was a case of a Canadian black woman (as an example), a student who made friends with a U.S. man. They planned to get married. She bought her wedding dress and went to the U.S. to get married. It was said that she took a taxi from the airport (the truth is not known) to meet the man. The following morning her body was found in a garbage bin in New York. This is so sad. The stories are many. Women should never take that chance. God was with her that she was not harmed.
    This man is unhappy in his marriage and wants an outlet. Can he not find a woman in the U.S.? Why Online and all the way in Dominica?
    He is not a smart man to invite a woman from out of the country to meet him and he cannot spend the entire evening with her? This is grounds for suspicion.
    The fact that he is threatening her is a serious matter. His picture and name should be given to the immigration authorities in Dominica especially at the airport.
    The thought is crossing my mind. She should contact the Police authorities in the U.S. and lodge a complaint. I expect that they would investigate him.
    What type of man is he? Is he legal in the U.S? Is he employed and conducting legal business in the U.S.? There are many people who are illegal in the U.S. Some of them are from Mexico. There are some people who are members of the Mafia.
    I hope after that experience she will drop him like a hot potato.
    You may not be able to change your address and considering that DA is a small island. You should change your telephone number and keep it unlisted. I hope this is possible. Also change your computer password and do not give it to anyone.
    I expect that he has your telephone number. If you are not living alone, do not answer the phone. Let someone answer the telephone and say that you have left the island. If he asks where you are, say that you went to Great Britain. No joking! There is nothing wrong with telling a lie for your safety.
    Here is a secret for passwords. It is advisable do not use your name, initials or birth date/month/year. Use numbers or mix the numbers with letters. OK! In this way it will be difficult for your computer to be hacked. I got this advice and information from the Internet.
    Last but by no means least pray to God to assist you that at least this man will cease telephoning you. I wish you well and peace of heart and mind. Good luck and God bless you!

  14. G
    March 19, 2012

    What is wrong with you people…even going as far as telling this idiot to stay calm. Has the world gotten so lame that some
    individuals cannot meet a person in their everyday routine or at a bar, club, mall or just on the bus or train or thoughtful your normal work day. I have no remorse, no sorry…no sympathy for these shmucks …..
    Reply to this comment

  15. G
    March 19, 2012

    What is wrong with you people…even going as far a telling this idiot to stay calm. Has the world gotten so lame that some
    Individuals cannot meet a person in their everyday routine or at a bar, club, mall or just on the bad or train or thoughtful your normal work day. I have no remorse, no sorry…no sympathy for these shmucks …..

  16. Youareworthit
    March 19, 2012

    Girls should do some serious work on their self esteem. How does an unknown man come about and make you leave your country? Be aware of yourself, you are a woman!

  17. March 19, 2012

    AM NOT SUPRISE AT ALL THE MAJORITY OF DOMINICIAN WOMAN LIKE VANITY TOO MUCH SO IT IS POSSIBLE TO GET TRAP.THIS ONLINE DATING IS JUST KISS ME ASS NONESENCE AND GREED HAVE ALOT TO DO WIT IT.DOMINICA HAVE SO MUCH MAN U CAN GET AND YOU DATING MAN ONLINE THATS RUBBISH YOU NEED A GOOD BEATING.

  18. Anonymous
    March 19, 2012

    IS THE GUY FROM DOMINICA
    SO WAT PART OF THE STATE HE PUT YOU IN THE HOTEL
    QUEENS,BROOKLYN, MANHATTAN,LONG ISLAND TELL ME OR YOU WENT TO ANOTHER STATE TELL US SO WE NEW YORKERS TAKE CARE OF THAT FOR YOU,
    EVEN YOU WERE STUPID TO VISIT SOMEONE YOU DONT KNOW WE CAN STILL HELP YOU ARE A DOMINICAN

  19. tiny
    March 19, 2012

    @ k….. you’re right
    her face was OK..she had nice breast…but the rest of her body…not very attractive….i think he was disappointed…some people are superficial…and as a matter of fact I’ve had several friends who met guys online including Craig’s list…and the guys stopped communicating when they saw full pics of them……

    and i see some people on Facebook with such pretty pic of themselves…meeehnnnn…pictures can lie…. and in person they are not pretty….

    i know a girl who would not video chat with a guy she met online no matter how much he begged her …i was thinking because she knew she was not as pretty as her Facebook pics

    • Justice and Truth
      March 20, 2012

      @ tiny

      What do you know? Did you read the full story? The man was married and he lied to her. Have you considered that some of the men have many women communicating with Online. They may feel that they cannot keep up with them and just fade away. They may try to get a woman who has everything, money and other assets and when they do, they forget the other(s).
      Online dating can be deceiving and dangerous. I do believe that women should steer clear of it.
      There are some men who pose as young men and lie about their age. Some are pedophiles who pose as law-abiding, decent people with good jobs and rich ones too. They traveled from the U.S. or wherever to Canada to also meet those teenagers. If the Police finds out, the men are immediately arrested. I need not say more on this matter. However, give this a good thought.

  20. justice
    March 19, 2012

    Woman thats a stupid move to go in a foriegn land and meet a total stranger….For all we know he could be a murderer. Maybe is the money that full your head..u had to THINK before doing that kind of move…right now all we can hope is that he don’t come DA…and don’t be going unnecessary places alone.

  21. my 2 cents
    March 19, 2012

    That’s what must happen to you all, as one writer said , “YOU TO NASTY”. What while you were in the room the wife entered and mess you up?. what did you tell your parents or family when you were leaving the island? Did you told them exactly where you were going to?
    what if the man had diease? I could not believe that the NATURE ISLAND has STUPID WOMEN like this. I believe all the GOODIES & MONIES you got send it back for him. And I’m sure that you have a man in DA, did you told him what happenng to you now?

  22. joeadfgfhy
    March 19, 2012

    some stupid person just write a fake e-mail.. a countrybooky dat doe know nothing about travelling… u cannot just go to the us like that… u need a visa (mostly likely u will have to travel to barbados)

    • Anonymous
      March 20, 2012

      @ joeadfgfhy
      While I agree with you that this could be all made up, she could have had a visa long before. So it’s not that difficult to enter the US.

  23. be careful
    March 19, 2012

    online is to find friends, schoolmates we haven,t seen since school living, relatives and to watch the news. beit man or woman we all have to be careful with the online business.This www is a web of destruction,disaster,denial and devilish.next time you feel you would like to be with someone ask God to send one your way.ant thing from God is good.
    keep safe. DA/SXM.

  24. Anonymous
    March 19, 2012

    you too nasty ……

    • jerseydomnican
      March 19, 2012

      for real yo come on we all make mistake part of life but young lady think the next time you try to date someone online wasn’t your best move to meet him in a other country that could have been your life

    • plainjane
      March 19, 2012

      HAS IT COME TO THIS WHEREBY YOU HAVE RESULTED TO CALLING THE YOUNG LADY SUCH A LOW NAME!! SHAME ON U!!
      U DISGUST ME!! ITS PEOPLE LIKE YOU WHO MAKE THE WORLD A TERRIBLE PLACE!!

    • Justice and Truth
      March 19, 2012

      @ Anonymous

      That is not nice! Have respect. Your derogatory comment should not have been allowed on this Website. Be broadminded. Are you perfect and are you living a perfect life, free of sin and imperfect behavior? Offer some concrete advice. :twisted: :twisted:

    • patriot
      March 20, 2012

      AM JUST MAKING A WILD GUEST

      YOU WERE BORN WITHOUT A MOTHER
      YOU HAVE NO SISTERS
      YOU ARE NOT A WOMAN
      YOU ARE GAY
      YOU HATE LADIES

      WHAT ON EARTH WOULD MAKE YOU SAY SOMETHING LIKE THIS ?

  25. proud dominican
    March 19, 2012

    that woman must be a damn fool! in this day and age you getting so personal with a total stranger. what if he had kill her in the US? what would we Dominicans say?

  26. (.) (.)
    March 19, 2012

    Only now you afraid? You should be afraid from the begining of the unknown. I guess all the money he was sending you and him living in the U.S. bazoodi you. After the man put you up in a hotel and not his home after the 1st night you should catch a cab to the airport and find yourself back to Dominica.

    • annoyed
      March 19, 2012

      For a da woman u sort.in this day and age.girl you let man come da.you lucky u get back da.he may not come his self.you never trust people nonlinear.I pray he forget you

    • Dominican Queen
      March 20, 2012

      she liked the money he was sending. Its all about THINGS!!! wake up ladies. work for what you need and stop waiting on stuff from othere to make you shine

  27. proud doominican
    March 19, 2012

    that woman must be a damn fool! in this day and age you getting so personal with a total stranger. what if he had kill her in the US? what would we Dominicans say?

  28. Anonymous
    March 19, 2012

    that woman must be a damn fool! in this day and age you getting so personal with a total stranger. what if he had kill her in the US? what would we Dominicans say?

  29. papadoupolous
    March 19, 2012

    Wow! Seems like she got foxed!!

  30. kit
    March 19, 2012

    Mi DAYBA!!! I never trust this online dating.. It’s just too risky!!! U better take an STD test.. who knows.. U may not be the only one he is fooling around with..
    Ladies be careful.. Don’t let money and vanity blind u!!

    • babygirl
      March 20, 2012

      NOT ONLINE ALONE. DA WOMAN THOSE MEN JUST EVEN TELL THEM THEY HAVE WOMAN AND SOME OF THEM JUST SAT THEY TRYING SOMETHING

  31. oh plz.
    March 19, 2012

    You people are so hypocrite. That can happen to any one. Its wasnt just money, or US man, it could happen rite here in dominica. Its unfortunate that the man became obsessed with u, and now u frighten for ur life. u did the right thing by going to the police. Move away for awhile, change ur pone # and email address. Good luck and be more careful next time. I suggest u do some STDs test as well if u had unprotected sex.

  32. beautiful disaster
    March 19, 2012

    Am i the only wondering how you make love over the internet?? :-| i guess so. Not to make things worse, but for all she knows he could have recorded that without her knowledge

  33. Reader
    March 19, 2012

    Hacking into emails and all that … whoa! Sounds like he bug her

    • A A
      March 20, 2012

      Ha! This is the prince-ess of darkness. Half man, half woman. PM and AM attributes. The bugging thing is real bad.

  34. observant woman
    March 19, 2012

    the love of money and vanity that cause that greed too …..wforget that POLICE POLICE POLICE!!!!!! HELP HER PLZ

  35. simple mind
    March 19, 2012

    Go see so many decent,humble boys Rachel watch ole eyes b4 she discover that gorgon.

  36. March 19, 2012

    U SEE I`M A DOMINCAN WOMAN LIVING IN THE U.S AND THIS CAN NEVER HAPPEN TO ME CUZ, I ONLY FLIRT WITH MY DOMINICAN MEN.I DON`T LIVE MY DOMINICAN MEN FOR NO FORIEGN.

    • Waitukubuli
      March 19, 2012

      While I applaud your positive outlook I would, however, caution you to move wisely. There are Dominican men who are married and still go after othr women and lie about being single or they rant and rave about their wives and play “poor pity me”. I don’t think anyone is immune to victimization. Further, no woman should be flirting around, you might just end up leading on the wrong person.

    • kixs
      March 19, 2012

      so who tell you dominican menw ouldnr do that.??? i glad for you

    • (.) (.)
      March 19, 2012

      Yeah, I hear you flirting with my husband online and planning on meeting him too

    • ck
      March 19, 2012

      LISTEN HERE….i am the same way..people here does tell me how I byas and stereotyping BUT i always tell them I have my reason why and I could relate to my people better…..Im not saying we don’t have bad men from DA too…But like i said…..i rather take my chances with my own kind

  37. Waitukubuli
    March 19, 2012

    Many have advised that she publish his name and other info but I doubt he even gave her his real name – he was playing a game – I don’t think he’d be stupid enough to give his real name to leave any trace behind.

    Young women, money and gifts are not everything. Online dating is the most dangerous be very careful and be not hasty to commit to any relationship.

    I hope that this experience makes you a wiser person. Surrender to Father God , HE will provide all your needs. As some suggested change your contact information. You’ll be alright my fellow Dominican.

  38. tiny
    March 19, 2012

    come on people meeting people online is cool… as someone pointed out you just need to take the necessary precaution….i get Friend request from people in different countries ….

  39. March 19, 2012

    dominican women should only date dominican men online who are ‘overs’ lol… trust me… is then ‘love’ sweet… :-P Now as far as this situation is concerned no need to repeat the good advice given below… women especially need to understand they can’t just up and leave their country to meet a man they have never ‘met’ before… that’s dangerous business… and when men spend their money…hhhmmm… that is not easy ting… first off if a man spending money lavishly on you, why don’t you question his means (i’m not saying to ask him cause he’ll obviously lie)… he may have drug or cartel connections… i think you should state what site and the man’s username… so therefore other women won’t be at risk for he might decide to lure another ‘dominican’ woman for the sake of revenge….

    • Waitukubuli
      March 19, 2012

      It sounds easy MOTS, but I guarantee this is not the first woman he has victimized.That’s his game and his username or name, whatever alias he used is long gone.

      I agree to what you’ve said above re the source of money – who knows if he wasn’t digging through his wife’s “purse”? Women just need to be wise. Not only could he have killed her, but who knows what disease he has and he is trying to be “generous” and share it?

      Women, please stop being naive in this “crazy” world.

  40. zee
    March 19, 2012

    if i get a man dat want to send me money, give me trip and never sleep with me. I TAKIN IT WII

    trust me.

    • blast
      March 20, 2012

      Well the economic situation in Dominica must be worse than ever. Lack of jobs and the young people just resort to steal, deal drugs, prostitution and anything just for a dollar.
      That’s not the way to go.

  41. DANZIGER
    March 19, 2012

    Please ppl trust no one the old sayig goes love is blind, love can kill, love will make a rich man poor. Remember we are living in a MAFIA world be careful young men ladies also I know things hard but stand up strong open yr eyes think before u answere yes. Dont jump on board make sure u know the person be informed before u say yes thats a lesson for others behind to learn. Rachel courage and learn from yr mistake.

  42. March 19, 2012

    MORE WOMEN HAVE BEEN THROUGH WORSE WITH MEN THAT THEY ALWAYS KNEW AND LIVE IN THE SAME PLACE WITH THEM.
    THERE IS NO NEED TO TELL HER SHE IS THIS OR THAT AND IS HER FAULT…I AM SURE THAT ALL THOSE WHO SAY BAD THINGS ABOUT THIS LADY HAVE BEEN DISAPPOINTED BY MEN.SOME OF YOU TAKE ILL TREATMENT AND STILL STAY WITH THE MEN IN THE NAME OF LOVE.

  43. nalya
    March 19, 2012

    The best thing to do is delete and/or change all numbers and email addresses you gave him. All young women and men please take example from her situation. It could be worst so be grateful you are here alive and learn from your experience.Remember fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on Me.

  44. d
    March 19, 2012

    There is nothing wrong with Online dating but there are some safety rules involved… first meet the person out in public and never go somewhere that you don’t feel safe. In this case you took a trip/ money and much more from someone you barely know. You also put yourself in a predicament going to a hotel and having this stranger come to see you.
    America is a very dangerous place and women die every day by men considered to be predators. They use the internet to lure girls/women in and then use and kill them. Please be carefull next time

  45. Pebbles
    March 19, 2012

    This does not make sense you need a visa and wouldn’t you need an address in the u.s? To provide to immigration? The u.s does not operate like that that story has holes all over it.This does not add up there is more to this story. Besides all you would need to do is change your number. Please allow this woman to provide more proff airline ticket,passport stamp ect.

    • hmmm
      March 19, 2012

      stupes. Nothing you cited point to holes in the story.

      • shame on you
        March 19, 2012

        he/she is absolutely right, visa,ph#,complete address and the persons name is a must. without these informations you stand the chance of going back to where you come from on the same flight.

    • zor
      March 19, 2012

      hmmm way mama! you too like beff! information u want not true? smh

    • March 19, 2012

      she may have had a visa already…. as far as address… she may have used the hotel address or the man’s home address… with a telephone number to the hotel or the man’s personal number…. no biggy here…. good to go… don’t make ‘visa’ sound so hard… it’s not hard to get

      • En Ba La
        March 19, 2012

        The guy does not even have to give his house/personal address. He can simply have a P O Box which looks like a home address and there is majic jack, free voicemail etc.

        so many people have these business mailing addresses

    • hmmmmm
      March 19, 2012

      pebbles, the lady could provide the hotel name, or address to the immigration so i doh kno wa u talking about

    • kixs
      March 19, 2012

      pebbles first of all you dont know the person so you dont know if they have a visa. think outside the box.

    • go
      March 19, 2012

      DNO dat make up dere story

    • Al
      March 19, 2012

      It makes sense … u can give an address how immigration know if that address is correct or not? plus if u on vacation u can give a hotel address. plus she is not trying to prove she went to the us to visit some crazy guy.. all she is talking about is her experience

  46. Satelite
    March 19, 2012

    That good for you, if it was me that was talking to you face to face right here in Dominica you would never listen to me or give me attention. All you too like things that all you cannot see or feel and when its too late it becomes dangerous. He have money! Is that what got you fooled, well you learned your lesson. Learn to appreciate love for what it really means, not for money, travel or hotel or for just being famous.

    • angle
      March 19, 2012

      y you saying that i just find you a wicked man.she have her rigth to accept who she feel like in her life. is a woman your mother????

    • Plain dishonesty
      March 19, 2012

      @Satelite Stop right here – there are Dominican men doing the same thing that this nasty guy is doing. They have their wife in one state – making babies in another state – chasing philipino women overthere – have online profile stating they are separated and divorced – talking face to face you would not say this about them. This is just individuals and what they value in life.

      This woman should have been my friend – he would be the one on the run right now.

  47. Tiger
    March 19, 2012

    So when you go into a “relationship” and all you did (1) accept his monetary gifts (2) accept his plane ticket (3) accept his offer to put you up at his home or hotel, what did you really expect? He was putting up all the money, so in a sense, he had to believe he owned you.

    This is what I have been telling my daughter, get yourself a good education so you do not have to depend on any man to look after you. You go into those relationships on your own terms.

    Let that be a lesson learned.

    • Anonymous
      March 19, 2012

      Well said. Some women too like to make material things fool them. You don’t know a man from adam yet u accepting all those valuables from him? You don’t know the man background yet you allowing it to reach that far. Thank God I’m independent. SMH. Anyways we all make mistakes I hope this doesn’t end badly.

  48. F.J
    March 19, 2012

    It is sad that you are still in denial…please tell me you are smarter than that! Why else would a man invite you to another country and allow you to stay in a hotel? You need to watch “ID”. Just be thankful you are still alive…Do not be a home wrecker young lady, if he did not want to be seen with you, this was your clue that he was not available!

  49. En Ba La
    March 19, 2012

    Young lady the scary part you braved it – by visiting him in the unknown – it is done and over with.

    First file your complaints in a file form with the police in Dominca copied to the police in his city or whatever area he lives in with copies of his photo, phone call messages (make copies of them) emails and any threats he sent you.

    You should have two complaints filed cc each the departsments you make them with.

    THIS GUY IS HARRASSING YOU.

    The site you met him on SHOULD BE MADE AWARE OF YOUR SITUATION and that you have filed complaints against him with law enforcement.

    Do you know where he works? if you have to go this route the exact complaints you filed with the police send it to his work place.

    The online dating thing I do not believe in it but others do and I am not criticizing them for that just play it safe and become internet savvy.

  50. Domerican/Possie
    March 19, 2012

    Thank God you got back home safely. You could have walked right into a death trap in that hotel room. Why some of us women take so many chances is beyond me. Think women, think. There are too many crazy things happening in this day and age for us to continue putting ourselves in harms way. Hope you learned your lesson. Now that you are back home, do what is necessary to keep yourself safe from this pervert.

  51. Nostalgia
    March 19, 2012

    First off young lady, I’m happy that you were able to return to Dominica safely, give all glory to GOD, because we could have been reading that you were a missing person, or worse ended up dead in some ditch in the US.

    1. change your number

    2. make sure the police/Customs & Immigration Dept has a photo of his

    3. post any name of Number you may have along with the picture annoymously on DNO so that he can be exposed

    3.Block him from FB/ and or any email you may have used to communicate with him

    lastly Dominican people stay away from online chats and dating rooms please!!!People are not necessarily who they pretend to be, their are millions of sick folks trolling the net looking for prey! Do not take these chances with your life, leaving the your island and home to meet strangers. What is wrong with people, and stop accepting gifts from strangers!

    • trolol
      March 19, 2012

      That I checking there she retarded man contact American and Dominican police threats agaisnt your life can put you in jail in America smh, what a NOOB

  52. PUSS
    March 19, 2012

    well i cant say anything but I’m from the north and not all north girls are stupid, too bad, miss “Rachel” we all make mistakes….. so she had a rendezvous with a married man she shouldn’t be punished by HIM that’s GOD”S work. All i can say is this story being published on here is irrelevant and makes no sense to us if we can;t get to know who this mysterious man is. You never know who else he might be planning on attacking or is already messing with. DNO give us the necessary information please

  53. Mouth of the West
    March 19, 2012

    So much man it have in Dominica you have to go online and look for man. From the time you see the man tell you lets go in hotel you should know he married. Try and meet a man on the local seen my girl online is where all them aviol and sexual predetors does go and look for easy targets like you.

  54. Seriously
    March 19, 2012

    Very mature responses I must say. Rachie do as you are told especially contacting the US police, they dont take violence against women lightly esp on the internet.

    Fellow Dominicans let us create awareness for our brothers and sisters about internet dating, lets take it to the airwaves and online and anywhere we can. Rachel did something really stupid and sh is lucky to be alive, at least she used her head. But let us not judge her, encourage her and lets hope she and others ladies learn from this, Peace!

  55. angle
    March 19, 2012

    it realy hard for you!!!!!!!!!! but some dominican must stop be so wicked some off you all can be in that woman place

  56. hahahaaa
    March 19, 2012

    this is what happens when you too fass

  57. angel
    March 19, 2012

    DNO’ arn’t you pleasantly surprised at the responses? I am sure when this lady sent you this article she expected tongue bashing and “putting down”. But my people are so understanding and sympathetic. We are still all for eachand each for all. HATS OFF TO ALL MY BEAUTIFUL BROTHERS AND SISTERS.

  58. Holiday Island Man
    March 19, 2012

    How did she managed to get a visa to the US ,and how did she get past US Immigration without giving them a valid address in the USA,as she stated that she was expecting to be taken to the guy’s home , but ended up in a hotel. Something does not add up here.

  59. dominicaFirst
    March 19, 2012

    Lol funny. Did anyone every told you that these American men ain’t sh*t. Especially black American men. And he won’t come to Dominica to kill you, that’s a coward. When I says he will kill u, you say listen up MadaF….er, I will kill you first, you come here and you will disappear of the face of this earth. So come, come to Dominica.
    You’ll see if hill ever call back.

  60. FF
    March 19, 2012

    Darling Please make this man name public and if you have a pic of him…please post…If i know Dominicans well…they will criticize you but they will protect you…with the amount of harassing calls he would get from Dominicans in the US…he may not even want to pass over the island much less to land on it….

  61. Digi
    March 19, 2012

    A friend of mine gave me a movie he made of him self and a girl.. even nude pics of her….now i see this girl everyday in town playing miss innocent…what a shame on our dominican women.

    • tiny
      March 19, 2012

      so what did you say to this guy…was it his girlfriend?…she obliviously trusted him….do you know that yo can’t even trust your own husband…. cause when you get divorce they use these things against you..that’s wrong….

      a woman should not let anyone (she think she trust and is in a relationship with) take naked pic of her and she will suffer the consequence of her stupid decision
      but there are those who do it only wit their husband and they still end of being betrayed by them…so shame on those men also….so women don’t let any man not even your husband take naked pics of you…

      • Digi
        March 19, 2012

        well he thought that she was his girlfriend but she had many….i saw her with this guy who work at the crazycoconuts while she was still with my friend…He listened to me that’s why it’s not on the internet, youtube right now ….some women do ask for it can’t always blaim the men…some women are too damn Ratty

      • tiny
        March 19, 2012

        and to add it could have been me cause i did it with a male that i loved and trusted

      • En Ba La
        March 19, 2012

        Tiny – for once I share something with you (I am applauding here – way to go Tiny).

        :lol:

      • tiny
        March 19, 2012

        not a movie just pics

      • Justice and Truth
        March 20, 2012

        @ tiny

        Congratulations! For a change you got many thumbs up. Keep it up! :lol:

    • PUSS
      March 19, 2012

      and that goes to say how much of a friend you are or should i even say how much of a man you are. You should advise him to stop this acts of ignorance and do whats right. Would you be happy if it was your sister, mother, cousin, aunt? :twisted:

    • Anonymous
      March 19, 2012

      No dearie. You have it all wrong. Shame on your friend for doing something so low class and shame on you for being in cahoots with him! She didn’t share her body with him with the hopes that he would be publicising her this way!

    • Anonymous
      March 19, 2012

      What a shame of him to have betrayed her trust in such an absolute way!

    • d
      March 19, 2012

      @digi… stupid comment…
      women sometimes trust men and when you are in love do things that should not be seen in public. If this is the case then this guy that showed you the video or pics should be castrated…

      • Digi
        March 19, 2012

        @ d…so what do u think should happen to a woman who says she has a boyfriend and still sleeps with any man who would just tell her that she’s beautiful ????? i would surely cut off her clit

    • hmmm
      March 19, 2012

      and your point is? The only difference between what you saw on the video and what you have probably done in private with your own man/woman is that hers was filmed, your wasn’t.

      Stop acting like you people don’t get up to sexual activity.

    • Roz
      March 19, 2012

      Your friend is a boy. And a very immature boy too eh. And if you are a woman and is that he using to try to impress you, imagine what he could do to you. If you are a man, learn that men do not do these things, That is little boy ways to “kiss and tell”.

    • Roz
      March 19, 2012

      Dats a shame on our Dominican men…acting like little boys. Man should learn to keep their private lives private. But then again, they think they bigging up themselves when they do that. Dominican woman have to be so careful with them little boys we calling men there eh.

  62. we women
    March 19, 2012

    To south city shabin, she used her head. As she said she played it cool till she reach DA. It was when she got here she start refusing to take his calls and dumped him. Else i believed if she had done so since over there she maybe would not be here to tell the story. Be careful WOMEN/GIRLS. We to QUICK and like THINGS to DAMN much.

    • Sout City Shabin
      March 19, 2012

      i’m aware she played it cool and came back in 1 piece thank God but that was a foolish move to go overs and meet this man after a few chats? hmmmmm

  63. plainjane
    March 19, 2012

    deary; this could happen to anyone of us! i am sorry to hear! u take care and remain calm! threats these days are to be taken seriously! u have my prayers!all will be well!

    • SINISTER MINISTER
      March 19, 2012

      Y’ALL LIKE VANITY TOO MUCH….ALWAYS THINKING THE FOREIGN MEN ARE BETTER THAN YOUR LOCAL GUYS…WELL WHEN THE FOREIGN FAIRYTALE PRINCES BRING Y’ALL ACROSS THE WATERS…TAKE WHAT Y’ALL GET

      • beautiful disaster
        March 19, 2012

        but all the local guys looking like they either want to end up in jail, dead, or they on the DL

      • shame on you
        March 19, 2012

        he/she is absolutely right, visa,ph#,complete address and the persons name is a must. without these informations you stand the chance of going back to where you come from on the same flight.

        Dominica men don,t know how to respect Dominica women. i live abroad and told myself i would only be with a man from my country, well this was one of the worst mistakes i ever made in my life, you wouldn,t like to know the details.

      • beware
        March 20, 2012

        Mr Minister. All yal money is young girls. But do you know that the foreign married women do the same to the young men. The internet dishes awful emails to all web sites.
        Don’t even open. Just delete.

  64. LR
    March 19, 2012

    sometimes we make mistakes and u were quite lucky to leave the states unharmed……be on guard and relocate if you have to…..hope you learn Rachel!! smdh….if in life we meet certain people and still dont know them very well even after many years and what they are capable of…..why would you even try such?? YOU LIVE YOU LEARN!

  65. tiny
    March 19, 2012

    is a good thing you didn’t strip for him…that is after you felt you could trust him of course…cause he would have used it against you…my roommate met a man online and i saw her stripping for him( then again you can’t take pics of a person while video chatting on msn….. so thank she was video chatting on msn… but i realize you can do it on skype ….. she was showing him her breast………..i told her don’t be so quick to trust him and it seem like she told him that cause she gave me the phone to speak to him and he started telling me what a good person he is…..then she left for the weekend to go meet him…and she came back sad…i didn’t see them communicating after that…maybe he didn’t find her that attractive in person cause he usually just saw her face

    • tiny
      March 19, 2012

      correction…thank god she was chatting on msn…but then again i remember she was using a computer camera…it was back then when most computers did not come with cameras…

      as for me I’m not going to say whether I’ve stripped for anyone online :wink:

    • Anonymous
      March 19, 2012

      stupes!!!!!!!!!! so attraction eh? that is all?

      Them stupid girls/woman out there doesn’t realize them man doe care about them?

    • k
      March 19, 2012

      Tiny u make my day!!! lol.. I guess u are saying your friend is not good looking.. Hope she is not reading your posts..

      • k
        March 19, 2012

        or maybe she has a bad shape..haahha

      • tiny
        March 19, 2012

        @ k….. you’re right
        her face was OK..she had nice breast…but the rest of her body…not very attractive….i think he was disappointed…some people are superficial…and as a matter of fact I’ve had several friends who met guys online including Craig’s list…and the guys stopped communicating when they saw full pics of them……

        and i see some people on Facebook with such pretty pic of themselves…meeehnnnn…pictures can lie…. and in person they are not pretty….

        i know a girl who would not video chat with a guy she met online no matter how much he begged her …i was thinking because she knew she was not as pretty as her Facebook pics

  66. Sout City Shabin
    March 19, 2012

    you see that nonsense there, woman like that girl here in this story makes the rest of us women pass for fools why men have to try and cut their supposed style on us, cuz jane paying for jill pa vway? WOMAN WHAT IS YOUR ISSUE? dont you know you could have gone overseas to your death? the money he was sending you you liked it and had no issue fine, but you get ticket and you jet over there!!? hmmmm girls like you too cooyon tan! i never see……now you have yourself scared well is your fault i hope you learn and i hope none happens to you

    • Sout City Shabin
      March 19, 2012

      you just lucky you had time come down before he had really kill you smh

      • pitiful
        March 19, 2012

        Yes, she is. And dat man must all be reading DON.
        She should check to see if he is on facebook, twitter and all the other similar links. He can always change his identity.

    • tilldeathdowepart
      March 19, 2012

      All those greedy women out there who just believe they can just get what they want free must learn that EVERYTHING in this world comes with a price. You were just accepting the man’s money and did not think for a second that this thing was too good to be true. Now you scared? You are nothing but a greedy fool. Take what you get….threat and all. SAC SOTT

    • Anonymous
      March 19, 2012

      Don’t be so quick to judge, dear. I have met people online but I haven’t had any relations with them and they are genuine people. You just have to be very careful cause it can be risky doing things that way. There was someone who I became friends with and I chose to meet with him in a public place. Don’t be too quick to jump into such relations. Try to get to know the person before becoming intimate.

  67. SOLDIERS
    March 19, 2012

    iy have our people all over

    trust me we can find him just where he be and get antony to represent you in court

  68. SOLDIERS
    March 19, 2012

    publish his picture

    does he have a facebook name

    spread d man outa d place

    put FBI interopl on him

    he might even try a back door vibes via d loupes gwada or martinique

    he might even change his identity

    print his name on all newspaper

  69. anonymously
    March 19, 2012

    report abuse to his email and internet provider, contact local and U.S police authorities. change your email addresses and phone numbers. create a fake online identity and try wining his interest over to that other fake ID, that way you can keep tabs on what he is up 2 and divert his interest away from you.

    • En Ba La
      March 19, 2012

      Because of her prior involvement with him I would not advocate this. If the guy hacked into her email and she did not get red flags of his NASTINESS prior to visiting him -she should not do this. She should just stay away from him.

      This guy is far ahead computerwise than her. He picked his battle he realized how naive she is from the get go.

  70. SOLDIERS
    March 19, 2012

    Our girls have to be careful and dont get into them kind off relationship . It have enough BAMBOOO MAN in DA GHETTO just come SESSAME HARLEM MONTEGO BAY BLOCK 44 AND NEWTOWN etc and you will get them kinda man

    Partner leave our DA PRINCESSES IN PEACE WE MAKO $ OUR GHURLZ

    please respect DOMINICANS

    we aint threatening no body but we will never stand up to ous queens being attacked !

    POLICE ! POLICE ! POLICE ! PROTECT DAT GHURL!!!!!!

    P
    E
    A
    C
    E
    and

    LOVE

  71. take it or leave it
    March 19, 2012

    All i can say my dear you had an easy escape who knows maybe the wife could attack you as well. I dont know why those men dont like to speak the truth especially the married men and if is the woman choice to be with you then let it be the same goes to the women as well please becareful who you fool around with on the internet.

  72. me me
    March 19, 2012

    money is the root of all evil.
    u see all what money can do.
    he was giving you his money all a long and u was accepting it. so now you can just leave. i am so sorry for you my dear.
    the man has money anything is possible, all i can tell you is pray and read your bible daily thats the only thing that will work out for you. going to the police true, but on the other hand thats like a waste of time.

    • zor
      March 19, 2012

      Permit me to correct you ‘Me Me’. Money isn’t the root of all evil. The LOVE of money is the root of all evil. There’s a big difference

      • me me
        March 20, 2012

        thats true but is love she love money thats why she did this if the man was not giving her no money she would not have done that to herself. now she is trap, she says the man has money, that means anything is possible the man dont have to come to dominica.
        he has money he can pay someone. Americans dosent move like us in the caribbean you know, they move fast and on high levels

  73. JAZZY
    March 19, 2012

    That story is missing the other side. Too many holes in it. Do not make sence.

  74. Shameless
    March 19, 2012

    Give the police his name and the city in the US you visited. Also, go online and get the contact information for the Police Department in his area, call them and make an official report. They will track him by the payment he made to the hotel. Be prepared to send all exchanged emails regardless of how explicit they may be.

    Hopefully as with everything else he will eventually get the message. Change you email address, telephone number, facebook page etc. Believe me, your friends will understand.

    Good luck…..

    • Apalled
      March 19, 2012

      That’s very intelligent advice and comments. Very refreshing.

  75. Gee
    March 19, 2012

    Give his name to customs authority and hopefully he will be stoped at the entry [hopefully you know his full ad legal name?

    Take care!

  76. marigot
    March 19, 2012

    young lady he is not greater than God, go down on your knees and pray. firstask God to forgive you of your sins and cleanse you from all unrighteousness, and i mean pray sincerely and give God your all. ask him to draw you closer to him and accept him fully, then ask him to remove any obstacles in your way, and change that man’s heart and turn him around to follow Christ. there is no mountain too high God cannot move it, there is no river too wide he cannot cross it. he carried the weight of the world on his shoulders, this man is nothig for him to deal with.

  77. prhmmm
    March 19, 2012

    stay calm honey these thing happen all the time online dating is very dangerous contact the u.s police also and if it continues take legal action

  78. Igloo
    March 19, 2012

    Maybe you should consider changing your email address(es) altogether. I’m not so computer savvy, so all the techies blogging on here don’t bite my head off. :lol: :lol:

  79. kixs
    March 19, 2012

    look drama wi papa… yes sah! doe have online man

  80. A woman
    March 19, 2012

    That goes to show that we must be careful who we deal with is not everything that glitters that’s gold. I am so sorry u had to learn the hard way hope its not to late for you girlfriend…We should all learn from her mistake.

  81. wow!
    March 19, 2012

    wait for itttttt…the onslaught of negative comments from all the saints in Dominica who have never done anything stupid in their entire life.

    Anyway ‘Rachel’ I feel your pain. Going to the police was a good move. Hope it works out and he simply forgets you and moves on.

  82. stupes
    March 19, 2012

    contact the US police and don’t be so naive in future

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