Guy doesn’t want to leave his girlfriend for me

I know this is going to sound cliche, but I have no where else to turn.

I fell in love with this guy who apparently already has a girlfriend. We’ve been seeing each other for over a year now and I am started to get a little frustrated, he says that he is going to leave her to be with me but I see no actions leading to that.

Sometimes I think about leaving but when I think about all what we have been through I tell myself that it will all be OK in the end.

I am in desperate need of your help because I want to know what decision is the right one.

Should I leave and move on with my life and find someone for me? Or wait and see what happens and hope that it will all work out in the end?

Yours truly
Confused Lover

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Dear Confused Lover,

It is apparent you are in the wrong relationship. If you have been seeing this guy for over a year and he is not making any moves to leave his girlfriend, then there is no way he is going to leave her. He is just using you. Some men have the tendency to tell women sweet things just to jump in her panties.

Now it was wrong on your part to get involved with that guy. You knew he had a girlfriend and yet you still went on and had a relationship with him. Admit that you were wrong and move on. Leave that guy with his girlfriend. I am sure you will get someone out there that will accept you and love you.

Good luck.

Bella

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95 Comments

  1. September 18, 2013

    Confused Lover:

    This man already has a girlfriend. :cry: Obviously the reason he is with you is for the sex. This tells you the kind of man he is. :oops: Some men think “variety is the spice of life”. Some are struggling with their sexual orientation :twisted: and seek a confirmation of their heterosexuality by proving to themselves that they can make it with women. How do you know he doesn’t have other women or even men? Some are insecure and in some sick way it increases their sense of manhood to have an extra woman or two. :mrgreen: For many men like this it’s like a drug and they go from woman to woman for years. So Confused, you are the only person who can decide if this is the kind of man you want for a husband and the father of your children. You can and should do better.

    You either don’t know that the Bible says sex outside of marriage (fornication) is a sin OR you don’t care. (Romans 21-32) (1 Corinthians 6:9,10) (Galatians 5:19-21) (1 Timothy 1:9,10) EITHER way, what does this tell you about yourself :?:

    Yes, MANY people are breaking God’s moral laws and MANY are living in sin. Jesus Christ Himself said it would be this way in Matthew 7:13,14 and Matthew 24:12. This is why society today is in such a mess :cry: with young girls dropping out of school to have babies, illegitimate children, single mothers. and homes with children who have no father, teenagers on drugs, running away from home and getting in trouble with the law. This is why married coupes are breaking up and the divorce rate is going though the roof.

    You have no conscience about stealing away another woman’s boyfriend. Have you had trouble getting a boyfriend? Is it impossible to get one of your own? If you read the DNO comments you will know that almost all the writers disagree with you. Some of them think you are downright nasty.

    The fact that this man had been seeing you for a year and is still with his regular girlfriend should be enough to let you know he is playing a game. You are being taken for a ride (no pun intended).

    If you did win him over you would be an even worse fool if you thought you could trust him. If he left his present girlfriend for you how could you trust him not to leave you for another :?: People’s past behavior is the best way to tell what they will do in the future unless they receive Jesus Christ as their personal Savior and HE changes their lives from the inside out. This sometimes happens! When it does they stop their nastiness! Get your Bible and find 1 Corinthians 6. Read verses 9 and 10. Compare these two verses. Now read 2 Corinthians 5:17.

    The good news is that you can put your past failings and sins behind you and start a new life. The gospel is the answer to the world’s problems. :lol: It is the only healing balm for the spiritual disease called sin. Other philosophies and programs may relieve the SYMPTOMS but Christ will remove the CAUSE :!: You must receive Jesus Christ as your Savior. He is the only One who can make any of us what we should be and certainly the only One who can make us fit and ready for Heaven! You can become become a woman of God – the kind of woman a man can trust. You can meet a good man you will be proud to introduce as your husband.

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    Simply click onto EAGLE COURSE. The first lesson will tell you how to receive Christ as your Savior and begin a new life. This is what it means to be “saved” or “born again”.

    Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  2. balance
    May 31, 2012

    the young lady is asking for an advise and all of you want to eat her neck out,how many of you have a man which belongs to you???? women don’t decide for men which woman they keep or how much they see cause a lot of women have men and don’t know how to treat them.and two people falling for each other i am not seeing any thing wrong here when they are both fed up they will go there way.love ,emotion ,feelings ,this things are some times stronger than you ,even when you know its wrong.

  3. BZ,
    May 31, 2012

    Number one girl ,you dnt fell in love u grow in love and for you to grow in love ,you have to have what is yours.Trust me am a woman and those days not a dam one of us know what is love.By the way am Dominican

  4. Dominican Princess
    May 31, 2012

    some people seem to confuse what love is. . .its not a one sided thing. it has to be mutual

  5. sexc grl
    May 31, 2012

    leave d man with his woman dont be a home wrecker cause what goes around comes back harder

  6. Blessed
    May 31, 2012

    Sweetheart you answered your question already, and I quote YOU “Should I leave and move on with my life and find someone for me?”
    Go and live your life and LEAVE him alone he is already taken.

  7. budman
    May 31, 2012

    stay with the man. he giving you good wood. continue to take it like a champ. you should also consider a threesome. hey don’t knock it until you try it.

  8. Pusina
    May 31, 2012

    But But But Salop modey papa lord. de woman know de man have his woman you falling in love and expecting de man to leave his woman for you. WOman he will do the same thing to you. Get a grip puss and stop thinking with your sus and use your brains for once. Lord Dominica women

    • vanasse
      June 1, 2012

      I hate when a woman calling another woman salop as wemen we should respect one another.

  9. queen bee
    May 31, 2012

    Good!!! All you too like people man!! You know he had a girl friend and you going there?? Stay and waste your time

  10. Sugy
    May 31, 2012

    Babes I’m sorry I know this may be a serious issue ! Its like your between a rock and a hard place! But i have to agree with the advice of a previous contributor, You seriously need to listen to Acer Banton…. I say this because its a mind thing…. Every time you tell yourself he is gonna leave her, you set yourself up! If you challenge is weight loss its OK to feel like a looser but i get the feeling losing weight is not the problem.. its loosing baggage move on that dude is never gonna leave, and if by chance he does leave her! Trust me your Ass is gonna be sat in a couple of months years.. wondering Is he cheating, leaving, or playing groupie again! My motto in life is (And im not a saint)All time i with you we having fun you like me, I not stressing over like man- Since i honestly believe that Man only suppose to love his Wife,One year is enough time for a man to know what he want from you, This dude likes you and not BIG like small like. You most assuredly deserve better!

  11. mahaut
    May 31, 2012

    When he find some fresh young piece of meat, he is going to do the same to you. Never ask a man to leave a girl to be with you, cause if he can do it to Mary Jane and Henrietta; he will surely do it to do and sooner to.

  12. The Man
    May 30, 2012

    But really n truly, what is the problem with young girls of today? Smh, in times like now i wish we were in Moses days so ya’ll could see the true value of a relationship. Now is like u all playing a football game, when “some one tired a sub comeing n take his place after 5 mins he back him” that dont make any sense please grow up, n knw whats real

  13. Leave my man alone
    May 30, 2012

    I know who u are and believe me u just dere to keep him company while I am away. You are nothing but a Groupie. I was dere first and I ain’t letting him go and neither is he gonna leave me for u.

    • Confused :s
      July 16, 2012

      umm what I don’t understand is:

      1. If you know that he’s cheating on you why are you still with him????

      2. Why are you trying to fight with her?

      The problem isn’t her its your man. And unless you like being disrespected by someone who is clearly not devoted to you I suggested you skip like rocks and leave.

      #justsaying

  14. May 30, 2012

    kaboom!!!! girl u must listen to some Asa Bantan…STOP FIGHT OVER ONE MAN!!!! …. I HOPE YOU LOOK GOOD SO U CAN GET A NEXT MAN!!!!

    • Anonymous
      May 31, 2012

      best advive ever…lol :-D

  15. dirty harry
    May 30, 2012

    pay d woman for her man

  16. (.) (.)
    May 30, 2012

    Why tell the woman to leave another woman’s man alone and go find hers? Don’t most women end up marrying or having relationships with someone else’s man? If every woman had her own man, what a wonderful world it would be but guess what, it’s not going to happen. Everyone just needs to respect themselves and each other

    • Yesah
      May 31, 2012

      In other words, share your man respectfully?? Be real. :lol: When you do it go on tv and share this success story and we’ll follow.

  17. Nn Man.
    May 30, 2012

    Lady nn Man. Is nn woman own ok thé Only thing Is That u wrong to go out With him knowing That hé hâve à woman.

  18. ...........
    May 30, 2012

    One piece of advice: Always try to get your own man. Even when it seems impossible, try not to share anyone’s man. In this way you avoid this kind of heart ache.

    The same way he might be telling you he is going to leave her, he might be saying to her that you are the one pursuing, ‘harassing’ him. Been there done that.

    The right guy for you is somewhere out there, it’s just that many times we women overlook and ignore those guys who truly care about us and we either laugh at them, take advantage of them or take them for granted.

  19. LR
    May 30, 2012

    but wait a minute….lol…a joke that man…..what makes you think he is gonna respect you any more than his “GF” u sot or what…..”if he killed the grass in his own yard, what make you think he will be a better gardener in yours??” your mama never tell you find what is yours…..smfh some of you these days…smh

  20. KAYA
    May 30, 2012

    STOP RIDING OTHER MAN WOMAN AND FIND YOUR OWN. :lol:

  21. citizen
    May 30, 2012

    i wish the woman boss ur

  22. my sweet dominica
    May 30, 2012

    young woman , if he wanted to leave his girlfriend for you he would a year ago . men don’t just walk out on their serious relationship just so , what do you think you have that is more special that what he already have with his girlfriend? get your on with your life. there are so many men out there , you making him feel too special and a fool of you .

  23. The Truth
    May 30, 2012

    lol i swear all those giving the “u sort girl, you dis and u dat” you all are in relationships.. lol and your b/fs are all chasing other women… dont give the girl a hard time because one of all you man took the time off to show that girl some love so much so one year later she still waiting on him… I smile cause i have this feeling deep down the only reason she with him is because he telling her “i dont love her.. we just together because”…

    so all of you that are married, in a relationship, in an open relationship, not sure where it is going with this man…unless u’re not your mans guardian angel… hehehehehehe more than likely boo no matter the religion.. no matter his flaw.. he is out there and while you’re thinking you’re his everything.. women like me get the true story…

    • May 30, 2012

      You are so right, and me hearing all kind of wispers on my roof.

    • country girl..
      May 31, 2012

      The ones talking are the ones who knows for sure that their man is having lunch and dinner else where, or, they are going through that same shit…don’t act inocent or clue less….these things has been going on….way back when….I know for sure, cause my neighbour and yours has the same baby father…even women do that shit as well….to be honest…man/woman is is yours when he/she is under..not untop….because that is the time you can f..k him up…or get f..t up yourself…

      What love got to do with any thing…

  24. Wah d mor
    May 30, 2012

    but u bollllllllllllleeeeee face. i never see.

  25. MAHAUT ROW ROW
    May 30, 2012

    HMMM,my girl you is a free up for de man and you gonna get ur self pregnant and de man woman will still stay with him,you is a free up and u need to accept it!!! sometimes we men does feel to go outside n it does have ppl like u for us to free up with, so don’t say you is a confuse lover when u are a confuse free up!!!

  26. Francis Chicago
    May 30, 2012

    Miss confused what you need to do is that you need to renewed your mind boyfriend girlfriend is not the right way.For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.11corninthians 10-4-5.Proverbs[23-7].

  27. Zzzzzzzzz
    May 30, 2012

    I know of this guy who have about 12 women. No joke. Who in Roseau, his office, overseas and everywhere else. The ting is Mr. have a good job and a nice house so you dunn know. Some of the women even work together and have lunch together. I checking what boy, if they only knew the other one was their Kco-boss. I would give Mr. a serious beating with zoo-T you hear. Don’t know what women see in these men. I will tell you man does lie and bad talk woman. You know yourselves ladies, do your investigation.

  28. May 30, 2012

    girl, live mr n go find another man am sure u will find someone better n has no girlfriend

  29. Domerican/Possie
    May 30, 2012

    “He says that he is going to leave her to be with me,” I AM SURE HE IS TELLING HER THE SAME THING ABOUT YOU.

    • May 30, 2012

      i checking dat too

  30. anonymous
    May 30, 2012

    Affairs of the heart never make sense. I’m not saying the young lady is right, but the least you all could do is be realistic and rational. You have absolutely no control over who you love. Discipline is what would make this young lady walk away seeing that the guy already has his girlfriend. Discipline in this instance is extremely difficult since she seems to be in love with this guy. It doesn’t seem like she can muster enough courage to walk away from this guy and endure the heartache for a while. The longer you stay, the more difficult it will become to walk away. Your heart and emotions don’t overcome you and allow you to fall in love only when you are aware of the person’s relationship status. Attraction starts just by sight. It doesn’t take much. You become friends and feelings take over-u might fall in love. You can’t tell your heart, don’t love him because he’s in a relationship. It obviously will take a lot to move on. No one isn’t better than another so I’m not here to make you feel any worse. It’s an unfortunate situation young lady, but the decision is ultimately yours. Come to terms with yourself that your weakness allowed you to make a mistake and just move on. Don’t expect him to leave her-don’t sit and wait. Try to find the courage to walk away-it won’t be easy. The tears and the pain will come to an end and you will eventually find love again- a love that will be yours and only yours.

  31. Toosense
    May 30, 2012

    Give me a break woman. You should be ashamed to even write to Bella for advise. Come on, you are messing with another woman’s man hoping he will leave her for you. Did you ever stop to think if you were the other woman how would you feel if you found out your man was fooling around and even telling woman he will end it with you just to get laid. Woman you are already messing with two people’s lives go get your own man and leave people own alone. It’s people like you that cause others to go violent. Cha

  32. Three
    May 30, 2012

    U shud all try a threesome and decide afterwards. It might work out well!

  33. PUSS
    May 30, 2012

    Even if the ratio in Dominica is 1m:5w but that doesn’t mean u have to steal the woman man. Rest assured wen a man cheats with you he sure is going to cheat on you.

    I know, experience is the best teacher

    • Ebony
      May 30, 2012

      FYI, dominica has more men that women.

  34. Wiseup
    May 30, 2012

    WAKE UP GIRL AND SMELL THE COFFEE….IT AINT GONNA HAPPEN…MOVE ON..IT’S PEOPLE LIKE YOU THAT HELP DESTROY A RELATIONSHIP. YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF. IF YOU DOE SEE ANYBODY ELSE YOU LIKE SIMPLY WAIT. I DONT FEEL SORRY FOR PEOPLE LIKE YOU…

  35. May 30, 2012

    U ALL ARE MISSING THE POINT TO MANY TIMES WE WOMEN JUMP ON EACH OTHERS THROAT FIGHTING OVER MAN SAYING THEY ARE HOME BREAKERS WHEN IN REALITY IS THE MAN WHO IS THE HOME BREAKERS.FIRST OF ALL HE KNOWS THAT HE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP BUT YET STILL GOING AFTER OTHER WOMEN.IT IS ABOUT TIME WE WOMEN BE WISE AND BEAT THE DAY LIGHT OUT OF THESE MEN AND STOP MAKING OURSELVES LOOK LIKE FOOLS FOR THESE MEN.GIRL FORGET ABOUT THIS MANICOOU WHO CALL HIMSELF MAN AND MOVE ON AND I BET YOU HE WILL GO AFTER SOME ONE ELSE BECAUSE ONCE A CHEATER WILL ALWAYS BE A CHEATER BUT YET STILL WE WOMEN FIGHTING EACH OTHER FOR PLAYERS LIKE MR.WOMEN WAKE UP AND STOP MAKING THESE MEN LAUGH AT US.

  36. Busy
    May 30, 2012

    woye alas you too nasty you see.. allu too like people things find your own or buy vibrator.

    • Jaynne
      May 30, 2012

      I agree and if she wants a vibrator she can contact me…I sell those and more on my site.

      • Busy
        May 30, 2012

        lol.. what about pumps?

    • Jaynne
      May 31, 2012

      lol..I have that too…I have everything. Even man dolls…lol

  37. ?????????
    May 30, 2012

    What confused? You all so-called women of Dominica need to learn to respect people relationship……….Find your own.

  38. Original Eagle-Eye
    May 30, 2012

    Find your own man! leave de woman man for her! sac sort etc etc. Dominicans is the man without blame? are your relationships that perfect?

    Lady all I can say to you is that the same way married men are always in broken homes, unahppy and frustrated but never leave their wives because the divorce,kids, finance etc makes it complicated it’s the same way your expectations are delusional. This man is never going to leave the woman, and chances are if she walks away right now, he will chase after her, and dump you in a heartbeat. Just the reality of the situation! The Kalahari will sooner get rainstorms before you see him leave her, get on with your life.

  39. PROF. WIKILEAKS
    May 30, 2012

    You see “dem ting dey”, we meet it like that, and will continue. As a young man growing up ofcourse you will have two/three girlfriends. My boys will one day too.

    But girlfriend just keep your dignity and don’t be messing with other men. That two/three g/f “ting” will pass and you will be alright.

    Protect yourself at all times ok.

    But DA has a man problem…you see the guys look really badly off…dreads/uncombed hair, bearded face, distateful attire, poor mannerisms.

    Women are well represented…Beautiful, attractive, classy, sassy, well spoken and may I add educated.

    So the few good men are going to attract quite a few of these ladies.

    So men…Please step up too the plate…no man should have five women…this is not a muslim country.

    • shy
      May 30, 2012

      You right, it hard to get a good man in D/A those guys drinking plenty rum,they dirty ,smoking, meg ,cursing lots of bad language ,their hair on their head in a state, i could go on and on.Oh i almost forget and they are very very lazy.

      • Original Eagle-Eye
        May 30, 2012

        Untidyness is one thing, but you mean in this day and age people still consider one having dreads to be untidy and nasty? How comes you all never make those same allegations of causcian men with their hair in ponytails, dirty jeans and smelling rancid? Is having weave and a ton of makeup a sign of beauty?

      • (.) (.)
        May 30, 2012

        :lol: :-D :-D :-D :-D All you bad wii

  40. stupes
    May 30, 2012

    You not no damn confused lover. You are just being blind and fooled. Wake up girl and do the right thing. Leave and move on cause someone who will treat you better is out there waiting for you.

  41. Woodford Hill girl
    May 30, 2012

    @ confused you are not confused you just plain stupid,you know exactly what to do #that’s all I’m saying

    • suitty
      May 30, 2012

      she sounding like one of the women “SLICK” would like to have :-D on colly wood. is women like that, that making men ill treat the women generation

  42. girl
    May 30, 2012

    Papa mert girl he using you, maybe is all my man, you know the girlfriend exposed him, tell the girlfriend

  43. sayodityodit
    May 30, 2012

    You know the man have his woman and u want him to leave her for. And what makes u think if he leaves her for u he won’t leave you for someone else? Mister self not easy he has his woman and he came after you just a pity you fell for it. Time to look for your own man.

  44. VEE
    May 30, 2012

    WELL U SORT!!!! :-D :-D :-D :lol: :lol: :lol:

  45. ME
    May 30, 2012

    :-x
    Shame on you to take the initiative to ask Bella for advice when you know too damn well what the response is gonna be.
    It’s women like yourself that cause problems in relationships and then when karma hit, you cry.
    You knew he had a girlfriend and still carried on; now because you are not getting complete satisfaction you want advice?? Give me a break :twisted:
    Take what you get, how you get it, and when you get it!! But make sure you do your homework

  46. Mamizoo
    May 30, 2012

    Girl to get over one man you got to get UNDER another.

  47. hmmm
    May 30, 2012

    Some woman doe nuh…u want to leave but thinking of all wat u’ve been thru with him and ya’ll together for just a year while he wit his girlfren..interesting..leave the man wit his woman and stop being a home wrecker…get yours!!!

    • Sugy
      May 31, 2012

      HMMMM….. I agree with you!!!! Acer Bantan Is always right… STOP FIGHT OVER ONE MAN.

  48. shy
    May 30, 2012

    You meet the man and his girlfriend in their relationship and you telling him to live her, for you.Stay their ,he is going to live her for you,sac sort.you even bold on it again.

  49. smh
    May 30, 2012

    leave people man alone, and go find your very own :lol: :lol:

  50. Bull Crap
    May 30, 2012

    Am sorry but this has got to me a made up story. I mean no one is that naive.Do you really think that he will take u serious. Let me explain something to you from a guy point of view.

    No guy is going to take u serious when u knowing he has his woman decide to be with him.

  51. Suga & Spice
    May 30, 2012

    why yu want the girl man 4 get your own!!!

  52. I does vex wi
    May 30, 2012

    Girl u too damn bold after u with the woman man u want to tell him leave his woman wen she was there first.You wouldnt want a woman to do u tht so y u doin tht to the woman eh?

  53. Wehhhh BELLA
    May 30, 2012

    Bella i have to say that you must stop making up those foolish stories wiiii, making people think people does send you those things will youjust cooking it up in ur brain……….wehhhhhhhh

  54. Reader
    May 30, 2012

    Oh lawd! Why all the anger and hatred at confused lover? The woman just asked a question. It seems like a lot of all you Dominican women have problem with wayward men and naturaly, its the girl (other woman) that is the target! A man is not a piece of clothes or shoes. No woman can steal your man unless HE WANTS to be stolen. Hard pill to swallow but its the truth! Stupessss

    Girl – at the end of the day it all comes down to what you can live with. If you can’t take the pressure of being the other woman then gracefully bow out. If you think you can handle it, then cool. Seriously, at the end of the day, it all comes down to you and what you want for yourself.

    • Alas
      May 30, 2012

      This is one of the most ridiculous comments I have read. As women we need to know our worth. We are beautiful creatures who deserve nothing but the best. Half a man’s heart won’t cut it! I believe in true love. There is someone for everyone, and someone else’s man is not your true love. Girl you deserve someone who will always put you first. If you need him he should be able to drop everything and run to your side. How can he do that if he as other obligations elsewhere? Know your worth darling, know who you are, and stop letting this man destroy you. Go work on yourself, get some self esteem so when the man God created for you comes knocking, you will be ready for him. KNOW YOUR WORTH!

    • Girlfriend
      May 31, 2012

      BRAVO Girl you hit the nail right on the head. Go with your heart, whatever makes you happy.

  55. Hmmm
    May 30, 2012

    Believe you me.. the longer you wait the more you will think of all what you have together but in the end you will STILL leave him. So leave him now.. oh and you think it hurts now? Two years later you’ll be wondering what you saw in him. Trust me… it ain’t worth it and the hurt does go away!!!!!!!!!!! RUNNNNN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  56. Afro-Muslim Diaspora
    May 30, 2012

    Well well well,

    The hypocrisy in the Dominican society continues to show its ugly head like Bella and the other ignorant bloggers here.

    Islam is a practical way of life which looks at the overall needs of the human being on a state level. Allah says in chapter 4 of the Quran: Marry two, three or four women, if you fear you cannot deal justly with them then marry only one. If this man has the means to marry the both women, treat them with justice then what is the issue? Why the taboo? This has been practiced by most prophets in the bible. Many cultures in Africa practice polygamy so what is the problem? In the west Polygamy is frowned upon but the man is a macho by societal standards when he has promiscuous relationships? The hypocrisy is glaring!

    Advice to this confused little girl writing nonsense to Bella: Go and read some good books, educate and empower yourself, you have been the victim of a sick post-colonial diseased society! This is the site to start http://www.africanholocaust.net

  57. Jaming
    May 30, 2012

    Why buy the cow when you can get the milk free

    • Alas you slow
      May 30, 2012

      For de meat, the free manure, and for de fact that you getting ur grass cut for free when it eat de grass….DUH!!! :lol: :lol: :wink:

  58. pregnant with issues
    May 30, 2012

    find your own man… stop other people man. you should be ashamed of yourself that you even has to write to get a respond to that simple commonsense issue. some men are like doggs.. they see a female in heat they will always try and get they leg hoppin, you gotta be smart and know when some men are coming with one leg hopping lol

    • Sugy
      May 31, 2012

      Pregnant with issues: Can i ask i hope you won’t mind …(is this what happened to you?) A one legged hopper hopped you?

  59. elle
    May 30, 2012

    girl.. u really need to find someone of ur own, someone who dont have a girlfriend. the minute u put urself with someone who already has a girlfriend and he leaves her to be with you, he will do the same thing to u with someone else. stop checking the person man and find ur own…. would u like someone else going out with ur man? u need to wake up and check ur self.

  60. Mamselle sot wii
    May 30, 2012

    girl yu not easy yu expect the man to leave his woman for yu?? even if he said he would ii don’t think he will it’s better yu leave him alone n go find yurself a man yu can call your own don’t waist your time waiting for him smh doe let mr. play with yuor head get over him .

  61. Massacre Girl
    May 30, 2012

    Really? Do you really need Bella to answer that? Sorry to say but people like you have no respect for people relationship, u would not like it for yourself why do it to her, it’s obvious that u don’t care and all u think about is yourself, get your own man! :twisted:

  62. May 30, 2012

    HE CHEATED ON THIS WOMAN WITH YOU ,YOU KNEW HE HAD A WOMAN YOU ACCEPTED TO BE WITH HIM ….WHETHER HE LEAVES THAT WOMAN OR NOT HE WILL STILL CONTINUE TO CHEAT ON YOU…. WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND….MY ONLY ADVISE TO YOU IS LEAVE THIS GUY ,SORT YOUR LIFE OUT AND MOVE ON …GOOD LUCK

  63. Simple
    May 30, 2012

    Man stealer -_- women like this ehh

  64. yaw
    May 30, 2012

    if a man can leave his girlfriend for you, what makes you think that he cant leave you also for another girl? its called KARMA baby and she’s a !!!!!!!! so don’t mess with her :twisted: :twisted:

  65. too hard too long
    May 30, 2012

    Girl, you knew what you were getting when you accepted it but now that you have it, you want more.

    Why you want more? The deal was that he have his girlfriend and you agreed that he had his girlfriend and it was ok. Why you want to change the rules of the game? Girl, either you keep playing or you forfeit the game.

  66. Anonymous
    May 30, 2012

    Take it from me – A woman with a married man:

    Don’t leave what you have for what you haven’t seen. The grass is not always greener on the other side.

    Beside we were always taught in school, if you want something go out and get it. Don’t let it pass you by; especially if it’s in your hand already or in that case your undies.

    Fight for your man instead of settling for less. You won’t get a good as man beside what you have for Lord knows the others have more than two woman and the rest of them if not childish/immature then they gay and proud or gay on the downlow.

    In closing, take my advice. Don’t worry about the naysayers for people gonna talk REGARDLESS of if you’re doin bad or good.

    Thank You!!

    • too hard too long
      May 30, 2012

      So you would say you fighting for your man? The man is not yours so how can you fight for your man? The wife fighting for her man. You just there on the side.

      • Woodford Hill girl
        May 30, 2012

        And this is your advice to her? you are a side dish yourself the wife is the main course,he is not going to leave his wife women like you break up families so shut the hell up and leave the woman’s husband!

    • U too sort
      May 30, 2012

      U just sort and will remain de side woman…..when u reach old age u will stay all alone and use with no man of your own, women like u just so stupid and proud of it…..but continue stupid girl continue

    • naughty
      May 30, 2012

      anonymos what make u think dat he will be faithfull to her? y should u fight for a man dat dont want to be true to one woman? a cheater is always a cheater and the day u will be his official woman u wont never be enough for him…he will always wont to have sthing on d side…some women dat making men treat other women like trash!!…d man have his woman already let mr go!

    • ehem
      May 30, 2012

      all of allu shut up the lady placed her opinion as did you .

  67. Irie
    May 30, 2012

    Weh boy, that one refuse to realise she is de ting in on de side. Over a year, you playing Corbos, and de game cannot end yet, well babes is either you have plenty lalin, to be undercover for so long, or you like being taken for a fool. Since you letting him have his cake and eat it, why shouldn’t he? Garcon mi femme sot!

  68. me
    May 30, 2012

    you didn’t had to write to bella to know what to do, this is just stupid, you know you should leave this scum-bag alone. hands down

  69. take it or leave it
    May 30, 2012

    Well said Bella

  70. crayfish
    May 30, 2012

    a-a that dat bad,girl get yours,most time when a fella leave his woman for a next woman,it will never last long,he might just do you the same

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