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I’ve been with my boyfriend for four years and we have a six-month-old son.<\/p>\nI’ve been with my boyfriend for four years and we have a six-month-old son.<\/p>\n
Lately I have begun to doubt him. He started to act weird, doing things he is not accustom of doing; staying online late hours, shaving his private parts, getting phone calls and texts at odd hours.<\/p>\n
So I decided to test him.<\/p>\n
I created a fake Facebook account and I added him. I posted pics of a sexy girl I found through Google.<\/p>\n
He accepted almost immediately. I began to chat with him. And the conversation he had hurt me to the core.<\/p>\n
He told the fake account that he was single, he wanted to meet up with her, he had no children.<\/p>\n
He disowned me and his son.<\/p>\n
He even asked for a phone number, so I gave him my friend’s number and asked her to pretend to be the woman, which she did.<\/p>\n
One night while lying in bed playing with our son I got a text from my friend saying that he was texting her stuff about sex.<\/p>\n
It hurt so much to see that I was lying right next to him with his son and he is texting another woman.<\/p>\n
I’m lost, I have been a faithful girlfriend. I do everything for him. We make love least four times a week, I cook, I clean, I wash, I do everything I am suppose too as a woman and he turns around and cheats on me.<\/p>\n
I feel so used, depressed and unappreciated.<\/p>\n
I don’t understand why he would do this to me. I am torn because I need his help with the rent and bills and taking care of our son.<\/p>\n
I can’t do it on my own but don’t want to stay with this cheating man.<\/p>\n
Confused<\/strong><\/p>\n ………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… Once a relationship reaches the stage of distrust and mind games, there is an honesty problem.\u00a0 You may feel justified in satisfying your curiosity as to what was really going on with your boyfriend, but you did not think through your reaction to whatever you would learn to be his action.\u00a0 I take it that you were hoping that your suspicions were wrong.<\/p>\n No matter what you do, say and think towards an individual, at the end of the day, the only person’s actions that you can control are yours.\u00a0 You should never determine your worth based on what someone thinks or does.\u00a0 Never invalidate the essential contribution that you made and continue to make in your boyfriend’s life.<\/p>\n If this behaviour is something new, then it could be that he is reacting to the new baby.\u00a0 Maybe he is experiencing some feelings of discontent and dissatisfaction and even fear at his new responsibility.<\/p>\n You are hurting because you still love him.\u00a0 You need to come clean with him and let him know that you know what he has been doing and you know that he has been denying his family.\u00a0 Do not give too much details as he will start doubting you and questioning your motives.\u00a0 Make him know that you love him and that you would like to work through this.<\/p>\n If he is not willing to, you will have to let go.\u00a0 Your son needs you and your energies need to be focused in that direction.\u00a0 If your boyfriend is not content with what you have to offer, seven days of sex and even mowing the lawn will mean nothing to him.\u00a0 You need to come clean with him because that is the only place where the games will stop.<\/p>\n Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com. Dear Bella is published on Tuesdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I’ve been with my boyfriend for four years and we have a six-month-old son. Lately I have begun to doubt him. He started to act weird, doing things he is not accustom of doing; staying online late hours, shaving his…","protected":false},"author":16,"featured_media":55632,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-102596","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dear-bella"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nDear Confused,<\/p>\n