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I am 19 years old in a four-year relationship with a 25-year-old and he was my first in everything.<\/p>\nI am 19 years old in a four-year relationship with a 25-year-old and he was my first in everything.<\/p>\n
Lately he has been arguing with me a lot when we go out and his friends comment on my looks.<\/p>\n
Then he blames me for this.<\/p>\n
I try my best just to please him by putting only skinny and decent tops but that doesn’t help.<\/p>\n
He compliments on my friends’ clothes but he argues when his friends does it to me.<\/p>\n
I was forced to stop talking to all my guy friends because of him.<\/p>\n
My parents love him and often I feel I should let him go but due to their close relationship with him, I cannot.<\/p>\n
He’s my first and I cant see him with anyone else.<\/p>\n
I think he is becoming very controlling over me.<\/p>\n
What should I do?<\/p>\n
Love Struck<\/strong><\/p>\n ………………………………………………………………………………………………..<\/p>\n Dear Love Struck,<\/p>\n You are in an abusive relationship and you need to get out now!<\/p>\n Your boyfriend is controlling you and you are feeling that you cannot see him with another because you are making yourself dependent on him.\u00a0 It is good that you have kept yourself and done your first everything with your currently boyfriend, but the first is the start of many things.\u00a0 He is not your last.<\/p>\n People in abusive relationships sometimes mistake the abuse for intense feelings of caring or concern. It can even seem flattering, but excessive jealousy and controlling behavior are not signs of affection at all.\u00a0 Love involves respect and trust; it doesn’t mean constantly worrying about the possible end of the relationship. If he feels nervous or insecure about anything, then he should consider you an equal and talk it over with you.<\/p>\n Your parents will one day wish that you had told them what he was really doing if you stay in this and years from now end up at the worst end.\u00a0 Abusive relationships do not get better.\u00a0 The aggressor needs to identify the need for change and change himself.\u00a0 Let your parents know why you need to move on.\u00a0 If they like him so much, they can continue to be his friend and invite him over when they feel like it.\u00a0 However make it clear that you all will not get back together if he does not change certain attitudes that make you uncomfortable.<\/p>\n I hope you really consider that there is nothing more important than your freedom.\u00a0 Do not enslave yourself in a relationship that is not equal and engaging.\u00a0 Soon, his control will escalate to where he feels that he can beat you into correction.<\/p>\n Be on your guard and save yourself now. Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com. Dear Bella is published on Tuesdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I am 19 years old in a four-year relationship with a 25-year-old and he was my first in everything. Lately he has been arguing with me a lot when we go out and his friends comment on my looks. Then…","protected":false},"author":16,"featured_media":55632,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-103480","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dear-bella"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
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