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I am not in the best position and I am sorry if I sound disjointed.<\/p>\nI am not in the best position and I am sorry if I sound disjointed.<\/p>\n
My ex is dating my enemy and I still have feelings for him.<\/p>\n
When I first met my ex, I thought he was a great guy.<\/p>\n
He told me he loved me, that he wanted to date me, that he liked me a lot, and a whole lot of other things.<\/p>\n
So I fell for him!<\/p>\n
Then his friend who introduced us told me he has a girlfriend and now I am heart broken.<\/p>\n
His girlfriend has become my worst enemy and she is the one he is dating.<\/p>\n
I am heart broken and confused,<\/p>\n
What do I do?<\/p>\n
Confused and Brokenhearted<\/strong><\/p>\n …………………………………………………………………………………………………<\/p>\n Dear Confused and Brokenhearted,<\/p>\n You need to stop looking for self-worth and self-love from others.\u00a0 Your ex is loving your enemy. So what?\u00a0 Does that make you less of yourself because you love someone who did not love you the same?\u00a0 No…have you thought that maybe he just missed out on the best, most loving relationship that he could have?\u00a0 You should feel sorry for him that he is with someone else when you could be taking good care of him.\u00a0 Learn to let go and move on.\u00a0 Holding on to your past impedes on your future as you are making backward steps.<\/p>\n So you met a lying man and he played you…you are not at fault.\u00a0 The boy’s mamma did not raise him right.\u00a0 You need to spend some time looking at yourself, your strengths, your good qualities and loving yourself more.\u00a0 Do not define yourself by someone’s appreciation or rejection of you.\u00a0 Don’t you know that you all like different foods? Does that mean that because someone rejects broccholi it is not a good vegetable? If you are having troubles healing past hurts you will need to sit and talk to a counselor who will walk you down the path to self-love.<\/p>\n All the best.<\/p>\n Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com or news@dominicanewsonline.com. Dear Bella is published on Tuesdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I am not in the best position and I am sorry if I sound disjointed. My ex is dating my enemy and I still have feelings for him. When I first met my ex, I thought he was a great…","protected":false},"author":16,"featured_media":55632,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-107528","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dear-bella"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n