{"id":11049,"date":"2010-06-24T07:45:11","date_gmt":"2010-06-24T13:45:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/?p=11049"},"modified":"2010-06-24T07:45:11","modified_gmt":"2010-06-24T13:45:11","slug":"caught-up-between-a-bad-break-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/homepage\/columns\/dear-bella\/caught-up-between-a-bad-break-up\/","title":{"rendered":"Caught up between a bad break up"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/06\/bellaLogo49.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-11050\" title=\"bellaLogo4\" src=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/06\/bellaLogo49.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"89\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/06\/bellaLogo49.jpg 300w, https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/06\/bellaLogo49-150x44.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a>Dear Bella: I\u2019m caught in between my male friends and one of those friends\u2019 ex-girlfriend. Recently my friend broke up with his girl for some dumb reasons. He claims that he wasn\u2019t in love with her, it was just for the sex. They broke it of some time ago, and now the girl talks to me about the problem.<\/p>\n<p>She tells me certain things that I already know and I don\u2019t want to tell her that I know because she might think that I betrayed her by not giving her a heads up. On the other hand, I feel like telling my friend what\u2019s going on, but I still don\u2019t feel like telling him for the same trust purpose, but if I don\u2019t and he finds out we may not be friends anymore. I keep getting myself into these situations. I sometimes wonder if its because I\u2019m too nice. So what should I do? Also, how can I avoid getting into these situations?<\/p>\n<p>Too Nice.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dear Too Nice,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s nothing wrong giving your emotional support to those who trust you enough. Your male friend and the girl have already broken things off so why mix matters to cause more of an uproar? Simply listen to what each party has to say and don\u2019t feed neither of them information about each other. If you disclose to neither of them what they\u2019ve been telling you then they won\u2019t trust you anymore. Let your buddy know that not because he and the girl are not on good terms there is no reason you should not be friendly to her.<\/p>\n<p>However, if you feel like there is too much pressure on you to please people kindly tell them that you wish not to hear their stories and you are not the best at giving advice. Let your friends know that you hate being at the centre of a relationship that is no more and they should forget about each other, move on and give it a rest.<br \/>\n<strong><br \/>\nHave a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com. Dear Bella is published everyday. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Dear Bella: I\u2019m caught in between my male friends and one of those friends\u2019 ex-girlfriend. Recently my friend broke up with his girl for some dumb reasons. 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