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I am a 20-year -old young girl. My problem is that I am in some sort of a relationship where I think I am in love with two guys.<\/p>\nI am a 20-year -old young girl. My problem is that I am in some sort of a relationship where I think I am in love with two guys.<\/p>\n
I fell in love with this guy last year and it was an instant connection.<\/p>\n
We made it official some months later and I informed my family (at the moment he had just lost his job) but as the person I am I did not make that bother me, I still fell in love with him. He introduced me to his family and friends and a bit later down his daughter.<\/p>\n
We were moving along just fine when some sort of cheating occurred. We were both broken but still our love was stronger than that.<\/p>\n
As time went by my mom started telling me I should end my relationship because this guy does not love me. She actually went to investigate his background and found out that he is not working and so he cannot support me and besides that he have a little girl to care about.<\/p>\n
She said that her spirit did not take him and I should end this relationship or go live with him. I really did not know where all this was coming from all of a sudden.<\/p>\n
This problem with my mom lasted for some more months when my boyfriend and I had to make choices. We told her that we will end the relationship because she was not stopping at nothing to see the relationship over. So we merely pretended our relationship was over but still were seeing each other secretly up until this present time. As two different human beings in age, gender, mentality and so on this is not a relationship we planned to have.<\/p>\n
Now with all the drama being present in our relationship this other guy comes along but he is not someone new. This is a guy I always was fascinated by. We made a spark the year before but we never took it to the next level due to the fact that he is a man of principal. He is a devoted man to his work and I look up to him. He makes me look at life in a whole different way and feel differently. I have tried to get him off my mind but its no hope, I’m in love with my boyfriend but I have feelings for this other guy.<\/p>\n
My boyfriend has been bringing his past experience into our relationship and keeps telling me he does not want to loose me,but I keep telling him if he keep bringing up his past experiences, then he is making this relationship the same like the last one.<\/p>\n
Our relationship have really been on a rocky side and I have been confused for a while now, this other guy is in the system and I cant help my feelings towards him but I am still in love with my boyfriend.<\/p>\n
Now I think it is over between us, but its very hurtful at the moment. And I can just imagine the pain my boyfriend is going through. He loves me with no limits and that I know. I don’t want to end our relationship like this but I also don’t want to hurt him any longer….He knows about the other guy and I and still he loves me..<\/p>\n
I could really need someone else opinion.<\/p>\n
Confused Heart<\/strong><\/p>\n ………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….. You need to make up your mind as an adult what it is that you want in life.<\/p>\n As an adult, you should not be sneaking around having a relationship. You have to be mature enough to know that if something is good for you then you have to stand grounds on it. This is not only for relationships, but it is about having firm principles in life. Your mother or a friend or circumstances should not be bullying you into what decisions you should make. Don’t you feel that you are capable of making intelligent decisions by weighing the pros and the cons?<\/p>\n You now enter a relationship with a guy who has always “fascinated” you. You should have expected that you will only see marvelous things of him, because you have a halo around his head. This “great” guy is going to run off to a greater girl when he realizes that you act based on your emotions. I can only advise you to just stop everything now. This train is moving too fast and you are losing focus. Stop everything for a while and find yourself. Spend some time with you looking at what you want or would like for your life and what actions you need to be doing now to get there. This will include relationships. Take as much time as you need, because whether you stay with your boyfriend or move on to the “object of your fascination, one thing is sure: you need to know who you are and what you want- these men need a stable woman.<\/p>\n Love yourself first, for only in so doing will you be able to give love to others.<\/p>\n Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com or news@dominicanewsonline.com. Dear Bella is published on Tuesdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I am a 20-year -old young girl. My problem is that I am in some sort of a relationship where I think I am in love with two guys. I fell in love with this guy last year and it…","protected":false},"author":16,"featured_media":55632,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-115593","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dear-bella"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nDear Confused Heart,<\/p>\n