{"id":11923,"date":"2010-07-05T08:16:23","date_gmt":"2010-07-05T14:16:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/?p=11923"},"modified":"2010-07-05T08:16:23","modified_gmt":"2010-07-05T14:16:23","slug":"ready-for-war","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/homepage\/columns\/dear-bella\/ready-for-war\/","title":{"rendered":"Ready for war"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Dear Bella: I am at my wit\u2019s end so I\u2019m writing to you to advise me how to end this situation I am in without any violence. I have been with my girlfriend for nearly four years and over that time many guys have tried to steal her away.<\/p>\n

You wouldn\u2019t believe the different approaches; some use the sympathy approach acting like they might jump off a cliff if they can\u2019t have her. The main approach these snakes take though is the \u2018just friends\u2019 approach, playing nice boy, here to listen to her problems like I don\u2019t know their intentions.<\/p>\n

The newest one though and most amazing is this guy with the \u2018leave your man for me or else\u2019 approach. Or else meaning that he will deal with me. Now Bella I\u2019m no coward and I\u2019m not giving anybody the opportunity to take first chance on me either. So you\u2019d better give me some good advice here or I\u2019m going to beat the sh*t out of that n*gger.<\/p>\n

On the verge<\/p>\n

Dear Sir:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Stop acting like an ***. Why are you so insecure? Don\u2019t you think if your woman was entertaining them she would have been led astray already? The fact that you know all these advances on your woman means that your woman is keeping you up to date or you\u2019re following her and watching her every move.<\/p>\n

But I\u2019ll give you the benefit of the doubt: she is actually so trusting that she is being very open with you. With that, you should have no fear because it is obvious she wants you to trust her.<\/p>\n

Guys will always want to take another man\u2019s woman, but it is up to the woman to prevent that from happening, not you. Do not listen to silly threats and advances and then act on your own. If you feel threatened, then the police is there to do their jobs.<\/p>\n

So mister stop beating up yourself and get with the programme because you may end up in prison and someone gets your girl for dinner.<\/p>\n

Bella<\/p>\n

Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com. Dear Bella is published everyday. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Dear Bella: I am at my wit\u2019s end so I\u2019m writing to you to advise me how to end this situation I am in without any violence. 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