{"id":12910,"date":"2010-07-14T07:19:56","date_gmt":"2010-07-14T13:19:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/?p=12910"},"modified":"2010-07-14T07:19:56","modified_gmt":"2010-07-14T13:19:56","slug":"i-still-got-the-hots-for-my-high-school-sweetheart","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/homepage\/columns\/dear-bella\/i-still-got-the-hots-for-my-high-school-sweetheart\/","title":{"rendered":"I still got the &#8216;hots&#8217; for my high school sweetheart"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><a href=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/07\/bellaLogo425.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-12912\" title=\"bellaLogo42\" src=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/07\/bellaLogo425.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"89\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/07\/bellaLogo425.jpg 300w, https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/07\/bellaLogo425-150x44.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a>Dear Bella: <\/strong>I&#8217;m in a complicated situation where I\u2019m in love with two guys. One is my boyfriend who is almost twice my age and my high school sweetheart who is about same age with me.<\/p>\n<p>The problem is I&#8217;ve been with my boyfriend about six years now and I\u2019ve tried to be faithful, but I\u2019ve ended up going out with other guys which he has no idea about.<\/p>\n<p>I love him so much, but I fear that if I tell him the truth of my unfaithfulness he would leave me without a blink of an eye. He has said he don&#8217;t believe in giving a woman a second chance, because she should know before she gets involved.<\/p>\n<p>Now I have been in love with my high school sweetheart since six years ago. He is back in Dominica and won&#8217;t mind being with me only if I was single. I feel tie up to my throat.<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t want to hurt either one. I am in love with both of them. What should I do?<\/p>\n<p>Tie up.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dear Tie up,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ve already taken the decision to hurt your current boyfriend and I\u2019m sure eventually he will find out. It\u2019s true that temptation will come, but it is up to you to not deliberately put yourself in situations where you know you won\u2019t be able to control your feelings. Not because the opportunity affords itself you should act on these feelings, because as you stated you love your boyfriend and you\u2019re in a committed relationship. If he is not fooling around I must commend him for being exclusive to you.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re with this man for six years for crying out loud. Nowhere have you mentioned also that you are unhappy or that he is ill-treating you. I suggest if you want to continue the relationship with him you should come clean and clean up your act. Also if you know that you\u2019ll start to quiver and bite your lips around your high school sweetheart I suggest you keep the relationship restrained to \u201chi\u201d and \u201cbye.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Bella.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at   dominicanewsonline@gmail.com.  Dear Bella is published everyday. All   letters are subject to editing and  the editor has the right to not   publish an article if it does not meet  the company\u2019s editorial   standards. Also, the advice given is not  necessarily expert advice, and   is basically an opinion, therefore we  accept no liability that result   from giving any opinion. As such we  encourage you to seek the advice  of  a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Dear Bella: I&#8217;m in a complicated situation where I\u2019m in love with two guys. One is my boyfriend who is almost twice my age and my high school sweetheart who is about same age with me. 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