{"id":14183,"date":"2010-07-29T09:42:58","date_gmt":"2010-07-29T13:42:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/?p=14183"},"modified":"2010-07-29T09:42:58","modified_gmt":"2010-07-29T13:42:58","slug":"im-falling-in-love-but-hes-married","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/homepage\/columns\/dear-bella\/im-falling-in-love-but-hes-married\/","title":{"rendered":"I&#8217;m falling in love &#8230; but he&#8217;s married"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><a href=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/07\/bellaLogo4215.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-14188\" title=\"bellaLogo42\" src=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/07\/bellaLogo4215.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"89\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/07\/bellaLogo4215.jpg 300w, https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/07\/bellaLogo4215-150x44.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a>Dear Bella: <\/strong>I don\u2019t know what to do. I met this really nice guy and he is married, but the thing is he doesn\u2019t have a relationship with his wife at all.<\/p>\n<p>They live together and they have kids, but they don\u2019t have a relationship. They have been having problems long before I came in the picture.<\/p>\n<p>He is really, really nice and I think that he has fallen for me, and I have fallen for him too.\u00a0 He will tell me that I light up his life and things like that and the thing is I believe him because he is an honest man. He told me that he wants to get out of the relationship, but it\u2019s hard because of his kids. The kids don\u2019t know that he and his wife are don\u2019t have any relationship, and he is worried about them.\u00a0 I don\u2019t know what to do because I am falling for him too. I need some advice please. Thanks.<\/p>\n<p>JB.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dear JB,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Just because you claim that he and his wife has no relationship is no justification for you to get intimately involved with him. Saying that \u201cthey have no relationship\u201d does not extract from the fact that they are still married. It\u2019s true sometimes you can\u2019t help who you fall in love with, but you can take steps that will not allow you to get into deep.<\/p>\n<p>You are only contributing to this man\u2019s marriage demise. You should be encouraging and advising him to try to work things out with his wife, instead of embracing his compliments about you lighting up his life. What you need to do is to end this intimate emotional relationship with him, if it has not gone further than that, I hope, and if it has end it anyways. Besides it is adultery and you\u2019ve already opened the path for an adulterous relationship.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m sure there are many single guys out there with less drama than which you have involved yourself in right now. If the marriage should end let it not be because of anything you did.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Bella.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at     dominicanewsonline@gmail.com. Dear Bella is published everyday. All     letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not     publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial     standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and     is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result     from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice   of a   professional counselor<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Dear Bella: I don\u2019t know what to do. 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