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Dear Bella,<\/p>\nDear Bella,<\/p>\n
I am 24 years of age who still sleeps with my ex-boyfriend. We broke up over three years ago but never really stop being intimate and sleeping together. He cheated on me and got another woman pregnant, so we parted ways but never lost contact. He is very remorseful of what he has done and wants us to work things out but I only want him for sex.<\/p>\n
While we were together I never cheated on him, so his action has really broken my heart. I still love him but not enough to get back with him.<\/p>\n
After our split, I went into another relationship but I still couldn’t help sleeping with him, is like am addicted to his sex. Now that I am single he is eager to get back with me but I just can’t, I cannot be with a man and dislike his child. Every time I see his daughter it reminds me of his infidelity. Understand me, Bella, I am a very educated young woman, career driven and motivated and I want to have my own family one day. I live alone and I get lonely at nights so I rather call him than call a random guy.<\/p>\n
I believe that sex with my ex is okay because it keeps me from having sex with someone new which keeps my number level down, but he thinks we are back together which is where the confusion arises.<\/p>\n
I just want to focus on myself right now but at times I want a little company so that’s where he comes along. My friends say it’s not right in the eyes of God and I am stringing him along. I am more concern about myself and when I am ready I will find a man.<\/p>\n
Am I wrong?<\/p>\n
Confused<\/strong><\/p>\n ………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….<\/p>\n Dear Confused<\/p>\n Your body is the temple of God but from all aspects of things you’ve admitted to here; clearly, you don’t understand how precious it is.<\/p>\n The reason why an ex is referred to as that is because they are a ‘former.’ No longer. In the past. An X, if you get my drift. You need to also understand that if this X warrants your attention and even your body, he would not have cheated and even have a baby with another woman. Letting him have his way with you every now and then does not speak well of you as the “educated” woman.<\/p>\n It appears you don’t have a good self-esteem to believe that you should keep giving a man who cheated your body just because you want to keep the “numbers down”.<\/p>\n Woman, stop this practice. Say to yourself that you deserve better. Seek the strength from the Lord to move on because sometimes the devil wants us to remain in the gutter where he can laugh at our demise.<\/p>\n There are many things to get past loneliness. Read a good book. Watch an inspirational movie. Visit family. Start a relationship with God. He sticketh closer than a brother. Whatever you decide to do, don’t be anybody’s toy.<\/p>\n Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at news@dominicanewsonline.com. Dear Bella is published on Wednesdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Dear Bella, I am 24 years of age who still sleeps with my ex-boyfriend. We broke up over three years ago but never really stop being intimate and sleeping together. He cheated on me and got another woman pregnant, so…","protected":false},"author":16,"featured_media":38457,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-172782","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dear-bella"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n