{"id":173775,"date":"2016-11-30T13:48:10","date_gmt":"2016-11-30T17:48:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/?p=173775"},"modified":"2016-11-30T13:48:10","modified_gmt":"2016-11-30T17:48:10","slug":"dear-bella-loving-man-living-with-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/homepage\/columns\/dear-bella\/dear-bella-loving-man-living-with-ex\/","title":{"rendered":"DEAR BELLA: Loving man living with ex"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"dearDear Bella,<\/p>\n

I am in love with this guy for almost two years now. At first I didn\u2019t want to be in a relationship because I am afraid of getting hurt. I love him and he is always telling me that he loves me. But the thing is that his ex is still living with him and they have a four-year-old child. I ask him why is she still living with him [and] he tells me that he don\u2019t want to put her out because of the child, and it will look bad on him to put his own child out. The thing is people keep on talking about both of them will get back together one day and I am afraid of that because I love him. He makes me happy and I make him happy the same way too. I am scared of getting a broken heart.<\/p>\n

Please help me I want to know what to do.<\/p>\n

In love.<\/strong><\/p>\n

………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….<\/p>\n

Dear In Love<\/p>\n

Not wanting to end living arrangements with a woman because of a child is perhaps one of the most pathetic and commonly used excuses men use, when they want to keep their their women “inside” and “outside”. In this case you are the “outside” woman.<\/p>\n

Let put it this way. If a man wants you; nothing will prevent him from making the right decision. Clearly this man has been stringing you along for quite some time. Two years to be exact and you are either too in love or just completely gullible to see beyond the smoke screen.<\/p>\n

Remove the veil from over your eyes. If this woman is living with him it is quite possible that they are in a relationship. The same relationship that bore their child. Don’t dance to this man’s pitty party about not wanting to put her out of the house because of their child. I think two years is enough dancing.<\/p>\n

I don’t want to rain on your parade but I think it’s time to crucify your emotions and let commence prevail. The next thing you know it would be three years, four and even five years wasted on a man who may never truly belong to you.<\/p>\n

Tell this man he needs to make a choice. He has had enough years to think. I’m pretty sure that choice will not be you. You deserve better. Women deserve better. It is time we begin to take our rightful place and disconnected with men whose only aim are to bring us to levels that are less than our maker intended.<\/p>\n

Best,<\/p>\n

Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at news@dominicanewsonline.com. Dear Bella is published on Wednesdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Dear Bella, I am in love with this guy for almost two years now. At first I didn\u2019t want to be in a relationship because I am afraid of getting hurt. 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