{"id":174622,"date":"2016-12-14T09:48:50","date_gmt":"2016-12-14T13:48:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/?p=174622"},"modified":"2016-12-14T10:41:06","modified_gmt":"2016-12-14T14:41:06","slug":"dear-bella-i-do-not-want-to-be-hurt-anymore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/homepage\/columns\/dear-bella\/dear-bella-i-do-not-want-to-be-hurt-anymore\/","title":{"rendered":"DEAR BELLA: I do not want to be hurt anymore"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"DearI am in a situation where I’m with a guy that says he loves me but he still talks to his ex. He told me that he does not want to get back with her but he still talks to her.<\/p>\n

I’m not with him 24\/7 so I do not know if he meets with her.<\/p>\n

This guy and I have a lot of history together. It been three years I met him and at the time he was with her. While he was in his relationship with her, he was telling me that he wanted to be with me and he loves me.<\/p>\n

Please, I need advice because I really love this guy and I just do not want to be hurt anymore.<\/p>\n

Sincerely,
\nTired of Being Hurt<\/strong><\/p>\n

……………………………………………………………………………………………………………..<\/p>\n

Dear Tired of Being Hurt,<\/p>\n

It is clear that your issue is one of trust. You don’t trust this boyfriend of yours and that’s the first thing which must be addressed. Your lack of trust must evolve from somewhere. The thing about entering into a relationship with someone who is already seeing another is that you can never trust them. And that’s why today even if he claims that it is over between them, you just don’t believe because you were once or perhaps are, still part of the triangle.<\/p>\n

I am not going to judge this guy and say that perhaps he is still involved with this other girl and nothing is wrong with talking to an ex but if you are that worried then it appears that they are communicating more often than you would like.<\/p>\n

I could tell you to hire a private investigator to follow him around but that would be extreme or I could tell you to speak with him but you have already done that and he said they are friends.<\/p>\n

What I would advise though, is that at 24, your preoccupation shouldn’t be about a cheating boyfriend. What you need to do is guard your heart and protect yourself from situations that are not meant for your good. Sometimes our instincts about things closest to us are correct. Nothing stays a secret forever. Don’t frustrate yourself about it. The answer could be right in front of you. Look closer.<\/p>\n

Best<\/p>\n

Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n

Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at news@dominicanewsonline.com. Dear Bella is published on Wednesdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I am in a situation where I’m with a guy that says he loves me but he still talks to his ex. 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