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Dear Bella,<\/p>\nDear Bella,<\/p>\n
I have a monster-in-law for a mother-in-law and if I don\u2019t do something soon I might end up rolling her down my steps.<\/p>\n
You see Bella, when I married her daughter, they were always close and I admired their relationship.<\/p>\n
But now Bella, every time I come home, the lady is inside our house. Her daughter would cook and bring to her every day.<\/p>\n
When I give my wife money for groceries, she has to buy half for her mother.<\/p>\n
The mother has her own home but lives five minutes away.<\/p>\n
She also has her husband and six other children but it\u2019s like she depends on my wife.<\/p>\n
I found out my wife took several items on hire purchase for her.<\/p>\n
She would wipe out our refrigerator and cupboards once her mother asks.<\/p>\n
Bella from match sticks, butter, even the gas she would unplug and give her mother. I can\u2019t live like this.<\/p>\n
What should I do? I Love my wife and if I ask her mom to reduce her presence at my home my wife will be hurt. I feel torn.<\/p>\n
End of the rope<\/strong><\/p>\n ………………………………………………………………………………………………………………<\/p>\n Dear End of the rope,<\/p>\n The first step to your problem is speaking to your wife and explaining to her just as you have spoken out here.<\/p>\n Having this invasion by your mother in law is not good for your marriage. Clearly, your mother-in-law is taking advantage of her daughter’s love for her.<\/p>\n But your wife is allowing this. There\u2019s absolutely nothing wrong in hosting your in-laws but this what you\u2019ve just explained is taking \u201chosting\u201d to another level.<\/p>\n Your wife should have informed you that she was purchasing things for her mother. When people are married, they become one as so you should have known.<\/p>\n I take it that she was quite aware that you won\u2019t approve, hence the reason for going behind your back with it.<\/p>\n Your mother in law must begin to understand your marriage need breathing space and her daughter is no longer a child.<\/p>\n There are many right ways to show love and appreciation to one\u2019s parents. Clearly, this way is not one of them.<\/p>\n Best Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at news@dominicanewsonline.com. Dear Bella is published every Wednesday. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Dear Bella, I have a monster-in-law for a mother-in-law and if I don\u2019t do something soon I might end up rolling her down my steps. You see Bella, when I married her daughter, they were always close and I admired…","protected":false},"author":16,"featured_media":55632,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-184057","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dear-bella"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nBella<\/strong><\/p>\n