{"id":184987,"date":"2017-06-21T11:09:40","date_gmt":"2017-06-21T15:09:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/?p=184987"},"modified":"2017-06-21T11:09:40","modified_gmt":"2017-06-21T15:09:40","slug":"dear-bella-my-ex-is-blackmailing-me-over-nude-pics","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/homepage\/columns\/dear-bella\/dear-bella-my-ex-is-blackmailing-me-over-nude-pics\/","title":{"rendered":"DEAR BELLA: My ex is blackmailing me over nude pics"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"DearDear Bella,<\/p>\n

My ex is threatening to post nude pics of me online if I don\u2019t keep having sex with him.<\/p>\n

When we first met we were soooo in love. It\u2019s like I was crazy and would do anything and so he had me take several nude pics.<\/p>\n

There are some when we were engaged in intimate activities. His face was not showing.<\/p>\n

But I left him because he cheated. Now I met someone I love and my ex is threatening to publicly embarrass me.<\/p>\n

He blackmailed me and I gave him what he wanted a few times but he keeps using my fear to take advantage of me.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to lose my current boyfriend but I cannot continue to be blackmailed like this.<\/p>\n

Plus, I feel like I am cheating on my boyfriend by having sex with my X like that. What should I do?<\/p>\n

Blackmail<\/strong><\/p>\n

……………………………………………………………………………………………………………….<\/p>\n

Dear Blackmail,<\/p>\n

Let me first start by saying I understand what you\u2019re going through because I suffered a similar situation.<\/p>\n

Only it was a guy who told me I should sleep with him else he would tell my dad I had a boyfriend.<\/p>\n

My dad wasn\u2019t easy.<\/p>\n

Anyway, I told him to go right ahead. Similarly, I am telling you, tell this pathetic ex of yours to go ahead.<\/p>\n

Now you need to come clean with your current boyfriend and if he loves you enough, he will understand and see past this mistake that you\u2019ve made.<\/p>\n

Secondly, there are laws against such acts and at least you have that\u00a0going in your favor.<\/p>\n

Posting nude pics of someone is against the laws. The same punishment applies for those who share these photos\/videos.<\/p>\n

Pray for your ex that he turns from his wicked ways and pray that karma doesn\u2019t come back and bite him in the rear. Free yourself from this bondage.<\/p>\n

And if he decides he is above the law and shares your nude pics, then this too shall pass.<\/p>\n

P.S try not to take nude pics of yourself for anyone. Not even your husband. Tell your husband you\u2019re better looking in the \u201creal\u201d.
\nCheer up.<\/p>\n

Best<\/p>\n

Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n

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