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Dear Bella,<\/p>\nDear Bella,<\/p>\n
My girlfriend is very beautiful but she is uneducated.<\/p>\n
Before you criticize me understand that I have tried to get her to do things like adult education, online learning, all of that.<\/p>\n
I told her that I was the one who will pay because she\u2019s a cashier at a small shop in town and that really cannot make the grade.<\/p>\n
I say this because I am about to pop the question.<\/p>\n
Now once we are married a lot will change. Meaning shared financial responsibilities and I don\u2019t want to be the one carrying that load alone.<\/p>\n
Besides, I don\u2019t like seeing my wife sweat at that job for small change.<\/p>\n
I have tried to get her to further her education even doing her CXC over. But she seems comfortable where she is.<\/p>\n
I don\u2019t want this to cost me my relationship because I love her but I won\u2019t marry a woman with that attitude.<\/p>\n
What should I do?<\/p>\n
Uneducated<\/strong><\/p>\n ——————————————————————————————–<\/p>\n Dear Uneducated,<\/p>\n There\u2019s a saying, \u201cyou can bring the cow to the well but can\u2019t make it drink the water\u201d.<\/p>\n And in this case, this is what applies. You can make suggestions and beg your girlfriend to further her studies or take courses to right the wrongs in her education.<\/p>\n But if she\u2019s not willing then she won\u2019t. This is something you have to begin to accept.<\/p>\n Maybe she is comfortable with where she is in life. You can\u2019t make a person change unless they want to.<\/p>\n I see the concerns you have with taking the relationship to the next level. Any rational thinking person would have these concerns unless you are very wealthy and don\u2019t need that kind of support in marriage.<\/p>\n Sometimes, things happen in our relationships as a reminder than perhaps our partner isn\u2019t for keeps.<\/p>\n Weigh your options. Balance the scale. Look at the pros and cons, then you decide on the way forward because facts will remain facts no matter how you shift it.<\/p>\n And the fact is, your girlfriend isn\u2019t serious or ready to elevate herself.<\/p>\n Best<\/p>\n Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at\u00a0news@dominicanewsonline.com.\u00a0Dear Bella is published every Monday. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that results from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Dear Bella, My girlfriend is very beautiful but she is uneducated. Before you criticize me understand that I have tried to get her to do things like adult education, online learning, all of that. I told her that I was…","protected":false},"author":16,"featured_media":55632,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-199587","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dear-bella"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n