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Dear Bella,<\/p>\nDear Bella,<\/p>\n
My ex’s new wife is not allowing him to take care of his child properly.<\/p>\n
She has influenced him bigtime. While me and him were together he was also dating her. But I didn\u2019t know.<\/p>\n
Anyway, I got pregnant and when I found out about them I left him. I didn\u2019t want to be in any triangle.<\/p>\n
He decided that he will always take care of his son and he remained true to that.<\/p>\n
But these days I find the money has been decreasing and even the times he and his son spend together has been minimized.<\/p>\n
Whenever I call the house she always finds a reason why he can\u2019t come to the phone.<\/p>\n
When my son goes over on weekends he tells me she treats him badly.<\/p>\n
I have spoken to the man about it but he says I\u2019m just jealous.<\/p>\n
The woman would send me nasty messages on Facebook and Whatsapp. A recent one was \u201cyou dressing up and buying cloths with the money he gives you for child support but it will stop\u201d.<\/p>\n
Honestly, my son\u2019s dad is well off. So, he would give me about 800 a week and yes, I spend it on myself too because I need my \u201csahleh\u201d.
\nAfter all, he\u2019s the reason why I am a single mom and he married someone else.<\/p>\n
So now I get $500 a week. That\u2019s unacceptable. And I know she\u2019s the reason. So, I need to know how to go around it.<\/p>\n
My son is 9 years old.<\/p>\n
BabyMamaDrama<\/p>\n
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Hello BabyMamaDrama<\/p>\n
$800 a week is more than the legal child support requirement. Be thankful.<\/p>\n
That amounts to $2,000 a month. Some people have to work two months to make that kind of money.<\/p>\n
If you challenge the situation you could be down to $175 a week which is what is allowed by the laws in Dominica.<\/p>\n
You admit that you spend the money on yourself too. You are not this man\u2019s responsibility so I would think a responsible mother would at least save a buck or two for your son to cater for \u201crainy days\u201d.<\/p>\n
I don\u2019t know what is \u201csaleh\u201d but I\u2019m thinking it\u2019s something like \u201cpay me for the time I spent with you?\u201d<\/p>\n
I am sure if I am wrong-my readers here will correct me in the worst way.<\/p>\n
All I am saying is that accept the child support money and be thankful and wise in your spending.<\/p>\n
If this man\u2019s wife already hates you, any contention about child support money could put you further down the receiving end than up.<\/p>\n
Be wise.<\/p>\n
Best,<\/p>\n
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