{"id":215291,"date":"2019-03-08T07:43:03","date_gmt":"2019-03-08T11:43:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/?p=215291"},"modified":"2019-03-08T07:47:18","modified_gmt":"2019-03-08T11:47:18","slug":"dear-bella-i-put-my-cheating-husband-out-now-his-family-blaming-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/homepage\/columns\/dear-bella\/dear-bella-i-put-my-cheating-husband-out-now-his-family-blaming-me\/","title":{"rendered":"DEAR BELLA: I put my cheating husband out; now his family blaming me"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"Bella,<\/p>\n

I have a serious issue. Two years in a row my husband vanishing during the carnival and that ain’t funny at all.<\/div>\n
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Last year same thing happened. He said he made a day break from jouvert and he came Monday night at the end of carnival.<\/div>\n
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He stayed home the Tuesday. But Bella I recalled that Mister never look like he was in carnival.\u00a0 Not sweaty. Not messy. Nice and clean. Anyway I let that pass.<\/div>\n
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This year now, he decide well, he going jouvert. I say well let’s go.\u00a0 He refuse to have me come telling me is he and his boys.<\/div>\n
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I say well ok. Bella you not hearing, I never see the man until Ash Wednesday early morning? Just in time to go work? And the same boys he say he making day break with, asking me for him.<\/div>\n
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Bella I not no sot. I never watched him or talk to him when he came home Wednesday but as he left for work, I packed his clothes.<\/div>\n
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He came home around 6 and saw all his\u00a0 clothes on the porch. He ask me what is that about.\u00a0 I never answer. Anyway he took them and left.<\/div>\n
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Now his entire generation blasting me on Facebook and whassap saying I’m no good and I put my husband outside after he gave me everything.<\/div>\n
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Am I wrong? Am I to feel bad? Because I honestly don’t feel I did anything wrong.<\/div>\n
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Even if a man gives you everything must he two time you?<\/div>\n
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Well Bella I say let him go and stay where he slept two nights.<\/div>\n
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Estranged Wife<\/div>\n
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Hello Estranged Wife,<\/div>\n
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You made your decision based on what you felt you needed to do. It is clear that you don’t need much explanation from your husband about his whereabouts.<\/div>\n
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Why would a man lie about being by friends? That’s creepy and it seems like an excuse a cheating man would make.<\/div>\n
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His family aren’t the ones in the kitchen so they wont feel the heat you’re feeling.<\/div>\n
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Sometimes women especially have to take bold steps to get respected. And men too.<\/div>\n
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If the marriage is to be mended then there must be openness, trust and especially forgiveness.<\/div>\n
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Talk to a close family friend or your church leader about it in case of reconciliation.<\/div>\n
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Bella<\/div>\n
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