{"id":233757,"date":"2019-08-24T21:25:11","date_gmt":"2019-08-25T01:25:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/?p=233757"},"modified":"2019-08-24T21:25:11","modified_gmt":"2019-08-25T01:25:11","slug":"dear-bella-the-child-is-not-my-son","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/homepage\/news\/dear-bella-the-child-is-not-my-son\/","title":{"rendered":"DEAR BELLA: The child is not my son"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-37481\" src=\"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/06\/dear-bella2.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"89\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/06\/dear-bella2.jpg 300w, https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/06\/dear-bella2-150x44.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>Bella,<\/p>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">I have a problem.\u00a0 The child I fathered for 15 years may not be mine.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">When I met my now wife, she was a bit promiscuous and I decided to settle down with her because she was just a victim of men who let her down.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">She&#8217;s a wonderful person and she&#8217;s been a good wife to me.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">I found it strange she got pregnant maybe the first few weeks after we started intimacy.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Anyway, as the boy started to grow, I realize his features don&#8217;t resemble mine.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">He has nothing of me Bella and only my wife&#8217;s nose.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">I hear people in the village make remarks but I didn&#8217;t bother.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Now it&#8217;s bothering me.\u00a0 I want to bring up the matter with her but it could put my marriage under pressure.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Someone told me secretly take the boy for a paternity test but I don&#8217;t know.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Any advice?<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Troubled Dad<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\n<hr \/>\n<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Troubled Dad<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">You need to sit with your wife and address this very sensitive but serious matter.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Your concerns are legitimate but as you said, matters like that can put a strain on relationships if they aren&#8217;t handled properly.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Taking the boy for a paternity test without the knowledge of your wife could be the wrong approach.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Let it be something the both of you decide together because from your letter I don&#8217;t sense that there exists any contention between you two.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">The thing about doubt and uncertainty is that it can cause you to live in misery for all your life. However, on the other hand, knowing (even if it hurts) offers a sense of peace and closure.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Let your wife know what your concerns are and move ahead from there.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Best,<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Bella<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Bella, I have a problem.\u00a0 The child I fathered for 15 years may not be mine. 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