{"id":240319,"date":"2019-11-26T16:15:10","date_gmt":"2019-11-26T20:15:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/?p=240319"},"modified":"2019-11-26T16:15:10","modified_gmt":"2019-11-26T20:15:10","slug":"dear-bella-things-are-not-the-same-since-i-cheated-on-my-boyfriend","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/homepage\/columns\/dear-bella\/dear-bella-things-are-not-the-same-since-i-cheated-on-my-boyfriend\/","title":{"rendered":"DEAR BELLA: Things are not the same since I cheated on my boyfriend"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n

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It has been about four years since my boyfriend and I have been together.<\/p>\n

Well, we broke up for about three months ago because I had an affair. However, I ended it and we decided to get back together.<\/p>\n

Now ever since we have gotten back together, nothing has been the same. His behaviour has changed.<\/p>\n

He no longer takes pictures [of us] together and posts them on social media, invites me out with his friends or family, or even just ask me to be his plus-one.<\/p>\n

I feel like that’s something I can’t force him to do with me, and I understand that his friends’ time is time for himself.<\/p>\n

But if he says he sees me in his life in the future, don’t you think he’d bring me \u2013 his girlfriend, to family dinners or even friends’ outings?<\/p>\n

I really am trying to understand why he is so distant and he no longer displays any public affection.<\/p>\n

Things are just so cold.<\/p>\n

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Not invited<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Hello Not Invited,<\/p>\n

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I think his behaviour might be about your history as a couple.<\/p>\n

It’s possible that social media became more complicated for him when he found out you were cheating? Men are very sensitive even if they pretend not to be.<\/p>\n

He is probably still dealing with uncertainty about you and isn\u2019t about to take any chances, just in case someone is still in your life.<\/p>\n

It could be a case of trying to protect himself from shame and embarrassment. I don’t know.<\/p>\n

It sounds like that’s the more productive thing to think about \u2013 whether you’ve both recovered from whatever it was that broke you up.<\/p>\n

It’s time to talk about how you’re feeling and why it is he is just not the same anymore. It’s the best way to answer those other questions.<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Bella\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Bella   It has been about four years since my boyfriend and I have been together. Well, we broke up for about three months ago because I had an affair. 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