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I am a 27 years old lady. My boyfriend is a year younger than me.<\/p>\nI am a 27 years old lady. My boyfriend is a year younger than me.<\/p>\n
We have been together for 4 years..we did everything together..we were very happy together untill my he cheated.<\/p>\n
I have done alot for him, hurt myself for him, but when he cheated I realized my efforts had gone in vain.<\/p>\n
After thinking about our situation I figured it was best we spoke about it and get over it..but it wasnt so simple as I thought.<\/p>\n
He rejected me, real rejection, turned\u00a0 his back on me when I was in tears on bended knees, begging to work things out. He told me to forget about him because he loved the girl and won’t lose her because of me. I cried my heart out. There was nothing else that i could do. We broke up, and 2 weeks later he accepted me back.<\/p>\n
I thought he had realised his mistake and decided to change but that wasnt so. Days later he was found with her again and when i confronted him he asked me if I am not happy he took me back. So I decided that I should just walk away.<\/p>\n
So we broke up again. Weeks later he came back to me in tears, begging that i give him another chance. He made me promises, everyone told me to give him another chance. I did. I hoped that I would forgive and forget, and love him again but even if we were together I feel myself moving away from him.<\/p>\n
I enjoyed sex with him alot and its interesting that now I sometimes find myself crying during sex, or even when he kisses me. Sometimes I go crazy to see him but then the sight of him gets me depressed. I don’t like going out with him because I amfearful some other woman embarrass me because of him. I used to talk about him so much but now i am no longer proud of him.I have tried asking him to seperate, but he just won’t go away. I don’t want to hurt him but I want to find joy again. I am not happy with him.<\/p>\n
Confused<\/p>\n
Dear Confused,<\/p>\n
There is an old saying that goes “once bitten, twice shy.” And that is exactly what you are going through in this relationship. Your boyfriend cheated on you, rejected you when you needed him the most despite the fact you had done so much for him. Furthermore he told you that he loved the girl he cheated with and don’t want to lose her. This alone show you the way he is thinking.<\/p>\n
Since you have been so badly hurt, I think it is time to move on. The relationship is not working. You cry when you have sex with him or even when he kisses you. The sight of him depressed you and you are not happy. Somewhere in the back of your mind you think he will cheat again in the future and your could be right.<\/p>\n
If you are not happy, it doesn’t make sense staying in the relationship. Be honest with yourself and tell him that it is just not working and it is time for both of you to move on.<\/p>\n
Bella<\/p>\n
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