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Dear Bella,<\/p>\nDear Bella,<\/p>\n
I’m writing on behalf of my curiosity, not so much to seek advice but to peek the interest and get feedback\/ views from your many readers.<\/p>\n
I am approaching my 20’s and have never had a boyfriend or been in any sort of amicable or intimate relationship with any guy. However at present I am considering the idea of entertaining one of the many suitors who have been trying to get my attention, but my hesitance to pursue any sort of relationship with the opposite sex is because of the experiences\u00a0 I have had witness to, where a man would do anything in his power to get a woman and once he gets her and has her under his wings he somewhat loses appreciation for her and in most times hurt that very same woman that he promised never to hurt by cheating on her..<\/p>\n
Bella I would love if you and your readers could shed some light for me on “why men cheat”. I write to you because\u00a0 this is a free and open forum where people can openly express their opinion and share their views using an unknown identity.<\/p>\n
Those of you who have been cheated on, have cheated or have intentions to, married or single please, help me make some sense of why men cheat.<\/p>\n
Most of the men who do cheat have good women at home or in their life, working hard and\u00a0 putting real effort into the relationship, women who treat them right and make them happy, the type who has things in order and keep them in check and knows how to “get it on” in the bedroom, the one they claim to love and can’t leave without and yet they still cheat.<\/p>\n
Some of these men are good men but they end up doing such a bad thing like cheating, why?. Please help me Bella and friends (readers), to somewhat have a reason to look forward to being in a relationship be it now five or ten years from now.<\/p>\n
Really appreciate it.<\/p>\n
Curious One<\/p>\n
Dear Curious One,<\/p>\n
Why men cheat is a very difficult question to answer but let me make it clear that men are not the only ones who cheat. Please keep that in mind.<\/p>\n
I ran into an article some months back on the same issue. Points from the article is posted below. Hope this helps. I am sure readers will have their own opinions also.<\/p>\n
According to the article, here are the top 10 reasons why men cheat:<\/p>\n
1. Because they had the option. The old saying ‘men are only as faithful as their options’ can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down.<\/p>\n
2. It boosts their ego. Sometimes men don’t feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex any more and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. There’s nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt. When they are finally rewarded for their efforts, their egos swell even larger.<\/p>\n
3. You grow apart. Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought. He’s met a woman who has more in common with him who loves football or plays golf. He may check out if he is compatible with her under the sheets also.<\/p>\n
4. You argue a lot. Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something.<\/p>\n
5. He’s fallen out of love. Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get.<\/p>\n
6. Your sex life sucks. If a man has a disinterested partner or isn’t getting enough sex to fulfill him, there is a good chance he will have an affair. Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not mean you can stop trying. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your sex life from getting boring and non-existent. Some men cheat because they want to try new sexual things that their current partner will not try.<\/p>\n
7. To get revenge. A man will sometimes cheat if he finds out his partner was cheating on him. How else is he supposed to heal those hurt feelings of his but through good old fashioned sex’<\/p>\n
8. It’s new, different and exciting. Some men get tired of having steak for dinner every night and want to try a hamburger. The same goes for sex with a woman. That’s why men don’t necessarily always cheat with women who are more attractive than their partners.<\/p>\n
9. To see if they can get away with it. If a man has the attitude of ‘what she doesn’t know, won’t hurt her,’ he may cheat to see if he is sneaky and smart enough to get away with it. However, with all the advancement in surveillance spy ware, getting caught has now become easier than ever.<\/p>\n
10. Because you have allowed it in the past. If you have forgiven a cheating man a couple of times, they are more than likely going to cheat again because they already know if they plead enough, you will forgive them.<\/p>\n
Bella<\/p>\n
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