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I met this guy eight years ago when I was 19 and he was 27(I am now 27 he is 35). He told me that he had an 11 year old girl and that he had her when he was in high school.<\/p>\nI met this guy eight years ago when I was 19 and he was 27(I am now 27 he is 35). He told me that he had an 11 year old girl and that he had her when he was in high school.<\/p>\n
We were just friends and remained friends. We both got married since and I had two kids.\u00a0 Both of us have since been divorced. We were in touch for the most part during our marriages but began talking more frequently after the divorces. We always called each other sweet little names.<\/p>\n
One day when he called me by a certain name and I responded. He told me that I should be careful what I say because he always liked me and still do. Now he is asking me to be his significant other! I like him but at the same time scared that I may be a rebound girl or that our friendship gets messed up.<\/p>\n
What should I do?<\/p>\n
Anonymous<\/p>\n
Dear Anonymous,<\/p>\n
You need to take time out to examine your feelings towards your friend because in your letter you use the word ‘like’ and never ‘love.’ Many people think that there is no difference between like and love but there is a difference. Like and love are two completely different things.<\/p>\n
When you like somebody your just getting to know that person and trying to figure out if there is something more between the two of you. Like is not as deep as love is, Like is just like making friends. You don’t know if the two of you are going to grow to be the best of friends or discover that you really don’t like that person as much as you thought you would. I don’t really think that you can lump together like and love because they are so different.<\/p>\n
Take into consideration friendship is generally a solid basis for a good marital relationship. You always hear people who have been married to a long time refer to their spouses as\u00a0 their “best friend.”<\/p>\n
So take your time as you go through this, take into consideration the length of time you have been divorced. Divorce is always a messy thing and it leaves many scars. Let the scars heal because you don’t want to bring in baggage into any new relationship.<\/p>\n
Bella<\/p>\n
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