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I have been seeing this guy for five years now, I am now 17 years old and he is now 47 years old. We\u2019ve enjoyed each other in every humanly possible way. He is the first man I have ever been in love with; I was young and he was and is still adorable in everyway. The sexual chemistry between us is so intense that I am unable to explain it. I feel like my world evolves around him. Bella, if this man asks me to stop breathing maybe I would attempt it.<\/p>\n
From the very beginning I knew he was the man for me and I have always wanted to be some part of his life. I sleep over at his house sometimes. I tell my mom and dad that I am going to sleep over by a friend but instead I go over by him. He takes real good care of me; breakfast in bed, rubs and kisses my back while I sleep. I know one of his two daughters; we attend the same high school and take the same bus after school class. We even joke sometimes, she knows that I know her dad, but she does not know the depth of our relationship.<\/p>\n
He is not rich or anything, but the way that he treats me makes me like the richest woman. Now, I am not looking for a father figure because I grew up and I am still living with my mother and father at home. My family has always been supportive of each other and I have never seen my parents in any major fight or quarrel. In fact they kiss each other every morning before leaving for work.<\/p>\n
Lately, my boyfriend and I have been having serious discussions about getting married and having a baby together as soon as I am done with high school.<\/p>\n
Look, I have considered further education after high school, but as we all know in this modern world a child no longer prevents its parents from furthering their education. So having a baby is not an issue when coming to being tied down with a child.<\/p>\n
I really, really love my man and I know that the way I feel about him is not infatuation, but the real thing. When he calls and every time before he hangs up he says \u201c I love you, baby.\u201d<\/p>\n
Now, Bella my boyfriend has been a long-time family friend and we do not know how to approach our families about our relationship. My parents will be so mad and so will his daughters but we love each other deeply and plan on spending the rest of our life together. We no longer want to hide our love for each other. We just want them to accept us and understand even if they don\u2019t like it. Please help me on how we should approach them.<\/p>\n
In Love<\/p>\n
Dear In Love
\nThe decision to expose your relationship is an honest thing to do. However you should be prepared for the consequences. It will affect your relationship with your parents and his with your family. Your parents will feel deceived and betrayed by both of you. It will be difficult with your parents because they trusted you and you broke that trust.<\/p>\n
Marriage may sound appealing, but are you ready to devote yourself to one man and at such young age? Are you ready for this lifetime commitment? Will you be comfortable in society, around your family, among your friends with this man you are in love with? Secrecy makes it alright, however, in the open we encounter reactions and interactions which can make us face the reality of our situation.<\/p>\n
Having a child is a huge responsibility which changes every aspect of your life. Are you ready for the level of commitment parenting requires emotionally and psychologically? A willing father is not the only factor to consider. Balancing studies and a child has implications which you may not be able to cope with.
\nBe wise and consider all the above because these decisions can and will change your life forever in ways you may perhaps not be ready to deal with.<\/p>\n
Bella<\/p>\n
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