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I am a married woman in my early 30\u2019s. I have been with my husband for about nine years, and we have two wonderful children. My problem is that my husband is lazy. Out of our monthly expense I pay at least 75 percent and my husband is quite contented with that.<\/p>\n
I tried talking to him about getting a better job or a part time job but he is very stubborn and don\u2019t want to do anything else. This is putting a huge strain on our marriage and I am to a point where I am ready to tell him to hit the road, because I fell as if I am a single mother.<\/p>\n
I no we took a vow for better or for worst but the worst is getting to hard for me to bear. I have been taking care of him for so long I think is time that I start taking care of myself. I have the responsibility of being the mother to our kids as well as the bread winner for the family. Do you think I should kick him out?<\/p>\n
P.S. Bloggers help me out here I am just so tired and frustrated.<\/p>\n
Sincerely
\nTired & frustrated.<\/p>\n
Dear tired and frustrated,<\/p>\n
It can be frustrating to bear the burden of maintaining the family especially when you have a counterpart to assist. This task should be done in collaboration for the welfare and happiness of all the members of the family.<\/p>\n
Your husband\u2019s satisfaction with his contribution to the family may not simply be as a result of laziness. If this is the case, you need to talk to him and help him feel like a man so that he can take control of the affairs of his family. Talking should not involve blaming and accusing, it will only make the situation worse. Counseling can help to uncover the underlying issues.<\/p>\n
Having tried counseling and there is no change or even a compromise then that leaves you with no choice but to leave. You cannot be working yourself to death at this age.<\/p>\n
That man needs an awakening.<\/p>\n
Bella<\/p>\n
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