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My boyfriend of seven years has just broken the news to me that he isn’t sure what his feelings about our relationship are.<\/p>\nMy boyfriend of seven years has just broken the news to me that he isn’t sure what his feelings about our relationship are.<\/p>\n
He has cheated on me constantly from the start of the relationship and although I know I should have left him long ago, I didn’t. We have one child (still a baby).\u00a0 He said he is not sure what he wants, not sure if he wants to be in the relationship, but he is not breaking up with me.<\/p>\n
He said he just needs space to figure out what direction he wants his life to head in.\u00a0 He wants to remain close because of our child and because he says he still loves me and has no negative feelings towards me.<\/p>\n
Should I wait to see if he still wants the relationship or should I leave?\u00a0 I have mixed feelings because of our child, I want him to be raised in a family that consists of mom and dad.<\/p>\n
Besides his cheating he doesn’t treat me badly.\u00a0 Although I work and I am very independent he also plays a significant role financially in our household finances.<\/p>\n
Confused<\/p>\n
Dear Confused,<\/p>\n
One word that keep recurring throughout your letter is the word “cheating.” Apparently it is heavy on your mind and is causing some level of distress. Cheating is the ‘great destruction’ of relationships and if he has been doing constantly, I see red flags and danger signs.<\/p>\n
It is difficult to imagine that after seven years in a relationship and a child, your boyfriend still isn’t sure about his feeling towards you. Seven years is a long time to sift through a relationship and see whether it is workable or not. After seven years, what is he waiting for?<\/p>\n
It is time you start thinking alternatives. Don’t let the baby hold you back. Many people have fallen into the trap of that children make relationships and that is not the case.<\/p>\n
Bella<\/p>\n
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