![\"\"](\"http:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/dno\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/05\/Dear-Bella-pic4.jpg\" "\\"Dear")
My boyfriend and I are together for only a year. I love and respect him. He is twice my age but age doesn’t really matter to me. In the past he has been cheated on and I feel that he is insecure. I enjoy every second i spend with him although I can be a prick. He always asks me if I love him, I truly do.<\/p>\n
He’s my coach, my boss, my adviser, and my lover. I also see him as a dad, one I didn’t grow up with. Lately, I realize he is always in his phone, always busy, work has him caught up, he doesn’t call or text, he gets real mad with me during training, and gets vex when I’m on the phone or when I speak to boys.<\/p>\n
Once whilst he was in his bathroom I went through his phone seeing naked pictures of another woman, one of whom I considered a dear friend because we play for the same team. I haven’t mentioned this to him and I am afraid to. This may end our relationship and I don’t think i can do without him.<\/p>\n
Her attitude towards me now at games and practices all changed. I must say that I defend her like she’s on some other team now. Bella, I thought of leaving, ignoring not texting, and at the end of the day it can’t work out. I won’t say I’m obsessed but I’ve never been like this before.<\/p>\n
No one has cared for me this much, I have completely transformed. I was a shy person, always to myself, easy to cry and was always bullied. Now, I stand up for my own self, I dress properly, guys wanna go out with me, wanna be with me. But I’m not a cheating type so I just ignore them knowing I have a relationship. I need help, really, really. Don’t want any cheater but can’t do without this one.<\/p>\n
Confused.<\/p>\n
Dear Confused,
\nYour suspicions led you to invading your boyfriend\u2019s privacy and this can be bad and good. It has steered you to conclude that your partner is not faithful hence you are now emotional and confused. There is a possibility that he is unfaithful and the possibility exists that he may not be, but you can only verify this by speaking to him. If you can work this out forgive him and set your boundaries because you would not like a repeat or more cheating.<\/p>\n
If he is then ask yourself a few questions to help your situation. Like \u201cdo you deserve what is happening to you?\u201d \u201cAre you able to get someone who will treat you like a queen?\u201d Once you can answer yes to both questions, you are on your way to moving on. Heartbreak is not easy to deal with but time heals and no matter how much we feel we cannot live without that person, the truth is we can.<\/p>\n
Bella<\/p>\n
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