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I am 18-year-old and have been dating a 43-year-old married man for over3 years now. He is a wonderful lover and friend. He showed me the true meaning of love. I have known this man all my life. This man has been there for me in so many ways. Every day we’ve spend together has been great.<\/p>\n
Lately we have been growing apart; we spend less and less time together, we talk less and everything just seems disconnected. I still loves him and I know that he still loves me. He has no children and we even plan on having one of our own. This man has been spending all his money ensuring that I receive my education.<\/p>\n
I love this man very much but sometimes I feel that I am still with him for the money. my parents cant effort to send me to school and he takes cares of all my school expenses. It sickens me thinking that I’m still with him for the benefits that I get.<\/p>\n
I am not a gold digger, should i leave this man or should i stay with him even if the chemistry no longer exist?<\/p>\n
Not a Gold digger…..<\/p>\n
Dear Not a Gold Digger,<\/p>\n
People enter our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. He\u2019s been in your life and played a vital role in it. Maybe the season and reason for him being in your life is coming to an end. That could explain the way you are growing apart. Some relationships end and no one is to be blamed; and when this happens we should accept and move on.<\/p>\n
If you are seeking happiness and contentment, this may no longer be the relationship for you. You are young and can find someone to love you and make happy.<\/p>\n
You may feel that you owe him because he did so much for you. A man making such an investment in a young girl\u2019s education is a big deal and you must be grateful. However being indebted to him should not be the basis on which you remain in the relationship you may be paving the way to your unhappiness and also his and it can destroy the love that you feel for each other.\u00a0 Weigh your options accordingly. Which decision will make you happy and feel complete?<\/p>\n
Bella<\/p>\n
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