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I need your advice on something. Three years ago I met this incredible man. He was funny, handsome, caring and understanding and great in bed.<\/p>\nI need your advice on something. Three years ago I met this incredible man. He was funny, handsome, caring and understanding and great in bed.<\/p>\n
We started out as friends and inevitably fell for each other. We spent two years and some months in what I would call the best relationship, but there is a twist. I was in a relationship and he was in a relationship and it was beginning to get complicated because we paid each other more attention than our significant others.<\/p>\n
Eventually jealousy came into play, we broke up and he got married, claiming that he got married because he wanted to forget about me.<\/p>\n
It was more than a year since we broke up and we were not speaking to each other.\u00a0 Almost a month ago he started contacting me telling me he misses me. And now we speak to each other every day. We are careful what we say to each other but the feelings are definitely coming back and I am forcing myself to control it.<\/p>\n
But I’m scared that when we do meet I will not be able to control it. We know each other better than anyone and I cannot afford to fall into that web. Now that he is married makes it worse.<\/p>\n
Please help.<\/p>\n
Falling fast!<\/strong><\/p>\n Dear Falling Fast,<\/p>\n I think you are definitely playing with fire here. Things have changed between you two because now he is a married man. Too many times we have young ladies destroying married couple’s relationships on the premise that the guy used to be an ex or something like that. If he was really in love\u00a0 with you, why didn’t he marry you? This whole thing about he got married because he wanted to forget you is a nonsense.<\/p>\n You should avoid this guy at all costs. Don’t fall into his I-miss-you trap. If you know you won’t be able to control yourself in his presence, just stay away. If you\u00a0 do this you will be saving yourself a whole lot of emotional trauma in the future.<\/p>\n Plus, you would not like the idea of knowing you’re contributing to the breaking up of a marriage.<\/p>\n Bella<\/p>\n <\/strong>Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com. Dear Bella is published Tuesdays and Thursdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I need your advice on something. Three years ago I met this incredible man. He was funny, handsome, caring and understanding and great in bed. We started out as friends and inevitably fell for each other. We spent two years…","protected":false},"author":15,"featured_media":37481,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-37480","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dear-bella"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n