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I am 23-years old and ashamed!\u00a0 I have this problem and its I’m a mother and still wetting the bed.<\/p>\nI am 23-years old and ashamed!\u00a0 I have this problem and its I’m a mother and still wetting the bed.<\/p>\n
I have been to a doctor for medical advice. He gave me medication but it did not work.<\/p>\n
I have a man in my life and I have been able to hide it from him for two years although it is really hard but I managed to. Now he wants to get engaged and I cannot, not until I have solved my problem.<\/p>\n
I was hoping you find something out about this. I have been thinking a lot, and wondered if its possible that it can be a psychological problem?<\/p>\n
My aunt’s brother raped me when I was six and ever since I have been wetting the bed.<\/p>\n
Is it possible that this could be the thing that is bothering me without knowing it?<\/p>\n
Kind regards<\/p>\n
The shameful mother<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Dear Shameful mother,<\/p>\n Your condition could be a medical one and nothing is wrong in seeking advice from another doctor or trying another medication.<\/p>\n It could as well be psychological and you may need to speak to someone who has the skills in that area.<\/p>\n But your problem seems to be centered around your fianc\u00e9 and I am suggesting that you tell him. It’s going to be difficult but if that man is willing to marry you then he has to love you. If you think telling him in person will make you feel embarrassed then put it in a letter, tell him on the phone. Eventually you two would have to sit and discuss it. Be brave and have faith that your relationship is solid enough to overcome this issue.<\/p>\n Have you ever told anyone about your rape experience? It is important that you tell someone about this. I am no expert in that field but somehow there seems to be a correlation between your bed wetting and that terrible experience. I urge you to see a professional counselor on this because there is a psychological aspect to this whole matter. It is very important that you do.<\/p>\n Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com. Dear Bella is published Tuesdays and Thursdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I am 23-years old and ashamed!\u00a0 I have this problem and its I’m a mother and still wetting the bed. I have been to a doctor for medical advice. He gave me medication but it did not work. I have…","protected":false},"author":15,"featured_media":55632,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-39259","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dear-bella"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n