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I happened to be in this situation. I am a young single mother who is very active in our church. Recently I was placed on a fund raising committee in which I worked with our pastor’s son.<\/p>\nI happened to be in this situation. I am a young single mother who is very active in our church. Recently I was placed on a fund raising committee in which I worked with our pastor’s son.<\/p>\n
The pastor’s son is very young but married, also with one child. One evening we were working very late on our project and we began talking about some personal matters. After a while, he began massaging my thighs. I was surprised but not shocked because some improper thoughts had been running through my mind from the time we started working together.<\/p>\n
Couple of nights later, he did the same and then began his long tale of woe: he was forced to marry so early, he wanted to become a lawyer not a pastor, he felt the church was stifling and so on. He presented this in such a way that I felt sorry for the guy and that night we ended up having sex. It was very short because he went on like he never did it before and was done within a minute.<\/p>\n
But now I realized I have created a monster because he won’t leave me alone. He calls, texts and emails me all the time and its all about sex. I am really getting tired of it because I don’t want to put my name, our church’s name and his name in any disrepute.<\/p>\n
What do you suggest I do?<\/p>\n
Sick and Tired<\/strong><\/p>\n Dear Sick and Tired,<\/p>\n Obviously some boundaries have been crossed and now is the time to pick up the pieces. Now is the time to stand on your own and let the pastor’s son know how you feel.<\/p>\n It appears that you realized you made a mistake and don’t want to repeat it and this is what you have to make clear to the pastor’s son. So first start by staying away from him or when you are working together, get someone to be around.<\/p>\n If you are afraid to confront him face to face about this matter, start by emailing him. If that fails, call him. If that also fails then it will be time for a face to face confrontation and put all the cards on the table.<\/p>\n The key words: confront, confront, confront.<\/p>\n Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com. Dear Bella is published Tuesdays and Thursdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I happened to be in this situation. I am a young single mother who is very active in our church. Recently I was placed on a fund raising committee in which I worked with our pastor’s son. The pastor’s son…","protected":false},"author":15,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26,8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-45862","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-dear-bella","category-entertainment"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n