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I am a 22-year-old from ..(name of village withheld to protect identity of writer) and have recently found myself in a dilemma. I have been dating the most amazing guy for almost six months now and our relationship is a dream come true.<\/p>\nI am a 22-year-old from ..(name of village withheld to protect identity of writer) and have recently found myself in a dilemma. I have been dating the most amazing guy for almost six months now and our relationship is a dream come true.<\/p>\n
He treats me like a queen and attends to my every need. He recently proposed to me and we plan on getting married in January next year.<\/p>\n
I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him but at the beginning of our relationship I told him that I was a virgin and we made a pact to save ourselves for marriage.<\/p>\n
But before meeting my fiance, I was far from a saint and had sexual encounters with numerous men to get the things that I wanted. One can say that he saved me from the destructive path that I was heading down.<\/p>\n
I am afraid that when we do become intimate and it is revealed that I am not a virgin he would leave me. I am in New York for a week picking up my wedding dress and shoes and I visited an African shop and the lady I spoke to gave me\u00a0 a tea that I can drink that would make me tight as a virgin.<\/p>\n
I am just scared that it will have side effects or it won’t work and my marriage will be based on a lie.<\/p>\n
What should I do?<\/p>\n
Confused<\/strong><\/p>\n Dear Confused,<\/p>\n It is always sad when situations like this occur and it makes absolutely no sense to lie and keep lying to you fiance. If you continue on that path, your marriage will be built on a lie and as the old saying goes, “Whatever is hidden in the dark, must come out in the light.” Maybe by then it will be too late.<\/p>\n So now is the time to face the hard reality and be truthful to you fiance. No pill, no cream, no tea is going to hide the fact that you are not a virgin. Stop living in an illusion and be truthful to yourself and your fiance.<\/p>\n Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com. Dear Bella is published Tuesdays and Thursdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I am a 22-year-old from ..(name of village withheld to protect identity of writer) and have recently found myself in a dilemma. I have been dating the most amazing guy for almost six months now and our relationship is a…","protected":false},"author":15,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26,8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-49317","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-dear-bella","category-entertainment"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n