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I am madly deeply and truly in love with a man who I recently found out has six children and who has been married for 20 years.<\/p>\nI am madly deeply and truly in love with a man who I recently found out has six children and who has been married for 20 years.<\/p>\n
I’m 16 weeks pregnant with his child and his whole demeanor towards me has changed.<\/p>\n
I use to get a thousand phone calls and text messages from this man and see him every single day for the majority of the day\/night. He positively refuses to talk to me at all and avoids all situations that could possibly involve seeing me.<\/p>\n
When I found out I was pregnant I went and talked to his wife which I now realize was a huge mistake for one she made it obvious that she doesn’t care what or who he does as long as she is provided for and two I destroyed any chance I had in this man being a father to my child.<\/p>\n
I am not asking for his money or even for him to be with me I’m simply asking him to be a part of this child’s life. I’m so hurt and confused by his actions and reactions or lack there of where as my unborn child is involved. My friends say just leave him alone and give him some time he’ll come around I doubt that seriously.<\/p>\n
What should I do or not to for this man to be around for our child. He is Dominican and is behavior towards this situation is outrageous to me because Dominicans are such family oriented people. What should I do please help me.<\/p>\n
Confused and Hurt<\/strong><\/p>\n —————————————————————————————————————————————————-<\/p>\n Dear Confused and Hurt,<\/p>\n If I were you I would take part of your friends’ advice, just leave him alone. You were taken for a ride by this man and he really didn’t love you. You were just another source of free sex.<\/p>\n Don’t expect him to “come around.” There is no way this man is going to leave his wife of 20 years and family.<\/p>\n Hence I encourage you to forget about this man and move on with your life. Obviously he doesn’t want to be part of your child’s life, so let it be.<\/p>\n Hope this was a lesson for you. In the future always make sure you ‘do your homework’ on the men who claim they love you.<\/p>\n Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com. Dear Bella is published Tuesdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I am madly deeply and truly in love with a man who I recently found out has six children and who has been married for 20 years. I’m 16 weeks pregnant with his child and his whole demeanor towards me…","protected":false},"author":16,"featured_media":55632,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-65367","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dear-bella"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n