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I am a young married woman with a few concerns. I’ve been married to this guy whom I have no feelings for. I don’t even believe that I love him, or what I had felt for him was infatuation.<\/p>\nI am a young married woman with a few concerns. I’ve been married to this guy whom I have no feelings for. I don’t even believe that I love him, or what I had felt for him was infatuation.<\/p>\n
He has beaten me, cheated on me and brought his woman to stay at our home when I was away.<\/p>\n
I want to ask a question, were all marriages instituted by God? Do religious ministers have rights to force people into marriage because they are courting? And what if you are not happy? Do you stay in that marriage and make your life miserable?<\/p>\n
What if you don’t feel comfortable with your partner, that person you suppose to be more comfortable in the world with? What if when you all met your partner always complained about how you don’t come on to him, and you said it will change and it never did? Was this marriage meant to be?<\/p>\n
Deeply concerned<\/strong><\/p>\n ……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… Marriage is something that is very much misunderstood. Some people think that because you are attracted to someone, you can automatically marry that person.<\/p>\n But marriage is deeper than that. It is a permanent and exclusive commitment based on deep and everlasting love for one another. So if love is not involved, the marriage is not going to work.<\/p>\n And this is the case you are involved in and it appears you were forced to marry your husband rather that you choosing to do so based on love.<\/p>\n If you were forced to marry your husband, then certainly that marriage was not instituted by God but probably by your religious minister. This has been the case of many young people who got married, only to realize that marriage is not what they were told it was. This is the reason why there is such a high rate of divorce and many broken hearts.<\/p>\n My advise is to get out of this marriage. It is not going to work no matter what. You don’t love the guy, he has cheated on you and your life is miserable. Those are a recipe for disaster.<\/p>\n Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com. Dear Bella is published Tuesdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I am a young married woman with a few concerns. I’ve been married to this guy whom I have no feelings for. I don’t even believe that I love him, or what I had felt for him was infatuation. He…","protected":false},"author":16,"featured_media":55632,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-85095","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dear-bella"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nDear Deeply Concerned,<\/strong><\/p>\n