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My mother wanted to have an affair with my boyfriend. Several times she tried to seduce him by calling him and talking to him like a lover.<\/p>\nMy mother wanted to have an affair with my boyfriend. Several times she tried to seduce him by calling him and talking to him like a lover.<\/p>\n
When all this started happening I thought she was just concerned about me but my boyfriend told me that my mother is inviting to sleep with her.<\/p>\n
I got frustrated with him because I trusted my mother.<\/p>\n
The I caught her red handed with the help of my boyfriend. I told my boyfriend to call her and put the phone on speaker.<\/p>\n
For the first time I heard her talking like a promiscuous woman. I am so devastated and shocked.<\/p>\n
I know my boyfriend did not do anything wrong but I am not sure now.<\/p>\n
Please help me to decide.<\/p>\n
Frustrated<\/strong><\/p>\n ………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….<\/p>\n Dear Frustrated,<\/p>\n I think you gave me half the story.\u00a0 Why are you now doubting your boyfriend?\u00a0 That mystery keeps me from giving you an informed response.<\/p>\n We will however deal with the situation that was highlighted.\u00a0 Why is your boyfriend entertaining your mother’s flirting and eventual invitation to bed?\u00a0 I think as an adult, he should be able to confront your mother and let her know what he thinks of what she is going.<\/p>\n Being upfront with someone does not necessarily mean being disrespectful.\u00a0 He can very calmly ask her to stop the calls.\u00a0 He can even threaten her by telling her that he will let you know if she persists.\u00a0 As long as he encourages her advances by listening to her, she will only get more crude as to what she wants because she will start operating on false hopes.\u00a0 Whatever the case, if your boyfriend is enjoying it, or not, this needs to stop.<\/p>\n You also need to open your eyes and mind to understanding what is really going on.\u00a0 You are becoming suspicious of your boyfriend and there must be a reason.\u00a0 If you are looking for a monogamous relationship (the steady), you need to know the level of commitment that your boyfriend has invested in this relationship and if what he is giving not what you have in mind, then you need to ask yourself if this is a relationship you want to continue giving time and energy to.\u00a0 Never think that you can change an individual.\u00a0 You are only guaranteed to change yourself.<\/p>\n All the best as this mystery unravels to you!<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/strong>Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com. Dear Bella is published Tuesdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"My mother wanted to have an affair with my boyfriend. Several times she tried to seduce him by calling him and talking to him like a lover. When all this started happening I thought she was just concerned about me…","protected":false},"author":16,"featured_media":55632,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-93725","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dear-bella"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n