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Right now I am in a relationship a lot of people consider to be perfect.<\/p>\nRight now I am in a relationship a lot of people consider to be perfect.<\/p>\n
But we all should know that nothings perfect. I feel trapped and don’t know where to turn or who talk to. Here’s why.<\/p>\n
My boyfriend is not a bad person in fact he is quite the opposite<\/p>\n
He is very loving and caring person and shows me in many ways everyday just how much he really loves me.<\/p>\n
But I think I am the one with the problem because no matter how good relationship is, I keep telling myself that I am not happy.<\/p>\n
It is amazing how ungrateful some people may think I am.\u00a0 This is a man that was there for me when one no one else was (this is a man I should be getting married to with no complains), he helped me in more ways possible.<\/p>\n
I will give an example I got pregnant at 19 and the father of my child, while I was pregnant, got arrested and was sentenced to do time in jail.<\/p>\n
I was pregnant and all alone with no where to turn. Then my boyfriend (now) came along and when every one was against us being together, he stood by my side, made sure I had everything I needed to deliver a healthy baby (even though he was not the father).<\/p>\n
As time past by I grew more and more fond of him, telling myself that I love him and at times even trying to convince myself that I truly do.<\/p>\n
But now after three years of being together, I just think I am wasting his time. I thought of ending the relationship many times but when I thought of how badly it may hurt him, I just left it alone.<\/p>\n
So right now am in this relationship I don’t want to be in. I talked to him about it before and he said that we could work things out and that’s what am trying to do now.<\/p>\n
But I think I need some advice.<\/p>\n
Confused<\/strong><\/p>\n …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… What are you really looking for?\u00a0 I wish you had sent us your list entitled ‘My Ideal Guy.’\u00a0 From your letter, you have a perfect gentleman.\u00a0 One who is willing to be at your side even when you want to end the relationship for no apparent reason!\u00a0 One who took another man’s debt and maintained you and your child even when he was the spectacle of public ridicule!<\/p>\n I have to be frank in identifying your problem.\u00a0 It is called ingratitude.\u00a0 You have been blessed with someone who loves you, treats you right, has taken on your child as if it is his, and the list goes on…yet you want to leave him.\u00a0 For what?\u00a0 Have you decided to spend that “alone” time furthering your studies? Spending more time with your child while you are “alone”?\u00a0 Because your letter does not indicate why you want to leave.<\/p>\n Yes, no relationship is perfect, but yours seem to be pretty near perfect.\u00a0 Whatever veil may be over your eyes and causing you not to see the good thing in your life, remove it now, and behave yourself.\u00a0 Meditate on the good in this man, and choose to love him.\u00a0 Love will not come as a feeling, but it is something that we purpose to do towards another individual.\u00a0 Learn to love good things in your life.\u00a0 Learn to appreciate your blessings.<\/p>\n Bella<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/strong>Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com. Dear Bella is published Tuesdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Right now I am in a relationship a lot of people consider to be perfect. But we all should know that nothings perfect. I feel trapped and don’t know where to turn or who talk to. Here’s why. My boyfriend…","protected":false},"author":16,"featured_media":55632,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-95516","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dear-bella"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nDear Confused,<\/p>\n