{"id":96712,"date":"2013-07-02T09:05:24","date_gmt":"2013-07-02T13:05:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/?p=96712"},"modified":"2013-07-02T11:04:23","modified_gmt":"2013-07-02T15:04:23","slug":"i-am-addicted-to-sex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/homepage\/columns\/dear-bella\/i-am-addicted-to-sex\/","title":{"rendered":"I am addicted to sex"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-size: 13px;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-55632\" alt=\"Dear Bella\" src=\"http:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/02\/new-dear-bella-thumbnail.png\" width=\"228\" height=\"228\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/02\/new-dear-bella-thumbnail.png 300w, https:\/\/dominicanewsonline.com\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/02\/new-dear-bella-thumbnail-150x150.png 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 228px) 100vw, 228px\" \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Dear Bella,<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 13px;\">I&#8217;m 17 yrs old and I seem to a have serious problem.. when I was 13, I was sexually abused by one of my teachers. I didn&#8217;t have any peace\u00a0at all in school. Everybody was saying that I was pregnant and so on. This was the man who took my virginity and the day after this happened he went to St.Vincent and never returned up to this day.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 13px;\">YES the police were involved but as soon as I reached 16, they closed the case. Now I&#8217;m addicted to sex and I can&#8217;t help it (and I&#8217;m just 17). My boyfriend is the only one I have (been having sex) with and he seems to be fedup of me .. &#8220;sigh&#8221;. I&#8217;m in a relationship with a police now and mostly every night we sleep together. My whole life is just twisted.. I used to call myself a Christian once upon a time but not anymore because u can&#8217;t &#8221;serve two masters at the same time&#8221;.. i have given up on myself and dont know what to do&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 13px;\">I need help.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>J<\/p>\n<p>Dear J<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 13px;\">I would not say that you are a sex addict. You just love having sex. Sex addicts do more than have sex daily with one partner. However, if you are using sex as a way to vent anger of your past hurts, you are continuing to let that rapist have control of you. Maybe if you had gotten justice for the unmerciful act done to you, you would easier close the door. But do not give him, this rapist, the rest of your life. Always say to yourself that the stolen moment was enough and you can now fight him in your emotions, in your mind; that he will not steal anything more from you. You will lose many good relationships because you have this baggage carrying around, so you need to deal with the root source of your pain.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>By giving up on everything, including yourself, you are allowing your rapist to steal more from you. Find something that you like to do, and become good at it. You keep repeating your age and that is because you know that you are very young. Your life is ahead of you. In order for you to move on triumphantly, you need to heal your past. I strongly recommend that you speak to a counselor or a psychologist who will help you to get over the hurt.<\/p>\n<p>Bella<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong><\/strong><strong>Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com. Dear Bella is published Tuesdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Dear Bella, I&#8217;m 17 yrs old and I seem to a have serious problem.. when I was 13, I was sexually abused by one of my teachers. I didn&#8217;t have any peace\u00a0at all in school. 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