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I am 19 years old with a baby boy and a boyfriend.<\/p>\nI am 19 years old with a baby boy and a boyfriend.<\/p>\n
We don’t live together, he lives with parents and I live with my mother.<\/p>\n
We were loving when I was going school and I couldn’t take him in no more so I ended the relationship which lasted one year and five months ago.<\/p>\n
So we went our separate ways, dated other individuals but now we we’ve been back together for a year and 8 months with a baby.<\/p>\n
Yes he is a great guy who loves his new family. He puts us first and stay without. He tells me he love me, that I am his world, life, everything.<\/p>\n
I tell him I love him to but I sometimes say it to make him feel good.<\/p>\n
I listen to people and my selfish self and now treat him negatively.<\/p>\n
I really don’t know how to describe it.<\/p>\n
Can you be of any help?<\/p>\n
Lost<\/strong><\/p>\n ………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..<\/p>\n Dear Lost,<\/p>\n Without the attraction to your boyfriend, the relationship has ended in your mind.\u00a0 So until you are willing to work and face the psychological pain and sadness required to rekindle love and intimacy, it is better to be honest with him and end the relationship.<\/p>\n The roller coaster relation is not healthy for none of you- your boyfriend, the baby or yourself.\u00a0 You need to both cut ties if this is not the relationship for you at present.\u00a0 The hurt only worsens as more energy is being put into the relationship.<\/p>\n Maybe you all will be better as friends who share the responsibility of raising a child, than you remain in this physically but your heart is far removed from the relationship.\u00a0 Your happiness will determine how effective a parent you are, so decide where you feel most happy and remember that all the people speaking badly of him now will not be there to help you up if you make the wrong decision.<\/p>\n So you need to do some inner searching as to whether you want to work this out (and be ready to work if you want something that will last) or if in your heart, this is not the place for you right now.<\/p>\n Bella\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/strong>Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com. Dear Bella is published Tuesdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I am 19 years old with a baby boy and a boyfriend. We don’t live together, he lives with parents and I live with my mother. We were loving when I was going school and I couldn’t take him in…","protected":false},"author":16,"featured_media":55632,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-98082","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dear-bella"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n