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I am a young single mum who does it all for myself.<\/p>\nI am a young single mum who does it all for myself.<\/p>\n
However for the past four and a half months I have been dating two guys.<\/p>\n
They are both pretty great guys but both have flaws. One is unemployed but is a sweetheart, the other is employed but a bit stingy.<\/p>\n
The relationship I have with both of them hasn’t developed into anything sexual but yet I am confused as to who I should be with.<\/p>\n
I care about them both but want to know who I should really take serious in terms of a relationship.<\/p>\n
They are both great with my child but am not sure if either is worth me being with because of their flaws .<\/p>\n
Sigh, I am falling for both these guys<\/p>\n
Yours truly Dear HELP!!<\/p>\n You are an independent woman raising your baby and that is very good.\u00a0 That puts you in a position where you can wisely choose something long-term based on what you really like in a man, and not based on an immediate need which may push you into a decision that you would not have made otherwise.<\/p>\n Like with any situation we face, it is always good to weigh the pros and cons and I see that you have been doing that.\u00a0 I want you to do one exercise that should help you make a decision.\u00a0 Do some self-evaluation, and make a list of what you want in a guy.\u00a0 Not the “perfect man” list, which is never fulfilled, but the “Mr Right” list.\u00a0 What man will make you tick as a woman.\u00a0 That list.<\/p>\n Your Mr Right list will help you know what you are looking for, and also what you need to do to make sure that Mr Right is pleasing.\u00a0 Mr Right has a reciprocal relationship (a two-way street), so the one that you are willing to do for as he is doing for you (not promising to do, but doing), will be the one who will be pleasing unto you.\u00a0 Mr Right may be one of your friends, or you may need to keep looking.<\/p>\n All the best finding your true love.<\/p>\n Bella<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/strong>Have a problem? Write to Dear Bella at dominicanewsonline@gmail.com. Dear Bella is published Tuesdays. All letters are subject to editing and the editor has the right to not publish an article if it does not meet the company\u2019s editorial standards. Also, the advice given is not necessarily expert advice, and is basically an opinion, therefore we accept no liability that result from giving any opinion. As such we encourage you to seek the advice of a professional counselor.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"I am a young single mum who does it all for myself. However for the past four and a half months I have been dating two guys. They are both pretty great guys but both have flaws. One is unemployed…","protected":false},"author":16,"featured_media":55632,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_cbd_carousel_blocks":"[]","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-99336","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dear-bella"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nHELP!!<\/strong>
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