Dear BellaDear Bella,

I have a problem with a prominent married Dominican woman, who is involved with my husband. I want her to leave my husband and stop sending him love notes and intimate photos on WhatsApp.

I know her husband thinks she is innocent and an angel, but that woman has caused my marriage to deteriorate and my husband and me are close to getting a divorce.

The worst part is that her husband is related to my husband.

Miss
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Dear Miss,

You seem to have left the bigger part of the problem out of your situation. YOUR HUSBAND. You want this woman to leave your husband but does your husband want to be left alone?

While I don’t and will never condone adultery, your husband is just as responsible for your problems as this married woman. Cheating is a two-way street. If your husband was not entertaining her “love notes” and “intimate photos” on WhatsApp, I am pretty sure she would have already gotten the picture.

Have you spoken to your husband? What is he saying? Have you approached this woman to seek an explanation?

After all you are not just his girlfriend. You are HIS WIFE and you will be well within your rights to seek redress in the problem.

Have you thought about taking up the matter with your spiritual leader? Or even seek counselling?

Because the information is limited, I was left hanging as to exactly how to move forward. However, from all aspects, there is a problem and the woman should not be your focus. Your husband should be.

Best of luck

Bella

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