Dear BellaEDITOR’S NOTE: After a hiatus of about two years, DNO’s popular column “Dear Bella” is back. The column will be published every Wednesday.

Dear Bella,
I am a 29-year-old man and I am virgin. I am smart, have a degree and I work at a top business place in Roseau. I can also say that I am handsome.

Women come around me and before we get to second base I freak out because of the size of my private part. I get the feeling that they may laugh because it’s not exactly the biggest thing there is and I am sure it may disappoint them.

There is this one girl that I really like and I broke up with her. I told her I wasn’t in love with her. That was a huge lie. I love her but I figure I would rather lose her love than to be embarrassed because she would not be satisfied. I need your advice.

Freaking out

Dear Freaking out,

Where I do begin. This one cracked me up, I must admit, but based on what you’re saying it is a real problem for you. There’s no rule that every man should be huge. Some of the best pleasure women have had had nothing to do with the size of the boat but the motion in the ocean – if you get what I mean.

I think you are over reacting. I’m pretty sure it cannot be that small. Be brave. If a woman truly loves you she will accept the package no matter the size. Besides, there are many other things people can do to fulfil their sexual desires before the actual act comes into play. Be yourself. Be strong. Have confidence in yourself. Best of luck.


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